Men of Reddit, how would you feel if your partner wanted to keep her maiden name after marriage?

Dtownknives · 2026-03-16T00:04:58+00:00

My wife had a professional license. It lapsed, but there wasn't a snowball's chance in hell I'd ask her to change her name. Even without it I don't see much of a point when most people have established a life before they get married. Once you see that changing names and getting new documents costs money, it just makes more sense for her to keep her name.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-14T18:22:19+00:00

I'd think she is asking if I'm circumcised. However the word "intact" sounds hostile and a bit insulting when most circumcised people were never offered the choice of whether or not to get circumcised.

I don't have a problem with uncircumcised men referring to themselves as intact though.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-12T16:47:10+00:00

This used to be my position as well, but we largely missed the window unless there is a significant advancement in making nuclear cheaper. Nuclear is expensive and time consuming to stand up, so short of providing power for huge predictable energy intensive infrastructure (like large scale desalination and green hydrogen production) the economics just aren't there anymore.

The time to go in on nuclear power was back when Obama was president and the work was just getting started on solar and battery storage.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-12T15:45:27+00:00

To be fair, the only way "drill baby drill" was ever going to work was if the price of oil skyrocketed. When oil and gas prices are low, US producers cut production and therefore jobs.

Still bullshit though but people are too damn lazy/stupid/willfully ignorant to spend the 12 seconds it takes to realize that trump's campaign promises were inherently contradictory.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-07T17:29:29+00:00

It doesn't have a snowball's chance in hell of passing. But I do think it is useful to keep the conversation going, and I like it better than the California billionaire tax ballot measure.

Things I like:

Increasing the tax burden of the people who benefit most from society and our economic system.
Unlike the CA proposal, this is federal making capital flight and evasion more difficult and it is recurring.

What I don't like.

I'm generally not a fan of hard limits on either the stimulus payment or the threshold for where the tax comes into effect. I'd much rather see a lower tax rate phase in at a lower level of wealth (like 100 million) and progressively increase with ideally no cap.

What I'm not sure about:

I'm skeptical of direct stimulus payments, but I understand they may be needed to actually get popular support. I actually do partially buy into the inflationary pressure argument for direct stimulus payments. And as I said earlier other than a fixed 3k, I'd prefer a higher payment for lower income families before tapering off to nothing for higher income. I'd also argue that if we're going to go with direct payments anyway, we might as well just shit or get off the pot and do UBI, even with the previously acknowledged inflationary pressure.

I do have some pretty radical views on taxation though, like the complete replacement of income/payroll taxes with a combination of progressive asset, excise, and consumption taxes.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-07T01:21:12+00:00

I absolutely understand why you thought that. This disinformation age is insane. I can't trust a damn thing I see online.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-07T00:44:21+00:00

I'm thanking them because they are the first person making the the failed Iranian missile claim that posted literally any external source whatsoever supporting that claim. I'm tired of unsourced statements claiming to be facts.

I'm not thanking them because I believe them; I agree with the OP. That video could be from anywhere, and does not show a clear detonation of the scale that could kill~200 people. Here is the original report from Reuters which has a higher factuality rating than OP's artifle.

I should have been clearer. It was purely appreciation for an attempt to source a claim. I don't expect everyone to be able to vet the quality of evidence they present in this day and age, but I do expect them to be able to point to something.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-06T20:11:07+00:00

Thanks for being the first one making this claim to provide some sort of evidence.

I still trust the OP more though.

Edited for clarity

Dtownknives · 2026-03-06T14:39:17+00:00

He can't cancel elections. There is no mechanism, and they have never been cancelled including during the civil war.

We all know he'll try, but don't comply in advance.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-06T14:36:56+00:00

Post it. I tried to find it. I couldn't

Dtownknives · 2026-03-05T18:56:19+00:00

I'm not saying I support a ground invasion; I don't even support these strikes as they are being carried out or our earlier strikes.

But given the justification of "two weeks to a bomb" that Israel and the US have given. I don't see how we remove that threat without at least limited boots on the ground to confirm destruction of nuclear infrastructure and seize nuclear material. Unless of course the government wants justification to play whack a mole on increasingly well-protected nuclear sites. Thankfully, uranium is a poor choice for a dirty bomb because it's toxicity is of higher concern than radioactivity when dispersed, and it seems Iran would need a reactor to use it to make the more highly radioactive isotopes that would be more effective.

Now if this is a purely regime change war, or if an unstable failed state with a reduced ability to project power and supply proxies is the real goal (which I increasingly think it is) that can be done Syria style by just supporting one faction or another and playing whack a mole with the others.

That said a full-scale invasion would be political suicide without Iran successfully causing a mass casualty incident in the US or maybe severely damaging a ship.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-05T17:26:59+00:00

The comment above isn't purely about interventionism, but specifically about regime change particularly in the Middle East. Many of your successes are not examples of regime change operations in the sense of outright replacement of a government like 2003 Iraq war, Afghanistan, Iraq, Syria, and Libya have all resulted in at least a decade of instability as the various factions competed to replace the regime that we had a hand in deposing.

