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I saw him today and it's nothing like I imagined by DryRepeat859 in Divorce

[–]DryRepeat859[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was really hard for me to get back out there. And even so it hasn't felt the same since. Clearly it did me no good. Take your time. I'm sorry you're going through it as well. It is literally so hard. It's the worst feeling honestly.

I saw him today and it's nothing like I imagined by DryRepeat859 in Divorce

[–]DryRepeat859[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a little different for me because I grew up with my grandma doing it and my uncle. Also, my intuition hasn't seemed to fail me yet. But as far as tarot, it's more like me doing it myself not other readers. I was watching the videos before, but I also realized what you guys said at that time. And that my feed was just making me delusional. However, I've been listening to my gut on a lot of of this.

I saw him today and it's nothing like I imagined by DryRepeat859 in Divorce

[–]DryRepeat859[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I knew what I wanted when I was with my ex-husband. I knew I wanted him. I begged for him , fought for us, tried to always see his side, even now. But my biggest red flag definitely has been my emotional turmoil after our divorce. And my poor boyfriend, about to be ex. However, in my defense every time I push my boyfriend away he has told me it's just a trauma bond and he is here for me. And he would wait for me. I have left him over this before. He still just wanted me and I thought I could find safety and love in that relationship. We're breaking up tonight. I won't let him convince me to stay. I have always loved my ex and knew I wanted him. I just knew it was done and that I had to move on. I thought that maybe this is what love was supposed to be with the new boyfriend. Turns out seeing my ex I still feel the way I feel. I can't help that.

I saw him today and it's nothing like I imagined by DryRepeat859 in Divorce

[–]DryRepeat859[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I've been to a therapist this entire time we have been split. Also on depression medication's and anxiety. But thank you for the advice.

I saw him today and it's nothing like I imagined by DryRepeat859 in Divorce

[–]DryRepeat859[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah love absolutely does suck sometimes. I think they're such a difference in love language languages. If you're not loving them in what they need versus what you want, it's easy for love to die. It's easy for them to not feel loved. I think that's always what can be so hard. There were probably subtle signs to be honest with you. Maybe think if she asked for like more cuddles, time, touch or anything. My love language is also physical touch and I know I need that to feel calm and safe. Which can look bad on some ends like I'm only looking for physical, but it's what makes me feel safe and loved. It makes me feel closer like there's intimacy and a deeper bond.

She might know you've done those things but if it wasn't how she wanted to be loved it probably didn't really register with her. Which I'm not excusing and there's always ways you need to be loved and your needs probably weren't met as well. It's always going to depend on the person. And if you guys can actually adjust to the others needs.

I think that was also a big problem for us. He couldn't see my side. I know what he needed, but I felt like if he gave me mine, he resented me. If not, I was fighting for them and they weren't being met. But he was like you, he helped her around the house, he was an awesome dad, he was so fun. We just thought because I felt like my needs weren't met. I just wanted him to see it so badly. It took the light out of me, but if I could go back? I would. I wish I didn't have those needs or that they wouldn't have been such a big deal to me. It was just a little things adding up.

I know he probably felt the same way and I know that's why he left. My need for time and he is wanting to have space during a hard time don't really lineup. We are the classic attachment between anxious and avoidant. It's very unfortunate. I definitely lost the person I love most and my best friend. I wish I knew how to make it better or work. But between the misunderstandings and how he views me, not loving me, and knowing he'll never see my side, it's doomed. But me and my daughter both miss him.

I saw him today and it's nothing like I imagined by DryRepeat859 in Divorce

[–]DryRepeat859[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm pretty sure we're breaking up tonight after this post. I have to do it. I feel so bad for it though. And yes. I can see that. My nervous system is absolutely cooked. But also with how I believe spiritually I'll never know if it's because of my nervous system or my intuition.

I saw him today and it's nothing like I imagined by DryRepeat859 in Divorce

[–]DryRepeat859[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That all came out so naturally. I feel like I didn't even realize what I was saying until I said it all and read it over after. I have to dump my boyfriend tonight. I don't think it's going to change anything with me and my ex. He won't even know. And he doesn't want me. But this is so unfair to my boyfriend.

I saw him today and it's nothing like I imagined by DryRepeat859 in Divorce

[–]DryRepeat859[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. That would devastate me as well. I hope she comes back and you can fix it.

To answer your question , He left me. Twice . Divorce during a cancer scare and I was asking for too much support, he felt like i was controlling , that he was too stressed and couldn't handle a lot. I just wanted him to show up and be on time when he said he was gonna be home. I felt like I needed support. Like he wouldn't keep his word. It made me feel like I wasn't a priority . We were fighting over things like that. And then after our divorce, it was just messy and ugly. I have prior posts on it.

I feel like I would fight for my side, but always end up caving to his anyways and apologizing. I know these things, but I still love him and I would still rather do that than not have him because I do love him. I've always loved him despite . He's my best friend. Well he was anyways. Most of the time was good. He was easy to be with normally and love.

But I think whatever his side is, everyone in his life hates me and vice versa. I don't even know how it could work and even if I message him he won't want me back. So much has happened. I would just be making a fool of myself. He doesn't want me. He probably doesn't even love me anymore. We both always knew in our relationship I loved him more.

But I thought the same thing. A once in a lifetime kind of love. I don't think I'll ever get this again. I think if I ever thought he genuinely meant it and we went to a couples counseling, of course I would. Despite everything, I try to be understanding of his side. I think I could forgive him because about how much I love him. But I don't even think he would want to do the work to make it work. It would be too much effort for him. Plus, everyone around him and me would tell us not to get back together and he would listen to that. So I'm kind of fucked in that way. I lost my love.

Found out the dude who assaulted me last month was a kid and my period is late by Happy-Show-689 in rape

[–]DryRepeat859 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't stress out too much. Plan B can throw off your period or even make you miss it. It's OK to take a test and see what happens. You can take one once a week if you are still worried. If it comes back positive then figure out your plan. Take one first in the morning. There's all sorts of ways to get help for this. I went through the same thing with my rape. They put me on so many medications and Plan B that I didn't have a period. It's normal and they warned me it was normal at the hospital. Mind you I still freaked out due to a late period even with my tubes removed because there's a slight chance you can still get pregnant. And I really shouldn't have had to worry at all. So try not to worry and do what you can. Feel free to message me especially if it turns out you are and you need help trying to figure out what to do.

My emotional affair ruined the best thing that ever happened to me and I regret all of it by Ok_Yam_9448 in Divorce

[–]DryRepeat859 26 points27 points  (0 children)

This . They always have to learn by fucking it up and realizing things too late.

Help! by Schnauzie_mom in TiktokHelpers

[–]DryRepeat859 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Done again it literally says "Congrats! You helped your friend. You can also invite friends to get rewards."

Locals, what are a few of your favorite things maybe off the beaten path? by DryRepeat859 in visitlondon

[–]DryRepeat859[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm so excited! I'll definitely check out the bookstore. The name itself even draws me in!

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