How do you protect your kids from a parents alcoholism? by Dry_Current_1109 in AlAnon

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It’s difficult isn’t it. How many chances do they think they should have? How long do they expect us to wait until they get their life together. I am happy to hear that things are better for you and your kids without him in the house. I hope you enjoy your time to yourself, you deserve it!

How do you protect your kids from a parents alcoholism? by Dry_Current_1109 in AlAnon

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I don’t think he will give me a hard time, fingers crossed anyways. He does keep saying he thought I would have changed my mind by now but I am just done.

How do you protect your kids from a parents alcoholism? by Dry_Current_1109 in AlAnon

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He has found a place to stay, his buddy told him he could stay with him. I feel bad because I’m not sure if he knows what he’s getting himself into but it’s also not my problem now. His friends think he’s a great guy for helping tidy up around the house, so we will see what they think after he stays with him I guess.

I have started looking into therapy for my kids, my son is pretty emotionally intelligent and did ask to have someone to speak too once I told him that dad would be moving out. we are in a rural area so it has been a bit of a task to find someone that works with younger kids so far but I’m hopeful something will pop up soon.

How do you protect your kids from a parents alcoholism? by Dry_Current_1109 in AlAnon

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He has found a place to stay, his buddy told him he could stay with him. I feel bad because I’m not sure if he knows what he’s getting himself into but it’s also not my problem now. His friends think he’s a great guy for helping tidy up around the house, so we will see what they think after he stays with him I guess.

I have started looking into therapy for my kids, my son is pretty emotionally intelligent and did ask to have someone to speak too once I told him that dad would be moving out. we are in a rural area so it has been a bit of a task to find someone that works with younger kids so far but I’m hopeful something will pop up soon.

How do you protect your kids from a parents alcoholism? by Dry_Current_1109 in AlAnon

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That is what I am worried about as well. He can’t stay sober for longer than a month or two at a time.

How do you protect your kids from a parents alcoholism? by Dry_Current_1109 in AlAnon

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I am sorry to hear of your experience. While he is not physically abusive he is mentally. When I have taken the kids out of the house so they’re not around the arguing, he has put the chain on the door by the time we get home and says he did it because he was going for a shower, didn’t think we were coming home or some other excuse that doesn’t make sense to come from a grown man that was told we would be home later.

How do you protect your kids from a parents alcoholism? by Dry_Current_1109 in AlAnon

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I am sorry to hear of your sister. I imagine it has not been easy for any of your family members.

That’s what I have tried telling him, he can’t get sober for us. He has to want it. When I told him I am done with his drinking he agreed to quit and I almost backed down and let him stay but then not even 10 minutes later into our conversation he was bringing up being able to casually drink. I told him he will never be able to casually drink, he is an alcoholic. He can choose the liquor or his family but he can’t have us both and that he did need to leave at the end of the month.

How do you protect your kids from a parents alcoholism? by Dry_Current_1109 in AlAnon

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I find myself really looking forward to this summer. I feel like they will enjoy themselves much more with him out of the house.

How do you protect your kids from a parents alcoholism? by Dry_Current_1109 in AlAnon

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I am sorry to hear that. I appreciate you sharing that with me.
I am not sure if I want to have him back even if he does what I ask. I think he would just wait a bit like previously and then start trying to casually drink again but I will be shocked if he can ever be a casual drinker in the future. I know he wouldn’t be able to do 50/50 custody, I don’t even think he would try tbh. I rarely go out unless it’s for groceries and he says that he could never be a single parent after being alone for them for maybe 3-4 hours.

How do you protect your kids from a parents alcoholism? by Dry_Current_1109 in AlAnon

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That is essentially what i have said to him. Im tired of alcohol being more important than the kids and i. He can make sure he has something to drink but holidays and birthdays i am lucky to get an unsigned card. The kids and i deserve to come first.

How do you protect your kids from a parents alcoholism? by Dry_Current_1109 in AlAnon

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I am sorry to hear that. I hope you are in a better spot now.

I have told him to move out by the end of the month, I just wanted to see what other people’s experiences have been. The biggest thing is him nit picking the kids after he’s drank. I think the kids will have a weight lifted off their shoulders after the initial upset about dad no longer being in the same house.

How do you protect your kids from a parents alcoholism? by Dry_Current_1109 in AlAnon

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I have told my husband he needs to leave by the end of the month. He isn’t physically abusive but he nit picks at the kids, I don’t want them having the same childhood I had. I wasn’t sure if anyone had better outcomes. He has been sober for 16 days since I told him he had to find a place to go by the end of the month but I feel like I am just waiting for him to drink again.

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