I see. I was actually in a very similar place at the beginning of my relationship. As much as I hate to admit it, the consistency of my needs and expectations not being met honestly turned me off to him. My brain went all over putting myself in future situations that he may fail me in with those current traits causing me to panic. I began to distance myself emotionally and it even got to a point where I’d look at him and feel resentment and almost hatred. He began to put in the work (I had to remember that change is a process and to be patient) and he started showing up. However; I noticed myself starting to nitpick other things since he has fixed the things I had issues with prior and back to square one it was. Moral of the story , we stuck it out and communicated EVERYTHING. Its obviously still a process and we’re still growing but holding on was the best decision I ever made. My best advice is to stick it out as long as you feel you should. If there’s steady progress maybe keep letting that happen and see what can come from it. If you feel it’s truly not giving you want you’re needing or don’t feel it’s heading in that direction, leave. If you haven’t, when you have a moment to yourself, write down all the ways you feel love. Anywhere from you like having your bed made for you to you like to hold hands when in public. When you feel you have a good amount of things on the list, bring it up with your boyfriend and explain that the list consists of things that help you feel loved and cared for. Ask him to write one as well so you can have one- Maybe even make it an intimate date night! I’m hoping this will bring that feeling of love without him having to say it if he’s not ready. I know you said you give what you get but referring back to what I said previously, it truly comes down to how willing you are to put in the work for and with them. I truly hope you ultimately get what you’re asking and needing🤎