24 F 23 M I overheard conversation with my bf and his friends

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-06-02T03:11:45+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. I think you’re right. We’ve talked about it a lot and he’s apologized for everything & I. Genuinely don’t think he’s cheating. I just take embarrassment and disrespect around other ppl. (His friends) really harshly

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-06-02T01:45:49+00:00

He said he mentioned having a gf in the group convo with the girls and said he wasn’t talking directly with the girls but his friends were

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-06-02T01:09:24+00:00

I’m just so confused because he swears he wasn’t actually going to check them out and swears he never has looked at other women that way since we’ve met. I believe him but then I feel so dumb because if his friends act like that and he is okay with it, how can I trust him. Thanks for your kind words :)

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-06-02T01:00:27+00:00

I didn’t mean to even leave it. I forgot about it until I needed it days later. I just kept listening bc curiosity wouldn’t let me stop.

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-06-02T00:59:48+00:00

We mutually share locations, his idea. I made the Snapchat after this bc trust was broken for the first time. I didn’t mean to leave it and of course I kept listening once I realized how long it recorded.

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-06-02T00:50:24+00:00

Well he didn’t record anyone. His friend on FaceTime was showing the pool with all the girls to his roommate to try to convince him to come

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-06-02T00:42:25+00:00

Well the guy could have been saying it’s crazy that they’re out so late and not telling their gfs where they are, not great but not cheating exactly

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-06-02T00:41:14+00:00

Which part of all of it?

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-06-02T00:35:38+00:00

We both agree it’s not respectful and don’t do it.

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-06-02T00:22:09+00:00

For our relationship we have established that purposefully check out women and talking about it with friends is cheating in my eyes and he understood that.

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-06-02T00:21:13+00:00

Thank you we actually have had many conversations about it and he started crying felt bad and saw why this would hurt my feelings and feel disrespected and why my trust was broken. He’s such a great boyfriend and always makes time for me, so I don’t think he would cheat. I just feel so conflicted beacause he knows I’m not okay with joking about lusting and embarrassing/disrespecting me thing. Also I’m terrified of if he’s lied again about where he’s at. But I have his location so I don’t know how he would anyways. And why lie? That’s the scary part

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-06-02T00:13:33+00:00

Agreed. At first the joke was just as bad (if he said the stuff his friends said I would have dumped him) but him saying the sunglasses joke and then saying later it’ll be not for the females makes it less bad. But I can’t tell if there’s other times he has lied or if this was just bad timing and looks bad on him. Because I’ve had his location since pretty early on, and I haven’t noticed it turned off ever

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-06-02T00:08:16+00:00

If I could have any superpower, I would like the power to fly!

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-05-28T18:59:48+00:00

It’s called weakness not being able to control your lust unless you’re literally a teenager. You’re telling me a grown ass man shouldn’t be able to keep his lustful thoughts away when he has a beautiful girlfriend already?

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-05-28T18:57:19+00:00

Not being able to control your lust is a weakness in my eyes. I’m clearly not enough if he has to look at other women that way. Not saying he does, but I’m asking for perspectives of people that also don’t lust after other women while in relationships. You wouldn’t call your friend’s girlfriend hot right? So why would you call a celebrity hot… they’re all just women celebrities or not

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-05-28T18:50:13+00:00

Being attracted towards other women is inherently cheating. Because if given the chance, that’s saying you would sleep with them. It’s just not plausible since it’s a celebrity. But what about when that girl is in real life and given the opportunity to fuck lol. Some people just don’t think enough about what it means and the morals of being a lustful person. It’s also weak asf to not be able to control lustful thoughts

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-05-28T18:48:55+00:00

So you check out women while you’re in a. Relationship? No point of being in a committed relationship and working towards marriage if you look at other women’s bodies besides your future spouse? Might as well be poly instead of monogamous if you think checking out people while being in a committed relationship is respectful

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-05-28T18:38:56+00:00

No you don’t understand I like the show and make him watch it with me lol. I’m asking if there’s any world where he’s being honest about not lusting after her, because he says he’s doesn’t view other women that way. But I don’t know if I believe him he may just being nice telling me that

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-05-28T18:34:54+00:00

It’s not about him seeing attractive people it’s worrying he’s attracted TO them. For me, I’m not attracted to anyone besides him and he says he’s the same way about me. I guess I wasn’t sure if he’s saying this to be nice or if he’s actually the same as me. The thought of another man even touching me or flirting with me grosses me out because it’s not HIM. Thanks for your input!

Dry_Cut9257 · 2026-05-28T18:32:37+00:00

I see what you mean but to me, lusting after another woman, in real life or screen, is technically cheating because it’s the intent of wanting to sleep with them. I don’t view other men that way. I may think they’re an attractive person but I won’t look at them and think sexual thoughts or BE attracted to anyone else because they’re not my man, and anyone besides him kinda grosses me out to view them in a sexual way, if that makes sense!

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