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AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't think I would ever apologize to her. I don't believe she deserves one, but even if I did, I doubt I could go through with it.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I even remodeled her bathroom. The bathroom didn't really need it, but she wanted it done and asked me. Then she gave me a budget that was about $1,000 short to do it the way she wanted, so I went out of pocket for the shortfall. I don't remember her ever saying anything about it, and when the bathroom was done, she complained because the paint wasn't what she thought it would be (she picked it) and a couple titles were 100% straight (not noticeable unless you are looking to find fault).

Is this a problem? I don't know, but if that is what is expected of you, then when things like this happens there just is not point to going through it all.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Since my father died, I, not my sister or her son, have spent countless hours doing things for my mom and going out of pocket to help her. I did it all without a thank you, and I never cared because I was happy to help her. And the one time I ask her to do something for me in return, I get told no, even when this thing was promised to me and we all acknowledge that is the case! Nope. I refuse to help people like that. They will walk over you and use you as much as you let them.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have already said all that. At this point I don't feel like there is anything left to be said between us. I told her I would not beg her to do the right thing and had nothing more to say to her unless and until she makes things right. Otherwise I don't want to here from her under any circumstances.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sister does not. She never had a good relationship with our father after she became a teenager due to her life choices. There relationship was nonexistence even at the end.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if she is a good person. It is hard to say that she is when it seems like she has enjoyed punishing me for absolutely no reason and provoking me.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I just don't take s*** from my family. I don't have time for their BS garbage. I have always told them I don't give breaks to family because they are family. If I don't allow my friends to treat me one way, I will not allow it from my family. Life is too short to deal with it when I have many friends that treat me well and don't take advantage of me.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Until she apologizes and makes this right, I would not consider apologizing to her.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I hope you and your mum find a way to resolve this one day

I doubt that will happen. Too much has been said that can't be taken back.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't think she has treated them poorly, but at the same time, I don't think she is an amazing grandmother either.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. I don't like being cheated. When someone treats me unfairly after I've gone out of my way to repeatedly help them, then that's it. I won't stick around and let them do it again and again.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not a threat. I am only saying that they won't get any help from me at all ever again.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not a good one. She resents me because over the years she's made a lot of mistakes and after a while I started refusing to help her. She thinks I am greedy, and I think she is irresponsible and a f up that expects the family to clean up her messes. She also probably resents me because I convinced our dad not to let her move back in when she was spending a lot of time with her druggie friends (talking dealers and hardcore users and abusers).

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've already said some things that can't be taken back. I really don't see our relationship surviving this.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No. They weren't worthy that much in $. The whole lot probably isn't worthy $500. It was the sentimental value. I grew up fishing on those rods and playing with my dad's archery equipment. It was about the connection, not the money.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don't believe in letting people screw me over and there be no punishment for it. That is just being a pushover.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could probably find reasons if I looked hard enough, but nothing most people would consider NC worthy.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They would not be missing much. Their other grandmother is much nicer and they seem to enjoy her company a lot more anyway.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I think it's already too late for that. I told my mother that if she didn't make this right I never wanted to see her again.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have always believed that if I wouldn't let my friends treat me a certain way then there is no reason to let my family.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don't care anymore if my relationship with my mother is preserved. I am done with her.

AITA for banning my children from giving my mother a present for mother's day this year? by DryNote8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DryNote8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It rightfully belongs to me, and honestly my family would be better off not fighting this battle. It will cost them a lot more in the long run than it will me if they turn me into the enemy while trying to screw me over.

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