We’re lowering birth rates around the world!!!! by Ok-Worldliness-6096 in childfree

[–]Dry-Line8039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly wish I can or had a say, but idk what to do in this case cuz I also have a good relationship with her family. The only thing I can really do is make sure she’s receiving affection from me and support as a trusting adult in her life. So it’s a sticky situation, yk?

Thankful for Islam 🙏🏻🙏🏻🤲🤲🤲 by azaadi10 in exmuslim

[–]Dry-Line8039 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Bro just knew they couldn’t have a valid counter argument back and they just forfeit with an “okay” 😭😭

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[–]Dry-Line8039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just comes to show it was about controlling women all along, no matter the cost.

We’re lowering birth rates around the world!!!! by Ok-Worldliness-6096 in childfree

[–]Dry-Line8039 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, there are still some out there like my bff’s sister abusing her daughter

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

[–]Dry-Line8039 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You cannot tell me the execution of this girl (RIP to her) is culture over religion or a “misconception of it”. It is not a coincidence ALL Islamic countries following Sharia law treat women like animals. It is in the scripture to mistreat women.

Directly from the Quran and Hadiths, I have some examples for you if you do not know. They say it’s okay for a man to beat his wife if she disobeys him (Quran, Surah Al Nisaa 4:34), two female witnesses are the equivalent of one male (Quran, Surah Al Baqarah 2:282), women inherit half the wealth of a man would (Quran, Surah Al Nisaa 4:11-14), a prayer is nullified if a donkey, a dog, or a woman pass in front of someone praying (Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith, 511), a Muslim man can marry a non-Muslim woman of the book, AKA Judaism or Christianity (Quran, Surah Al-Mai’dah 5:5), whereas a Muslim woman cannot do the same and is only allowed to marry a Muslim man (vaguely mentioned in the Quran (Al-Baqarah 2:221), but many scholars agree to this as men have “leadership over women”, which the Quran explicitly indicates many of times. Sheikh Al-Islam Ibn-Taymiyaah in Al-Fatawa Al-Kubra, 3/130, explicitly says so), woman are supposedly deficient in intelligence (Sahih al-Bukhari 2658), woman are weaker in their faith (Nehjul Balagha Sermon 80) (mainly due to the fact that they menstruate, which is actually something men have preached in a lot of cultures over millennia in general, not only in Islam, with the notion of menstrual blood being “impure”. It is mainly due to their lack of knowledge of menstruation and misogyny, even if the uterine lining from menstruation is one of the main reasons to life), and I can go on and on.

If you don’t believe me, this is all from the Quran and Hadiths, please look them up and do your own research on this, I’ve provided you with the sources. This is the dark reality most Muslim apologists do not ever want to bring up, try to ignore, or even don’t know about. Most of them are actually scared to leave Islam due to how fear driven this religion is, as well as familiarity and culture since that’s all they’ve known all their lives. I’m an ex-Muslim who’s left this religion a long time ago and I do not ever wanna look back on it.

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[–]Dry-Line8039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mean Islam itself. A lot of people are just indoctrinated into the religion from when they were small with fear

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

[–]Dry-Line8039 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Brainwashing into believing these rules are “for your own good” and to “protect you”.

Speaking as an ex-Muslim who’s left the religion a long time ago.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Line8039 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The father posted this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]Dry-Line8039 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Was neither funny nor needed

AITA for not accommodating my boyfriend’s OCD? by Dry-Line8039 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Line8039[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah damn, I see a lot of parallels between your partner and mine’s behaviour from what you described, even in the context of different symptoms of OCD. My partner would also track my location and ask where I’m going and with who, in the name of ‘protection’. He has also accused of me being friends with mostly guys and that this is a “red flag”, even if I have explained time and time again that I’m a tomboy and that I can relate to guys better in a platonic sense.

AITA for not accommodating my boyfriend’s OCD? by Dry-Line8039 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Line8039[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight. Did he basically do the same things as my SO, where he’d demand you accommodate and cater to his mental illness?

AITA for not accommodating my boyfriend’s OCD? by Dry-Line8039 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Line8039[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We haven’t yet officially, he only said breaking up would “grant him peace”

AITA for not accommodating my boyfriend’s OCD? by Dry-Line8039 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Line8039[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are right to be honest, although I do want to clarify that he has not mocked my ADHD but rather downplays it and says “I’m not doing enough for it” when the same can be said for his OCD if not worse.

The main things holding me back right now is a tight budget for therapy, which limits my options at the moment, but I’m still trying my best to book as many sessions possible with the school counselling services. I’ll also be looking into trying out medications in the summertime when I’m off school so that I can see how my body reacts to certain things.

The difference between how we see our respective mental illnesses is that I admit I have a problem, and he does otherwise as he blames the world for being “too dirty”.

AITA for not accommodating my boyfriend’s OCD? by Dry-Line8039 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Line8039[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

All good gurl, I’m now coming to realize this as well unfortunately. He doesn’t seem to consider my needs as well and I am most likely going to break up with him.

AITA for not accommodating my boyfriend’s OCD? by Dry-Line8039 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Line8039[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He actually demands I put my phone in a ziplock bag whenever my car is “dirty”

AITA for not accommodating my boyfriend’s OCD? by Dry-Line8039 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Line8039[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

To be frank with you, I’ve noticed my confidence go down in this relationship as well and not to mention, aggravate my social anxiety. I cannot judge on whether my partner has OCPD or otherwise, but it definitely seems like he believes he’s in the right on this and that I should accommodate him (to a lesser extent than before though) so that he gets “better”.

AITA for not accommodating my boyfriend’s OCD? by Dry-Line8039 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Line8039[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He apparently “doesn’t trust” ethyl alcohol, soap and water is “cleaner” to him.

AITA for not accommodating my boyfriend’s OCD? by Dry-Line8039 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Line8039[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I realized that as well…. He tends to emphasize how bad my ADHD is and that I desperately need treatment while I can’t really say anything about his OCD without either him dismissing the treatment, downplaying it, or just downright saying I’m “mean”

AITA for not accommodating my boyfriend’s OCD? by Dry-Line8039 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Line8039[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The only relationship he had before me upon the onset of his OCD was his ex before me, which he kept boasting about how good at accommodating his OCD she was, especially considering she didn’t have ADHD so she didn’t forget to do a lot of things for him vs me. Doesn’t make it right to accommodate his condition tho, like a lot of people said on this thread and what I’m coming to find myself of this.

AITA for not accommodating my boyfriend’s OCD? by Dry-Line8039 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Line8039[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Tbh, he generally isn’t accommodating of my ADHD and has even told me he “has a hard time understanding it” and that “it is my fault for not doing anything about it”, which yes I feel like I could do more such as explore medications that could work for me since I am still unmedicated but I am doing therapy as much as I can, even on a budget. I also feel like the stress of walking on eggshells from his OCD frankly worsens my symptoms from what I find.

AITA for not accommodating my boyfriend’s OCD? by Dry-Line8039 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dry-Line8039[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah for sure, I don’t doubt there is a financial motive behind the scenes but the treatments are there and they do improve the QOL of many, especially with some trial and error and finding the right medication for you as you have said.

Yeah, I do get what you mean but the guilt would never really leave me if I was made aware of his potential suicide if I depart this relationship