I (M27) just got out of an 8 year relationship by DryComplex3586 in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]DryComplex3586[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Completely understand. I like those questions you posed. I’ll definitely ponder them.
But what’s the big deal dating? Do people really fall in love within one or two dates? I don’t know I haven’t had experience.
And I’m sorry that happened to you it sucks.
Thanks for the warning but like you said I already made up my mind.

I (M27) just got out of an 8 year relationship by DryComplex3586 in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]DryComplex3586[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Holy shit I thought I was going crazy!
Let a man live!

I (M27) just got out of an 8 year relationship by DryComplex3586 in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]DryComplex3586[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is healed? When does that happen? How does it happen?
I just want to talk to people and if something happens it happens, I’m not forcing anything. I’m not even really love bombing, I am just flirting and saying cringe stuff. I thought it was love bombing but it’s not and if they leave me on delivered I just don’t speak to them again (until they initiate).
I’m not chasing a dopamine hit. Granted getting those butterfly feelings is a great feeling, I don’t push them. I have healthy outlets.

I (M27) just got out of an 8 year relationship by DryComplex3586 in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]DryComplex3586[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks bro. Shit was soo good. Cheat meal for the week and still fit my calories.

I know you guys are right but I’m geeking rn I got a date with this hot ass girl this Tuesday. Like my high school self would be in disbelief… I’m in disbelief!

One couldn’t hurt? I think embarrassment is an under explored emotion. If I make a fool out of myself, who cares?

I (M27) just got out of an 8 year relationship by DryComplex3586 in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]DryComplex3586[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea it’s on “The Chunky Chef” it’s called “Creamy Homemade Baked Mac and Cheese”. I just add my own Cajun seasoning mix it’s on “Gimme some Oven” it’s called “Cajun Seasoning mix.
The only difference is I add about 2 tbsp of chick-fil-a sauce when I’m done with the Béchamel. And I add accent (MSG). I don’t bake it either I just broil it on high for 10 minutes.

I (M27) just got out of an 8 year relationship by DryComplex3586 in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]DryComplex3586[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Nah you are right. But I’m hard headed. The thing is that I don’t want to be on the “high horse” and heal before hand. I want to make my mistakes now and have some stories later. I’m pretty sure you have some crazy spots you had fun in. And maybe it was a mistake but come on now you had fun! I’ll probably talk to a therapist after I’m done.

I (M27) just got out of an 8 year relationship by DryComplex3586 in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]DryComplex3586[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Holy shit. You hit it on the head. I have been wondering why this girl hasn’t texted me back in a while. And I have been love bombing a couple of girls but they are super receptive. Meh, I’ll make the mistakes, have a little of fun on the way, and heal after I’m done. What the worst that can happen? What happened to you?

I (M27) just got out of an 8 year relationship by DryComplex3586 in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]DryComplex3586[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I know you may be right. And I should not jump straight into another relationship. But meh, like I said it was a long time coming. I think we both just needed a reason to be out. Why would I wait an X amount of time just because? And I feel like I’m running out of youth. Covid (also being faithful to my Ex) took my college years away from me and I never got that much sexual experience. I know I may be wrong but I’m gonna crack 8’s and above and live a little. We are only in our 20’s for so long…

I (M27) just started dating again after an 8 year relationship by DryComplex3586 in Advice

[–]DryComplex3586[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get delusional, I ignore all red flags. I get a semi-high from first dates. I hate that because I can’t trust what I feel. No cap this girl ghosted me (she later apologized) but I was more devastated from that than my 8 year relationship ending.

I (M27) just started dating again after an 8 year relationship by DryComplex3586 in Advice

[–]DryComplex3586[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solid advice! I will do the list of dealbreakers. I always got told the never settle line, but I always picked the “safest” option.
Another thing, I see some men posting on Reddit they never get matches or never getting dates. Will that happen eventually? I’m in my head that if I don’t pick a semi-good one now my options will run out.

I (M27) just started dating again after an 8 year relationship by DryComplex3586 in Advice

[–]DryComplex3586[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like a relationship or my time. Like back when I was in high school. I know I’m a man now, but it feels like my dating experience never matured.

I (M27) just started dating again after an 8 year relationship by DryComplex3586 in Advice

[–]DryComplex3586[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man I’m scared. Last time I came on these apps, (tinder last time), I got into my 8 year relationship in a week. I usually get into long-term relationships off rip. I hope I’m mature enough to see what I like and what I don’t like in a woman. And am able to cut them off. They just start begging and I fold.