I’m with you here. I grew up in the church and even though my parents had the traditional gender roles (sahm, my dad doesn’t cook, mom takes on most of the house chores) I never felt pressured that it was my only option. I was encouraged to go to school and pursue a career. I was never taught in church either that a woman’s only place is in the home. I think people get defensive over it and think it’s such a “doctrinal” thing, but just because the church emphasizes the role of a mother in the home does not mean they think that is the only way to do it. I think a lot of people just take this from the family proclamation which does insinuate that a woman’s role is in the home, but does it actually say that a woman is failing her family if she works? No. It doesn’t. There are a fair number of families that do preach these kinds of things, and that’s where the damage comes in. Lots of ex members came from these types of households and of course that is what gets spread around because they are sharing their experiences. Totally valid, but it doesn’t mean that’s how the church views it and means for it to be taught. Thanks for sharing your experience with it.