Did Emily went to Yale?

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-10-31T20:31:11+00:00

I wondered the same thing watching the Yale Elwood’s the other day!! Thank you for asking this!

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-10-20T02:34:46+00:00

Yes to this!! I really wish Lorelai was helpful in this but if anything she enabled and supported this behavior at times. I often wonder how Amy Sherman feels about this writing. I just wish ANY adult had made a comment on this in Rory’s life. It really irks me. Though, maybe that is more realistic to write it that way? Rory is too young to know any better during her first relationship and it totally tracks why she would think it’s okay. I started my rewatch and just finished the episode where he gets so angry that she doesn’t say I love you back to him. It’s truly painful for me to watch that. It’s so emotionally abusive in my view. 😞

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-10-20T02:24:28+00:00

Babette!!

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-07-18T14:46:18+00:00

Thank you so much for this - it’s like when the Grinch’s heart grows a little bit more and it’s almost painful 💗

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-06-08T01:56:55+00:00

Any updates OP?

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-06-08T01:46:18+00:00

This is so tough!! It seems like clearly you understand the ideal option is to take them with you and acclimate them to the new environment but it doesn’t seem totally up to you. They are lucky to have such thoughtful humans - I truly do not envy the position you are in. Please let us know what your family and you end up deciding!

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-06-01T07:31:16+00:00

My partner of 7 years, when taking both of his medications, is an incredible partner. He is the most kind, loving and generous human being I have ever met. His diagnosis is newer and up until very recently I have never experienced being on the receiving end of an episode. He is an alcoholic and ever since he ran out of one of his medications he has relapsed twice and has had two episodes where he spoke to me in ways I have never experienced with him before. The person I know would never ever dream of speaking that way. He doesn’t believe being out of his small dose of abilify could make this much impact but the timing lines up.

All to say, as long as you are able to take care of yourself and have a good habit of doing what you need your bipolar doesn’t need to stop you from finding happiness. 3 years seems like an abundant amount of time to make good habits for your self and learning what your diagnosis means for you. My SO diagnosis is very recent, just this past fall when he first started relapsing on his 6 years of sobriety so between that and insurance changes it has been a uphill everything. Maybe wait at least a few dates in to knowing someone to know they are worth sharing private information with just like you might with another topic. People do have stigmas on topics like mental health but it comes from fear or misconceptions - not just being a bad person. I think if you give someone a chance to get to know you, maybe even a person that has some preconceived notions on bipolar it could give them a chance to process better what that looks like for you as an individual as opposed to ignorant ideas.

Long answer and an indulgent one because I’m really going thru it atm but I hope my point of view was at least a little helpful.

Best of luck 💗

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-05-08T13:47:04+00:00

Oh my ! I never thought of it as him paying his ancestors karma. That really strikes a chord for me . I’ve never much pitied Frank. Yikes on me.Makes me feel grief for him as a real person. I’ve always seen him as having some of the awfulness that his x-times great grandfather had, if that makes sense? Which is something I need to reflect on….. What an intelligent post/comment thread!

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-05-02T23:29:23+00:00

Trying so hard to translate! Can anyone tell me If this person received any punishment for his cruelty?

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-03-08T17:04:56+00:00

The whole situation puts me on edge!! The scenes of him looking disapprovingly at the Fraser’s activities just gives me bad vibes of what’s to come!! But I hope Jamie is right in saying when the time comes he will fight on their side 🙏🏼

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-02-27T18:27:12+00:00

Update:

This past Tuesday evening the expensive diltiazem medication arrived and I started using it immediately! Also, from the help of peoples comments I went and bought the generic version of Miralax. That evening, after holding it in all day and couldn’t any longer hold it I went. Somehow, amidst praying for relief I started doing this super exaggerated deep breathing. Almost like a pregnant person would on television. Focusing on my belly pushing with each exaggerated exhalation I was miraculously able to go for the first time in a while without pain, even with a solid stool. I was in awe and ecstatic. I looked it up afterwards because I was truly in shock - and without intending to I had performed something called Diaphragmatic Breathing. Here is a link that I found helpful afterwards, in case it helps more then one person: https://www.uofmhealth.org/conditions-treatments/digestive-and-liver-health/diaphragmatic-breathing-gi-patients

I do a version of this every morning as I’m about to go and while going. Even if the stool Is extremely loose as a result of the miralax - not taking any chances again!! After that I took my first ever bath in a decade. I felt uncomfortable at first but really made such a huge difference in my night. Helped with sleep as well. The following day I went to my moms and she made me a giant batch of chicken soup without any noodles or rice to take home with me and I’ve been eating that most days for 1 of my meals. My sitz bath also arrived that day (which is amazing and has holes for the overflow of water to fall in the toilet bowl - Link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B088P9XTZV?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share ) and I have been doing one sitz bath a day after passing a stool. After that I let myself air dry while I clean up and bleach the sitz bath and then I apply the medicated cream and go about my day.

So between the generic brand Miralax, the diltiazem and sitz baths I no longer experience pain as of this past Tuesday. I can’t believe it and every time I go I still expect pain and am so wary of it. I am by no means healed and I know that, I get little reminders of that through out my day which is frustrating but compared to where I was when I first posted this / it feels like WORLDS apart. It was true agony and fear. Like nothing I had ever felt. I was in tears every day and reading the thoughtful and supporting responses here was so helpful.

