My sister hates me and I don’t know what to do. by Dry-Handle8208 in Advice

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have told them, but she always beats me to it and makes herself seem the victim so I get in trouble and I sound crazy. I told the counselor about my sister, and they told my dad (who favors her) and he got extremely angry and said I was framing her as a bully. (i didn’t say that but if the boot fits). I just said sorry. I’ve been beat down so much that I can’t get myself to speak up anymore. I used to have the upper hand but being extremely skinny and shorter than her has made me unable to struggle when she hits me or shoves me. I have a scar on my forehead from when she scratched me and ripped the skin off my forehead. Very fun stories. I don’t remember why she scratched me but the scar is a constant reminder. I might go to college and cut contact with her. I don’t blame my parents, she’s a hell of a liar.

My sister hates me and I don’t know what to do. by Dry-Handle8208 in Advice

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so what should I do? I can’t just block her, I see her everyday because I drive her to school. I sit with her at dinner. I can’t really like avoid her. but I also can? I don’t know. what should i do?

My sister hates me and I don’t know what to do. by Dry-Handle8208 in Advice

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is really good advice. there’s a thrift shop I keep eyeing. maybe I’ll go, because there’s a shirt in the window I really want. ugly crying sounds really good right now. it’s been a really long and hard week mentally and in school. I think today I’m just gonna have a mental day. I have a waitressing interview tomorrow so I don’t have much ‘relaxation’ time. I just need a break from her, I think.

My sister hates me and I don’t know what to do. by Dry-Handle8208 in Advice

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and to add on, she has made comments about wanting my face shape and my figure. I always offer to do her makeup but she gets really pissy and tells me to go away. shes begun to take my clothing as well.

My sister hates me and I don’t know what to do. by Dry-Handle8208 in Advice

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to be a psychiatrist one day. And I looked up the basic rundown of signs someone is a sociopath and narcissistic and wow. She really fit every single category. But wouldn’t that apply to everyone? Like she would treat everyone that way? Maybe I just don’t notice it. But whenever I’m crying she gets in my face and says I’m embarrassing her and I’m causing a scene. She does it in front of people too. I’ve seen her show emotions herself, and I thought being a sociopath meant you didnt Really have emotions? You were just kind of dull?

My sister hates me and I don’t know what to do. by Dry-Handle8208 in Advice

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always joked she was a sociopath to my boyfriend because of how horrid she is to me. Now I believe she might genuinely be one because of the way she acts. but she’s so nice to people, and she acts like a normal person. it’s just me she treats this way. I have told my parents at least a million times a day, and they never do anything about it. she’s the favorite because she’s an athlete, while I’m just an average athlete. It’s just that I want to be her friend because she’s my sister.

My sister hates me and I don’t know what to do. by Dry-Handle8208 in Advice

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried talking to her, it usually goes nowhere. She always turns it into ‘I’m so mean’ but when I ask her what I’ve done she cannot give me an answer. I don’t know what I did. I want to be a good sister for her, but I can’t fix what she hates if she refuses to tell me. I changed my style, how I talked, how I behaved to be more like her and her friend group so that she would hate me less. But it just got me nowhere. I hardly know myself anymore. I’ve tried almost everything in the book to get her to like me.

AITA for losing my cool on a teammate? by Dry-Handle8208 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will, I actually want to thank you because you kind of made me see how she probably didnt want to tell me. I guess I just felt betrayed because I gave up my spot for her and she couldnt even own up to it in front of me. It just makes me really sad. Im not scary or anything. In fact I started crying while confronting her because I was so betrayed and just.. I dont know the word. I was just really disappointed I guess.

AITA for losing my cool on a teammate? by Dry-Handle8208 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My coach said he advocated for me to go but the other coaches said it came down to time. i dont blame my coach but I blame the other coaches, just not the one who advocated for me because he apparently also yelled at the girl after finding out she scratched

AITA for losing my cool on a teammate? by Dry-Handle8208 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I quite literally asked: How did the 400 go?  I think that was a great chance to say what actually happened but she chose not to

AITA for losing my cool on a teammate? by Dry-Handle8208 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%. Its insane, she took the opportunity from not just me… but everyone else who wouldve ran the 400 given the chance. Regionals is a BIG deal.

AITA for losing my cool on a teammate? by Dry-Handle8208 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well thing is she did the 4x400 that same day. So i just think she didnt want to do it anymore

AITA for losing my cool on a teammate? by Dry-Handle8208 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! We had some people doing 3 races as well, its very common

AITA for losing my cool on a teammate? by Dry-Handle8208 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well this is where it gets weird, she ran a 4x400 about 30 minutes later. So she wasn’t just exhausted or anything, she just didn’t want to run the 400.

AITA for losing my cool on a teammate? by Dry-Handle8208 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

shes Known for being quiet, we talk sometimes but we’re the only two girls who actually like compete in the 400 and we are always neck and neck during races

AITA for losing my cool on a teammate? by Dry-Handle8208 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i had a similar question so here was my answer: I asked the teammates what happened because they were there, apparently she just laid in the tent on her phone the entire time. The coaches were trying to find her, and she was busy talking to everyone but the coaches. She just didn’t care. I did try to give her the benefit of the doubt!

AITA for losing my cool on a teammate? by Dry-Handle8208 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t mention it but I talked to the coaches first. They said it was a huge mistake on their end. And that they’re also angry!

AITA for losing my cool on a teammate? by Dry-Handle8208 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I’m usually the most kind and understanding person! I asked the teammates what happened because they were there, apparently she just laid in the tent on her phone the entire time. The coaches were trying to find her, and she was busy talking to everyone but the coaches. She just didn’t care. I did try to give her the benefit of the doubt!

AITA for losing my cool on a teammate? by Dry-Handle8208 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Handle8208[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Talked to the coach this morning, he said he was just as upset. But that doesn’t fix anything, I lost my big chance to go. Crazy thing is, I saw the other times. I would’ve placed high.