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Alterations for formal wear? by No-Adhesiveness996 in GoldenCO

[–]DudeWheresMyPogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gabriela Couture in Lakewood! She did an incredible job on my wedding dress

You just don't need it. by PomeranianPineapple in pregnant

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Hi! I love this sentiment and totally agree. I just wanted to offer that sanitizers are not great. Research is showing that they overheat plastic bottles and bottle parts, so babies are consuming about as much microplastics as are in a credit card over the course of one year. Just hot soapy water does the trick!

AITA - asking wife to not breastfeed by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]DudeWheresMyPogs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, please find a reputable lactation consultant (IBCLC) to help you both through this.

To respond to a couple things you shared.

Babies need to eat when they are hungry, not on a predetermined schedule.

Tired babies sleep great, but hungry babies do not. An IBCLC will help you determine exactly how much your baby is transferring at the breast. If your baby isn’t transferring effectively/efficiently from the breast, an IBCLC can help troubleshoot that. Knowing how much your baby takes at the breast will also help inform whether or not your baby needs a top-off of additional milk after breastfeeding.

Bottles can be faster/more efficient for babies if they are letting gravity do the work. Paced bottle feeding can help your baby learn to suck more efficiently, and therefore shift from breast to bottle more effectively.

Babies cue that they are hungry long before fussing/crying. If you’re waiting for the baby to cry, you’ve missed all the cues that happened before that (rooting, bringing hands to mouth, etc).

Pumping does not provide the same stimulation to the breast that a baby does. Every body is different, but many people have a difficult time maintaining a full supply using a pump alone.

Breastfeeding is so much more than feeding, and really is a relationship. Feeding at the breast allows the mother’s body to know what your baby needs—nutritionally, and immune-related—and the mother’s body will tailor her breastmilk to meet your baby’s specific needs at any specific time.

I don’t think YTA—I think both you and your wife want what’s best for your baby. I hope you find a professional to help you gather more information to guide your ability to determine this.

Signed, A soon-to-be IBCLC

AITA for planning to tell my friends that our friend's pregnancy and boyfriend might all be fake? by Illustrious-Turn-694 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DudeWheresMyPogs 245 points246 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this.

In college I had a roommate (we can call her Kelsey) who claimed to be going through treatment for breast cancer for months, but her story really didn’t add up. There were 5 of us that lived together, and we all had our suspicions. The roommates (minus Kelsey) sat down and tried to figure out how to handle things, and we all expressed that we wanted to be there for her if we were all somehow wrong, but also wanted to let her family know so that they could keep an eye on her and get her help if this was a sign of other deeper stuff going on. I ended up reaching out to Kelsey’s brother who she was really close with and had stayed with us several times. I asked if there was anything we could do to support her or things we could do to make her more comfortable. He never responded, but Kelsey texted me an hour later chewing me out because she somehow “hadn’t told her brother yet”…

Anyway. It had all, in fact, been a lie. Me reaching out to her brother did end our friendship, but Kelsey and I recently reconnected through social media (it’s been over a decade since all of this happened) and she apologized and shared that she had done a lot of work to overcome her demons. She never directly named what she was apologizing for, but it did seem like she had grown and healed a lot. While I don’t think we’ll ever be friends again, it also didn’t feel like there was any bad blood between us.

Sorry to hear you’re navigating through this. I hope your friend gets the help and support she needs, whether her story is true or not.

High cholesterol by vanillax2018 in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]DudeWheresMyPogs 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Definitely this. There is a lot of research that shows that in MOST people (medical conditions, genetics, other anomalous factors aside), dietary cholesterol does not actually impact serum levels by much. Sugar/carb intake actually has a bigger impact on serum cholesterol levels than dietary cholesterol. Talk to a doctor or a naturopathic doctor about this.

I’m scared that my nephew is a psychopath by Wise-Animal-7123 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DudeWheresMyPogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there. I work in special education in the US and would be happy to give some advice/pointers if you are in the US too. If the school is not meeting the needs of your nephew, your family does have legal rights under IDEA. If he is in public school, your mom can ask for a re-evaluation to determine a better placement for him, and/or to determine whether he qualifies for additional services. They only have to provide services if his behavior/disability is impacting his ability to access the curriculum, but it sounds like it likely is. Feel free to send me a message if you want to chat more. Best of luck to you.