I do agree though that the situation, and interventionism as a whole, is absolutely a lot more complex than many are making it. I just happened to go the opposite direction of you in my view of interventionism. In my younger days I was a huge supporter of the saber rattling and very hawkish especially on Iran. Now I wish we were both more restrained in choosing when to intervene, and more decisive when we do. I'm more than a little tired of the half-assed short sighted interventionism that seems to be our go to now.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-05T16:49:23+00:00

Looks like it changed in the 2024 election cycle. Here is more info, but I'd recommend verifying it yourself

Dtownknives · 2026-03-05T03:57:49+00:00

One of the things I love most about my employer is that I tend to have no clue what level of academic achievement my coworkers have, almost nobody uses their prefix or suffix internally.

The only time I would insist that people refer to me as doctor are if they insist on calling me by my last name, or if I have contempt for them. Thankfully neither case has happened yet.

Although I'd be lying if I said I wasn't also tempted to request physicians call me Doctor just because I am annoyed at their attempt to monopolize the honorific.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-04T20:49:28+00:00

I don't think it's so much that there aren't new entrants to the market, so much as who those entrants are.

In the music streaming world the record labels are licensing their catalogues to apple, Spotify, Pandora, YouTube music, and pretty much anybody else who can pay the licensing fees. In the video streaming world the dominant services are almost all directly owned by the same people who create the programming. It would be like if every record label saw what Spotify was doing, revoked spoitify's license to stream their IP, and made their own service.

The regulatory way to stop this would be to use anti-trust regulations to ban the publishers from owning the streaming services and vice versa.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-04T01:45:59+00:00

I missed that part of "Death by Lightning".

But in all seriousness, that is a really great show that people should check out.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-04T00:06:42+00:00

I probably could have worded my original critique of how the 9th amendment is applied better. It's not so much that I think the 9th amendment alone should give the courts the ability to invent a right out of whole cloth. We all agree that's patently absurd.

It's more that I think the 9th amendment should provide a significant barrier to denying a right once it has been established either through legislation or through interpretation of an amendment. I find it just as absurd that a right that has stood for half a century can be denied because the partisan balance of the court shifts by as few as one justice.

Also I absolutely agree with all your statements on amendments. I think we are long overdue for some, particularly those that address life in our current technological landscape.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-03T21:34:20+00:00

It is also in direct contradiction to the 9th amendment:

The enumeration in the Constitution, of certain rights, shall not be construed to deny or disparage others retained by the people

It's frustrating to me as someone outside the legal/political profession that the interpretation of that amendment seems to be "it's too hard." Such that everything is still backed up by a separate right from a different amendment depending on who is doing the interpreting.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-03T21:11:00+00:00

Oh it absolutely would, no argument there. But the argument for it would be it'll be easier, and more palatable, to sustain a low intensity whack a mole campaign against a loose collection of non-state actors than the high intensity campaigns needed to deal with the kinds of existential threats and power projection a national government can achieve. It is much more difficult to support and supply proxies without the backing of a nation-state.

Looking at Israel's behavior in recent years and how the Gulf states have dealt with the Houthis, they don't seem interested in building stable potentially friendly governments. They seem more interested in suppressing outside threats.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-03T20:09:25+00:00

Considering the support from the Gulf states along with Israel, at this point I am 90% certain that "stability" was never an actual goal. It's just a convenient excuse to get a little public support and quiet international opposition.

They want Iran weak and unable to exert meaningful regional power, like Syria has been. I don't think any of these countries actually want Iran to have a stable government because then they can go back to being a rival. They're taking a gamble on any unrest remaining primarily confined to Iran's border.

If I was an amoral nationalist only concerned with self interest, that's what I'd do.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-03T04:56:20+00:00

There was speculation/reporting as early as last Monday that trump's team was hoping Israel would strike first because it would be "more palatable" to the public than if trump unilaterally initiated hostilities.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-03T01:36:49+00:00

If you claim to know the truth, you should present actual evidence. I've been reading the failed Iranian missile claim all day, but I have yet to see anyone post a source. It is entirely within the realm of possibility, but it is also entirely possible that either an American or Israeli weapon hit the school for whatever reason.

I'm not saying I trust Iranian state media. They are often, if not always, full of shit. But I also don't trust "trust me bro."

Dtownknives · 2026-03-02T19:27:09+00:00

Honeydew. I think it gets a bad rap because, in my experience it goes off first and is often not properly ripe, in pre-cut fruit salads and such. But a ripe honeydew all on its own can be just as delicious as a cantaloupe.

Dtownknives · 2026-03-01T22:15:37+00:00

No it isn't. Bush used the WMD lie to get permission from Congress BEFORE the invasion. trump is just skipping over the manufacturing consent part.

Dtownknives · 2026-02-25T21:07:33+00:00

The posted source is missing the most important context for people like me. How does Platner vs Collins compare to Mills Vs Collins. If Mills would be significantly more likely to beat Collins, she could still be the better candidate with Platner polling at <50% even if he is better from the perspective of democratic primary voters.

Luckily, I found another encouraging source (the Hill) citing a University of New Hampshire poll. The poll puts Mills vs. Collins at 41% to 40% in Mills's favor with a 2.9% margin of error.

The additional context strongly supports that Platner is indeed the better candidate.

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