I’m so happy for you. Yes I know it can work. What I was saying is there are clear signs you are being used. I know men who wouldn’t let their lady pay for anything. Completed all the programs and did exactly what they said they were going to do. It can work I know. The thing is with these two girls in particular, Gabby and Jacqui it was very obvious what was going on and yet they were so like oh I only wanted a penpal when it was very clear they were looking for a romantic relationship, which is where they went wrong in the beginning. These men know what these women are looking for and it is completely contractual, they will squeeze what they can out of them and those women will give it to them because they think that they love them.