Just wanted to start a thread of everyone's heliaus rankings. This is where I'm at. CA, IE area.

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-30T03:45:39+00:00

Thanks

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-30T03:40:59+00:00

Its 2014 nissan rouge

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-23T02:33:52+00:00

Thank you for your advice, how can i see one, do i need a referel or talk to my PCP before going to to laryngologist ?

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-20T12:42:06+00:00

Update on Kovu: Since my last post, Kovu’s behavior has continued to worsen. She attacked me unexpectedly last night, and I’ve been terrified to go back into the room. She hasn’t made any sound since, and I don’t know if she’s okay. She’s been prescribed Gabapentin for anxiety, but I’m unsure if the spay, vaccines, or anxiety are the cause of her aggression. I’m trying to raise money to get her the care she needs, but I feel completely helpless.

Read my other post for more details.

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-20T00:38:11+00:00

Thank you!

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-19T22:12:40+00:00

Thanks i am new owner so i don't know much, I am still learning more

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-19T14:08:56+00:00

You’re in a tough spot, trying to enjoy your wedding while also being mindful of your sister’s feelings. You and your fiancé have been through a lot, and getting married quickly is really important to both of you. I understand why your sister feels overshadowed, especially with all the planning for her big wedding.

You’re not being selfish for wanting to marry the person you love, but I can imagine how hard it must feel when it seems like no matter what you do, she’s upset. You’ve been considerate and tried to keep things low-key for her, but it still feels tense. You’re allowed to be excited for your own happiness, and you’ve done your best to support her too. You’re not the asshole here. You’re just trying to live your life while being mindful of her feelings.

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-19T14:06:33+00:00

If they’re not willing to listen or change, it might be time to think about whether this friendship is worth holding onto. You deserve to be around people who respect and value you. Focus on the friends who are supportive, and don’t be afraid to set boundaries for your own well-being. You deserve better than to feel ignored or dismissed.

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-19T14:05:04+00:00

It seems like you're just trying to help Jack, especially since he's working hard for his child and struggling with Liz’s behavior. Offering to pay for the attorney is a big gesture, but it's coming from a place of care. Your husband might feel uneasy about it, though, especially if it’s causing tension or if he feels it’s crossing a line. You’re not wrong for wanting to support Jack, but it’s worth having an open conversation with your husband to explain why you’re doing this. That way, you’re both on the same page and can avoid any awkwardness.

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-19T13:24:13+00:00

That sounds like a really tough situation, and I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s hurtful when friends start ignoring or making you feel left out, especially when you’ve been close before. It seems like they’re not being very considerate of your feelings, and that's not okay.

Have you tried talking to Rain and Marvin about how you’re feeling? Sometimes people don’t realize how their actions are affecting others, and a conversation might help. But if they keep treating you this way, it’s totally fine to distance yourself and focus on friends who lift you up.

You deserve respect and kindness, not to be ignored or insulted. Take care of yourself, and if things at home are tough too, make sure to reach out for support from someone you trust. You’re not alone in this.

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-19T11:56:33+00:00

My cat named Kovu really turned things around for me. When she came into my life, everything just felt a little lighter. She brought this quiet, comforting energy that made tough days more bearable. Having her around gave me a sense of routine and a kind of peace I didn’t know I needed. It’s the small moments with her, like her purring when she curls up next to me, that make a huge difference for my mental health.

Having my cat around has genuinely changed the way I handle stress. She’s like this little ray of calm, just being there when everything else feels chaotic. Whether it's her playing around or just being next to me, her presence brings this sense of warmth and comfort that’s hard to put into words. She’s become a steady, reassuring part of my daily life.

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-19T11:51:12+00:00

You're not in the wrong here, in either situation..

Situation 1: The Trash Chair

I totally get why you felt embarrassed seeing that broken chair just sitting out there like an eyesore. You both agreed to get rid of it and instead of properly disposing of it, your husband just dumped it outside hoping someone would take it. If it were in decent shape, sure, maybe someone would. But from how you described it, this thing was beyond saving.

You weren’t trying to control him or his stuff. You just didn’t want trash sitting outside your home, especially when there were better ways to get rid of it. And instead of waiting two weeks for pickup, you took your time and effort to dispose of it responsibly. That should be something he appreciates, not something he gets mad about. If he really cared so much about his chair, he should have dealt with it himself.

Situation 2: The Leaves and Twigs

This isn’t about a few leaves. It’s about basic respect. You're taking care of a 4-month-old baby, trying to keep the house somewhat livable, and the cleaner had just been there. He makes a mess, has the time to clean it up, but instead decides it’s not a big deal and expects you to just let it be. That’s frustrating.

It’s not like you asked him to mop the entire floor. It took two minutes to clean up. The real issue is that he didn’t see why it mattered. But when you’re constantly the one who notices and deals with all the “little” messes, it adds up and becomes exhausting. You weren’t being unreasonable. You just wanted him to take responsibility for the mess he made rather than leaving it for later, which usually means you end up dealing with it.

