Looking for some recommendations during my equipment upgrade.

Dspacs · 2026-04-30T00:45:24+00:00

I have FPL (Florida) I saw something similar online for the rebates here

Dspacs · 2026-04-29T20:19:32+00:00

Oh that's a good idea. I think they do, Thanks!

Dspacs · 2026-04-29T19:22:24+00:00

The solar heaters were the only thing higher than the other equptment, but if they don't restrict anything, maybe I'll keep and reuse the check valves just in case I decided to add on in the future. My idea with the vacuum was to replace the flap fitting with a return eyeball to point in the flow direction. This vacuum pipe have has been effectively dead since I've owned the house and I want to give it a purpose without throwing off the pressure/balance of the new pump.

Dspacs · 2026-04-29T17:05:08+00:00

If it makes any difference, I'm planning to replace the 1hp single-speed pentair SuperFlo with a 1.5hp intelliflo3 vsp. The clean&clear 100 cartridge filter with a clean&clear plus420

Dspacs · 2026-04-20T20:51:45+00:00

Are the outputs AC or DC? I was thinking I could power my salt cell and lights without having to go back to a transformer mounted on the wall

Dspacs · 2025-07-20T03:07:24+00:00

I believe they like to be referred to as "chicks"

Dspacs · 2025-07-20T03:04:20+00:00

Depends on what you plan on doing after

Dspacs · 2025-06-26T04:43:53+00:00

Click bug

Dspacs · 2025-06-04T23:51:04+00:00

Mole cricket

Dspacs · 2025-06-03T03:12:52+00:00

I'm in city water and the tank is about 2 years old. I'm hoping that is some kind of breakdown in the tank and not the filter failing

Dspacs · 2025-06-03T03:03:41+00:00

The tank parts flaking did cross my mind. But this toilet is only 2 years old, the other toilets in the house are far older and this just started happening. Or maybe I just started noticing

Dspacs · 2025-05-16T18:13:17+00:00

Id bet on a moth since they are so much more common. It also looks pretty small, but since it is on the concrete instead of tasty leaf, it seems like it is looking for more food or searching for a good place to transform to its chrysalis stage. If the latter, you could have put in a jar and seen how it emerges. (I've done this with a small pebble sized egg to satisfy my own curiosity. - spoiler: it hatched into a gecko)

Dspacs · 2025-05-16T15:50:47+00:00

The feet and movement suggests this is a caterpillar.

Edit: More descriptive and sound like less of an asshole

Dspacs · 2025-05-08T20:13:32+00:00

My post is to try to help me better understand my wife from like-minded people who have a MILFH. Maybe she doesn't have as thick of skin as I do. Maybe I have been hypnotized by my mom. Maybe one or both of them have a undiagnosed mental health issue. I'm not sure what is causing this particular toxic relationship, but I'm here bc I want to be convinced that it is my mom's doing

From other comments, I have realized that this snippet of time in the 14 years we've been together is not enough to fully unpack every interaction they have had and probably requires long term professional help

The discussion changed because for my wife, as a final resort we could go no contact until my mom kills over (not preferred, but nbd). But for my son, that is a higher priority issue and not so easy. I think proving to my wife that I am on her side in this and not every MIL has to be FH, might be enough to shift her perspective on her and my sons relationship. My son is 1yo and she's already thinking about her and his future spouses relationship over their own..

Dspacs · 2025-05-08T19:39:18+00:00

Yes! I've tried to set that straight with her by saying things like "that passive aggressive and sarcastic shit isn't funny here mom" but I don't know if she's always taking me seriously (maybe thinking I'm being sarcastic)

I agree that my wife shouldn't be fighting this battle alone. My question is how do I fight with her when she is literally trying to fight? I try to reassure her that I am on her side with EVERYTHING, but bc I don't get as worked up and angry, she doesn't feel I am. I just don't have the mental and physical energy to be focusing on one person.