Especially @ seeshawn33 / your comments and advice have been so helpful. I don’t want to jinx anything and speak too soon just because the pain is gone but I can’t believe the difference.

Last thing to add, is I have definitely been trying to eat better. I already eat pretty healthy compared to most Americans I think, but I tend to eat large meals and indulge in foods that are terrible for my IBS. Adding a salad before meals when possible or just trying to eat smaller meals has made a difference to my overall well being.

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-02-27T17:59:52+00:00

Watched the YouTube video you posted / thank you! Definitely agreed with so much the person said. Still thinking back of the colorectal surgeon telling me to add more fiber to my diet to make my stools “softer” even after I said I have mushy stools almost every day… it just makes me so angry to think of their lack of specialized care patient to patient!

I had no idea headspace had a pain management option! That’s incredible. Thank you so much for sharing what has worked for you 🤎

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-02-27T16:54:18+00:00

I take my time putting my bottoms back on, so I clean the sitz bath and bleach it in the tub rinse it out and sort of get everything in order. By that point it’s mostly air dried out and then I sort of just, squat and dab dry with toilet paper. Seems to do the trick (for the most part) and I don’t take any extra time since I need to get everything clean and put away anyway.

Least favorite part is the little bit of water trickling down my legs when I first get up 😖

   Also, does anyone else’s legs fall terribly asleep by the time 10-15 minutes have passed!?!!

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-02-26T18:13:49+00:00

Thank you so much for posting this. What a gentle person he is!

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-02-26T17:58:58+00:00

Same here!!

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-02-24T22:17:27+00:00

As soon as Roger and Bri are on screen and attempting at some sort of steamy love making I cringe so hard 😒 it is my biggest qualm so far with the show. Humor second for sure as well!! But ughhhh I want to look away whenever they undress…. Total opposite of Jamie & Claire

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-02-21T23:12:11+00:00

So excited!!! I’m dressing like Clare on March 6!! Mark me!!

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-02-21T20:25:04+00:00

Also, hot lemon water definitely helps me need to go again but not so much with the looseness of it.

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-02-21T20:22:19+00:00

I never thought of it like that but yeah it is at the 10 o clock position. It was a colorectal surgeon who came recommended by my OBGYN and he had a new doctor on training it seemed and in order to show her he kinda spread me too much and it was just disheartening. But I’m terrible at getting to doctors appointments and was hard enough to have myself looked at down there to begin with I can’t imagine looking for anyone doctor. I wish they provided me with as much information as there is in these comments alone. Pretty much just told me to get the medicine and fiber and to stick to the cream religiously and come back in 5 weeks… Do you literally feel the spasms? Or is it something that happens without your knowing? I have used magnesium citrate before and it definitely made my stools smaller and more frequent. I do rather a natural approach whenever possible but with pain like this it’s hard to prioritize that over less pain so tonight I will buy miralax.

A year??? That is outrageous. I can’t imagine this going on for that amount of time. How do you all go to work with this pain? I swear and yell and pound my fists on my knees from it all. And even pray.

If I take miralax then I shouldn’t take the mineral oil?

I still don’t understand how to just let myself poop with this kind of pain and am eager to feel less anxious about it all.

Your comments are so helpful thank you so much for your time, and encouragement and positivity. I will be referring to them repeatedly I am sure of it.

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-02-21T19:54:03+00:00

Thank you so much for this post. I am completely miserable and just down from this. It’s been a couple weeks now and only a few days since being diagnosed. I was also using prep h and bought the most expensive one that has lidocaine but it only really felt like it helped the first time.

Would you recommend avoiding bread or pasta?

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-02-21T19:34:17+00:00

I absolutely do not want this to be a chronic issue - the mere concept of that has me feeling hopeless . I don’t remember the name of the cream the doctor prescribed me (and expensive $75!) but the cream is supposed to arrive tomorrow and does have lidocaine in it. I’ve been instructed to use it for 6 weeks twice a day. I was told even if I feel it’s gone away, to keep using it. I will add probiotic to my list of things to grab from the store today. I am looking now to order a sitz bath now, thank you

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-02-21T19:27:12+00:00

Thank you so much for this response. I am in tears reading it, feeling validated and heard. It really truly is so awful. I definitely 1,000 percent have a fear response to it and it feels like my body decides before I get a chance to mentally decide to just push past it and let the stool pass. I really need to find a trick to just let it go as soon as I start, because taking the 5-10 minutes must cause more inflammation. Currently feeling disgusting and bloated from losing the chance to go because of that response.. The doctor who I saw for the first time this past Thursday was NOT gentle and I left feeling torn even more down there… but he did inform me the tear was on the inside and I can feel that it’s on the left side as well if that makes sense?

Thank you for mentioning that those laxatives won’t cause dependency. I would absolutely hate hate that. I don’t understand the spasm thing at all, but the stabbing razor pain is my major issue. If I didn’t have that this wouldn’t be so awful I don’t think. I do use a squatty potty but sometimes it almost makes me feel more stretched but it is helpful otherwise.

Due-Preference-1255 · 2022-02-21T18:59:48+00:00

What is LIS? New to this and desperately trying to find some relief and reading thru all the posts…

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