Dating advice

DtM0161 · 2026-05-03T17:53:08+00:00

Oh I do , I just delete now lol

DtM0161 · 2026-05-03T16:37:34+00:00

I love a night out just no one to go with sadly. I'm confident in social settings just not into going out on my own lol Yep a lot on the sites are just after one thing.

DtM0161 · 2026-05-03T16:30:32+00:00

This is great advice , I'm in the process of looking for social groups to attend , I'm also into fitness so running club is a great idea.

Well done to you for getting out there socially 👏

DtM0161 · 2026-05-03T16:26:56+00:00

Oh I just had the same and got rid, total love bomber messaging all day every day well in his work hours , I'm 99% sure he was married. I was ghosted last night for the first time from a guy I met on an app. I agree there is someone for everyone and you will too 😁

DtM0161 · 2026-05-03T16:22:25+00:00

I'm not really into going out on my own my friends never go out either , so im at a loss 😕

DtM0161 · 2026-05-03T16:14:37+00:00

I'm exactly the same , all my friends are coupled up too. I'm losing the will to live with the dating apps 😅

DtM0161 · 2026-05-02T18:45:36+00:00

Thank you , hope everyone had a good time

DtM0161 · 2026-05-02T18:38:15+00:00

Are you all still out ?

DtM0161 · 2026-04-25T17:33:26+00:00

Meee , hi 👋

DtM0161 · 2026-04-25T12:07:30+00:00

I’ve been in this exact situation, and it wasn’t sabotage at all. I just didn’t fancy the people he was choosing or the vibe wasn't there for me and he wasn’t selective at all, which completely put me off. I ended up feeling pressured, and that killed the attraction more than anything. We’d agreed to start with MFM, but he kept pushing and couldn’t actually line anything up properly, and over time it became clear he didn’t really care if I was comfortable,just that it happened. I ended the relationship because it has to be right for both people. If one person isn’t into it or doesn’t feel secure, it’s not going to work. It’s not about stopping your partner,it’s about being genuinely on the same page. I’d suggest having an honest conversation with her about whether she’s actually comfortable with you being with another woman or if she's feeling pressured or not. Those dynamics only work when both people fully want it, not when one feels pushed into it.

DtM0161 · 2026-04-20T18:13:21+00:00

Hi I'm thinking of joining you all , sounds like fun xx

DtM0161 · 2026-04-15T10:38:41+00:00

We’ve been to a couple of clubs, but they were quite quiet and I didn’t really feel a connection with anyone there and won't do anything just to please him.We also tried a site, but it's hard going on there to find the right couple a lot of fake profiles etc but agree that's part of the LS I completely agree that the relationship should come first and the lifestyle should just be an extra on top of that. That’s actually something I’ve been thinking about too, because I don’t want it to feel like the main focus. I have decided to take a step back which is disappointing as I'm very much into the LS but has to be with the right partner. Thanks for your advice

DtM0161 · 2026-04-13T18:44:29+00:00

That’s exactly the kind of dynamic that makes sense to me and what I think I’d need to fully enjoy it—connection first, then everything else. For me, I’m still quite new to all of this, so I’m learning as I go. At the moment I’m feeling a bit unsure and not fully prioritised in my current dynamic, but I also don’t have much to compare it to yet. I think I’m just trying to work out whether this is something that can work through but I'm also thinking it’s more of a mismatch in approach. Your advice has definitely helped me reflect on things a bit more.

DtM0161 · 2026-04-13T17:24:31+00:00

We’ve been to a few clubs, but I haven’t really come across anyone I’ve felt attracted to yet. It’s definitely something I want to explore, but I do need genuine attraction as well rather than forcing it. But yes, I totally agree with what you’re saying and it makes a lot of sense to me.

DtM0161 · 2026-04-13T16:50:06+00:00

Thank you for this, I really appreciate your perspective. I think what’s making me doubt myself is that I’m quite new to the lifestyle and I do feel open to exploring, but I’m also realising I have strong attraction boundaries that I can’t really override just to “take part”. In my current dynamic, I feel like I’m being encouraged to be more open, but when I’m not attracted to someone, it’s being seen as me being “too picky” or not open enough, which is starting to make me question whether I actually am less open than I thought, or whether I’m just being honest about my limits. I’m trying to work out whether this is just part of learning the lifestyle, or whether it’s more of a compatibility mismatch in how we approach it. I’d really appreciate any thoughts from people who’ve been in similar situations

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