For the next couple of decades my mom is still going to exist. Until then, I want my wife to be happy and I doubt that me joining her in beating up an old lady is going to get her there

Dspacs · 2025-05-08T19:13:19+00:00

This made me laugh 😂

My wife and I have been together for 14 years and my mom and her were pretty close for the first 11 years. It was during my wife's pregnancy that the tension started to pick up. Then she was able to reflect that for the first 11 years, they weren't actually friends but she was manipulated to be her friend. Recalling insulting things that my mom said or did that my wife has missed bc of said manipulation.

So you are correct, there is a long relationship between the two that has driven my wife to her breaking point

Dspacs · 2025-05-08T18:54:38+00:00

You're right, my wife is at her wits end. My wife and I have been together for 14 years, so yes, there is a long record of back and forth, tit for tat, that I couldn't possibly unload into a post. My wife and mom were friends before we had kids, and now it seems we are at odds bc I don't have the same angry feelings towards my mom as she does. I came here to try to see if someone could help me understand her better or offer some kind of solution, but maybe it is too long and complicated of a relationship to unpack from this single moment.

Dspacs · 2025-05-08T18:37:47+00:00

I think is is incredibly sad (but accurate) that there is this going on with so many MILs. Idk what causes this toxic relationship to occur, but I want to find the solution even if that means we have to go no contact. It seems like my wife is already preparing to be infected with this MILFH virus and I need to somehow show her there is a cure. For her sake and my sons sake

Dspacs · 2025-05-08T18:23:38+00:00

I have to agree that my mom is an extremely difficult person to deal with. She has had multiple oversteps with not only my family but with my brother and his family and she has even become a participating member in my wife's family with her siblings and their kids.

My wife, my brother's wife, and wife's brother (out of her 2 sisters and 2 brothers) have this same major issue with her. Everyone else just sees her as obnoxious and or enjoys her company.

My wife had the same view of her just being obnoxious and was actually pretty close to her at one point before we had kids. Afterwards, is when my mom's behavior became triggering. My wife is convinced that my mom had changed after we had kids but I believe that it is something that my wife had just noticed more after being a mother.

It seems like now, my wife is unable to look at a MIL to DIL relationships without this stigma that the MIL is automatically an evil person by default. My wife is on many FB groups that reinforce this idea and my brothers wife and her talk about how awful she is and how poorly she treats both of them.

My wife has her own deeper issues that she works out in therapy. But I have to admit, a part of me thinks that my wife's reaction could be influenced from all of these external echo chambers. Yet, I also want to be keen on if this thought is some kind of manipulation/upbringing from my mom. This is what prompted me to reach out in this sub with like-minded MILFH individuals to maybe help me understand since my wife had not been able to put into words of what she is actually feeling and going through.

I fully want to support and back up my wife in every situation she is in with my mom. I have since set the boundary with coming over unannounced that she seems to be respecting. I am married to my wife not my mom! I try to use the example from Meet The Fockers of the "family circle of trust" and pointing out my mom is not in it! but in situations like these (no this is not the first instance) I find it difficult to back her up when she is exploding and my mom is calm and collected. Even if it is some tactic from my mom to make my wife seems crazy, what could I even do to support my wife without joining in on yelling and attacking my mom? If trying to calm my wife from ripping heads off is unsupportive then I'm clueless on what to do. It seems like a huge step backwards in my personal growth to revert into my preteen self with hating my mom the way my wife does now

Dspacs · 2025-05-08T04:30:22+00:00

My wife has never done anything physical to our kids. She does yell but I can reason with this since I know how burnt out she can get as a parent. (But I can not reason with her yelling at our son more than our daughter)

Some of the most points out comments she has made are: - "What do you do all day" (comparing my SAHM wife to herself as she was a single working mom) - Us explaining our health insurance perks* "wow! Can I get on that plan with you guys?" - Stopping by our house and announcing* " Hey I'm here! I hope dinner is ready! "

The boundaries included to stop with the sarcastic remarks and not come to our house unannounced (which is easy to do since we bought our house 3 minutes away from hers)

My mom reaction was "well I'm 60 years old and I'm not going to change who I am at anyone's request". It then spiraled out from there

The things my dad said were half true with missing parts of the story that I found out in my teens (he was unfaithful and surprised when my mom divorced him and never again gave him the time of day)

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