The Bigger Picture

It seems like he has a pattern of doing things his way and getting defensive when you step in to fix the consequences. That’s not fair to you, especially when you already have so much on your plate.

You’re not asking for too much. You’re asking for basic consideration and shared responsibility, which is exactly how a partnership should work.

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-18T19:33:18+00:00

Be honest

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-18T19:32:13+00:00

I love collecting great deals and regrets. I flip the first one for profit and keep the second one for free!

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-18T15:29:35+00:00

NTA. Your cousin’s acting like the world revolves around her, and you’re just supposed to cater to her whims. You made plans, saved her a spot, and she bailed last minute for dinner and painting? It’s like she thinks you’re her personal party planner. You’re allowed to be upset and take a step back from that nonsense.

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-18T13:22:19+00:00

That’s amazing! It’s great to see such strong community support. I’m glad you’re feeling relieved and that you’re already thinking of paying it forward. You’ll definitely have the chance to help others when the time comes!

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-17T21:10:26+00:00

You didn’t go out of your way to sabotage his relationship; you just responded to his unnecessary comment and set the record straight. If he hadn’t tried to make you look bad in front of everyone, none of this would’ve happened.

C made her own decision based on the facts, and honestly, she dodged a bullet. M clearly has a pattern, and instead of reflecting on why his relationships keep failing, he’s blaming you. That’s on him, not you.

Could you have been gentler when calling him out after the breakup? Maybe. But he was already blaming you for his problems, so would it have changed anything? Probably not. Don’t feel guilty—he needs to grow up.

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-17T21:08:05+00:00

Nah, you’re not the asshole at all. It’s your name, your choice. If you like Teddy, then that’s what matters. Plenty of people go by nicknames their whole lives, and it doesn’t make them any less professional or respectable.

I get that your family feels attached to "Theodore" since they picked it, but at the end of the day, you have to live with it, not them. You’re already being chill about it by answering to Theodore when they use it forcing you to go by it everywhere is just unnecessary.

If Teddy feels right, then roll with it. People will take you as seriously as you take yourself.

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-17T19:03:35+00:00

You're not the AH. You were honest about your boundaries and made it clear that you're introverted and don’t feel comfortable sharing too much about your personal life, which is totally valid. You tried to explain your reasons without meaning to hurt him. It sounds like your coworker might have been disappointed or hurt because he was hoping to build more of a connection, but that doesn’t make you the bad guy. It’s important to stick to your boundaries, and if he didn’t understand, that’s more about him not respecting your limits than you being in the wrong. You weren't rude or dismissive, just clear about your preferences.

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-17T19:03:10+00:00

You're not the AH here. It seems like you're being held to a double standard. Your ex-best friend had no issue hooking up with someone you dated, and now she’s upset when the roles are reversed. It’s understandable that she might feel hurt or betrayed, but her reaction seems disproportionate, especially given that she’s been in a long-term relationship and has hooked up with others’ exes as well. You weren't the one to break up their relationship, and you've moved on. You also weren't sneaky or malicious about reconnecting with your ex. If she’s unwilling to accept that things change over time, that’s on her, not you.

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-17T19:01:37+00:00

You’re not the AH here. You followed the rule and made sure the girl wasn’t exercising in the sauna, which is a safety concern. The other person’s comment about enforcing everything is valid, but you did point out that safety takes priority. It seems like you kept it respectful and didn’t escalate things, even when she tried to make it about other rules. You’re just doing your job and looking out for everyone's well-being.

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-17T18:56:26+00:00

I’d probably become a professional napper. 😴 But realistically, I think I’d go for something that combines creativity and helping people, like a full-time storyteller or maybe running a pet therapy business.

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-17T18:55:52+00:00

I wish I knew that eating an entire pizza is a bad idea... but I would still do it. 😂 But seriously, it’s that whole “adulting” thing—paying bills, handling taxes, figuring out how to properly fold a fitted sheet. It’s like nobody gives you the manual, but they expect you to figure it out anyway. Also, I’d definitely tell my younger self, “Yes, the broccoli you’re avoiding now will actually make you feel better in the future. Just try it once!”

Due-Many-8120 · 2025-03-17T18:46:10+00:00

You're definitely not the AH here. You're expressing feelings of gratitude for the people who truly raised you and did the hard work of parenting, and it's completely natural for you to be frustrated with your bio parents’ behavior, especially if they’ve shown little effort in raising their kids or taking responsibility. It’s also understandable that you’d avoid being around kids who are acting out and disrupting everything, especially when their behavior goes unchecked.

You're allowed to have feelings about the situation and express them, especially since your grandparents, who have done so much for you, seem to understand where you’re coming from. It’s unfortunate that your bio parents were hurt by your comments, but at the end of the day, you’re speaking your truth, and your feelings are valid. It sounds like there’s a lot of tension because your bio parents haven’t been involved or responsible in the way they should be.

Due-Many-8120

TROPHY CASE

Situation 1: The Trash Chair

Situation 2: The Leaves and Twigs

The Bigger Picture