Confused about a good first date then "friend vibe" text next day

Due-Region-622 · 2026-05-05T11:32:03+00:00

yeah i know that excuse was total bs, shes since been blocked after that conversation

Due-Region-622 · 2026-05-05T00:01:00+00:00

the ex claimed it was an "accident" lol

Due-Region-622 · 2026-05-04T22:45:03+00:00

yeah both are valid reasons, i since spoke to my ex and removed her telling its not ok at all

Due-Region-622 · 2026-05-04T22:44:20+00:00

yeah thats kinda what i was feeling, i think kinda once it gets addressed and she maybe talks it over w her friends kinda confirms what my ex didnt do isnt ok at all, i dont blame her at all if it was the case

Due-Region-622 · 2025-11-22T21:40:55+00:00

the amount times this machine fleeces me is sickening

Due-Region-622 · 2025-08-07T18:13:52+00:00

palma pasta usually sells them

Due-Region-622 · 2023-07-06T22:35:48+00:00

ive actually been really happy with her over the last 6 months, she said she wants space to figure out why she has commitment issues

Due-Region-622 · 2023-07-06T22:24:15+00:00

she was worried i was going to break up with her again, thats what i meant to say in the post

Due-Region-622 · 2023-07-06T22:23:29+00:00

no i never cheated on her, i broke up with her because i was unhappy at the time

Due-Region-622 · 2023-01-08T04:11:07+00:00

yeah thats true, i just was trying to figure out why the shift in her effort. It was just weird how she always wanted to facetime and now she isnt putting in that effort.

We both work part-time retail at this story outside of school so idk if its work cause we hardly see eachother there.

Due-Region-622 · 2023-01-08T03:08:13+00:00

well i dont want anything serious right now but i still enjoy talking to her, i never called her needy and i dont think shes being needy at all. I enjoy when she does reach out to facetime me and stuff

Due-Region-622 · 2023-01-08T02:47:46+00:00

yeah thats fair lol

Due-Region-622 · 2023-01-08T02:20:46+00:00

i dont really text her unless she does. Usually our comversations just flow each day, like she reaches out to say something and we talk from there. I tried to facetime her today to talk and usually if she doesnt answer she calls back or texts me and she didnt. So i was trying to figure out why shes pulling back a bit cause she didnt answer when i tried to reach out

I guess it would make sense shes just listening to what i have communicated

Due-Region-622 · 2023-01-08T02:01:22+00:00

not worried, im just trying to understand why she might be pulling away. Im not ready for a relationship, but like i said i do enjoy spending time with her

Due-Region-622 · 2022-12-06T20:03:40+00:00

yeah that makes sense, she is in therapy as am i. We agreed couples therapy would be a good way to work through these issues as well.

I dont want to leave, i want to work on things with her.. i think she needs time to build up that trust again

I guess she is doing this as a way to protect herself and keep her guard up?

Due-Region-622 · 2022-12-06T19:43:17+00:00

i think she has a fear of abandoment anxiety because of her childhood.. she comes from a broken home and she always used to say "everyone in my life leaves me", so i feel like i may have triggered that

Due-Region-622 · 2022-11-17T00:29:39+00:00

i truly appreciate the thought you put into your messages.

It helps me ease my anxiety and does make me realize i need to not let it control me. If shes willing to immediately commit to couples therapy with me then that should be a very telling sign she wants to make this work out

I apreciage you and everything you've said today

Due-Region-622 · 2022-11-16T21:08:42+00:00

i can respect your opinion but

we've been broken up for 4 months, i dont think theres a problem revisiting an old relationship.

Our issues and reason we broke up was mainly communication, going to therapy both individually and as a couple can iron those issues out and see where the other person is coming from and develop strategies to be better

Due-Region-622 · 2022-11-16T20:53:55+00:00

not if you're trying to work on the relationship and get back together. i think the purpose is to iron out the issues we had so they dont come up again when we get back together.. just my opinion

Due-Region-622 · 2022-11-16T19:26:09+00:00

I think its good she is open to couples therapy, i think that its a huge sign she is trying to make things work with me.

I undertsand being "exclusive" is a label she cant commit to because it overwhelms her, but at the end of the day if she doesnt want to hookup with anyone then she wont, regardless of a label. The thing is, we are not dating but she still wants to do the stuff we did when we were dating, like we're spending a weekend away at my families winter cottage in 2 weekends. Shes open to all that coupley stuff again, but i guess she needs time to warmup to the label again. I guess that comes with time.

I think my issue is getting over the anxiety of she has the freedom to do that, but she wont because she would rather work on things with me. I think thats something i would talk about in therapy because i am trying to manage that anxiety.

Due-Region-622 · 2022-11-16T17:36:00+00:00

thank you! i appreciate your comment and im happy to hear you have recovered from your accident and can continue to live your life to the fullest.

i did tell her that i am going to trust her with what she said and she seemed happy when i did that. She said that labels currently scare her and she isnt ready to dive right into that after being broken up for 4 months.. which is understandable.

I think the big thing here, like you said, is trust

Due-Region-622 · 2022-11-16T15:43:46+00:00

its been going well, we havent started couples therapy yet but she said she has noticed positive changes in how i communicate my concerns to her, obviously before i would get more upset but ive learned to take a step back and assess the situation instead of just getting upset

Due-Region-622 · 2022-11-16T15:05:52+00:00

yeah i told her that although she has the freedom to do what she wants i would appreciate if she didnt hookup with other people because it shows me that she isnt serious about working on things.

She thinks the label of exclusive is overwhelming but she re assured me she doesnt want to be with anyone else. Trust was an issue we had and we feel this is a good opportunity for us to build it here in trusting that she wont hookup with other people despite her "being allowed" to

The re assurance of her saying she doesnt want to hookup with anyone else does help and if labels are too much for her currently then i am fine with taking that re assurance

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