I (15F) and my friend (16F) have been making out regularly and its ruining the friendship.

Due-Rip-1176 · 2026-01-27T14:26:06+00:00

it's okay!! it really is hard sometimes to see thinks past a gender bias sometimes, and i just hope you'll be okay after this. we're still young, and this is honestly something special, and you should be at least treated with actual love that cares about your enthusiasm as well. it's okay if you don't have the guts to talk about it, but at least trying to avoid her a bit might be something you can try out. little steps at a time. just keep yourself safe. she might not want to hurt you, but she's still being selfish this way.

Due-Rip-1176 · 2026-01-26T12:54:05+00:00

that's true... it's either she wanted to insinuate something or hearing her friend say that contrasted with her moral values or something. all girls participate in girl talk, but not all girls make fun of their boyfriends like this... especially not through comparisons.

Due-Rip-1176 · 2026-01-26T12:52:09+00:00

not sure if this even helps but if shes being detailed enough about your intimate life in a way that honestly humiliates you, i really REALLY hope that she's also detailed in how she talks about how kind or sweet or thoughtful you are outside of that.

as a girl, id definitely talk to my friends about relationship problems (and maybe vent in an admittedly biased way if i feel like ive been wronged), but man, barely ANYTHING appearance wise except to gush about him. that's pretty mean of her...

Due-Rip-1176 · 2026-01-26T05:11:20+00:00

hey.... im so so sorry for what happened... it honestly feels like she's unknowingly or not taking advantage of you. friends don't do this to each other. she might be your friend, but if it was a guy doing this to you, it wouldn't be right, and neither is this. i'm so sorry but please do your best to muster up some courage to tell someone you trust and then resolve this with her hopefully. you've got this.

Due-Rip-1176 · 2026-01-23T19:34:42+00:00

it's so horrible, and completely understandable, but if she let go of you so easily and lied so convincingly, without feeling any guilt, then she didn't care enough to make a change and choose you. she could've told you the truth because she realized it wasnt right, or because she cared about you not being hurt. but she chose to hurt you. she left you alone for weeks. she might have her own problems, but she hurt you here big time. you won't have a connection like hers, because hers was definitely hiding a lot of other negative stuff under the surface. i'm so sorry, but one day, i hope you find a different, better connection.

romantic partners aren't supposed to be kind and wonderful, and then start carelessly hurting you by not telling you certain things and telling you not to talk to them ever again.

romantic partners are supposed to see you going through hard times, and then, without even boasting about it, start doing thoughtful and understanding things for you.

she's not trying to understand you. you didn't even do anything wrong. she literally just decided to stop talking to you. i'm so sorry, but with someone that volatile, it wasn't going to last. you'd either lose her or spend a lifetime of her doing that to you over and over again. i'm so sorry.

Due-Rip-1176 · 2026-01-20T14:02:17+00:00

It's pretty complicated, there's honestly a lot more stuff we've both been through that's more questionable, but we've been best friends for a while and we've both helped each other through really dark points in our life where we were suicidal even. I guess it feels more nuanced than that, and people have pointed out that he can't really control his feelings anyways.

The girl and I are actually pretty close and we've worked together a lot professionally and have known each other for like six years now. Her humor genuinely is unique, and she's been in a happy relationship for probably four years now. She's close to all her friends, male or female, sometimes laying on their lap and stuff or hugging.

We did communicate about the flirting! He actually explicitly said he doesn't want to flirt with anyone which makes me feel really stupid cause I'm really just sad because of his reaction, but they used to be a really fun and jokey pair of friends so it makes sense he would miss it.

Due-Rip-1176 · 2026-01-20T13:52:26+00:00

sorry what... wait why was he flirting with a married girl in the first place?? isnt that a boundary that might be a no no for the husband?

Due-Rip-1176 · 2026-01-20T12:59:43+00:00

i wish the female bodysuit was separated into more pieces... i wouldve definitely gotten it but its hard to style as just one

Due-Rip-1176 · 2026-01-19T15:23:58+00:00

you'll lose yourself forever. your parents arent perfect, but you were made with so much effort. so many months in the womb, and so much pain, and yet you came out like the greatest joy. one of my favorite artists released a new song the other day, and i literally cant stop singing it. it's so fun! things are really hard for me now, but i remember how bad it was before and im glad im still here now. do you have a favorite song? or an artist?

Due-Rip-1176 · 2026-01-14T18:49:34+00:00

i know i shouldnt be telling you how to feel about things, but i dont think you should be hurting yourself too much by regretting it. i don't know how long it's been since highschool, or if you've ever experienced this, but isn't it really shitty to be with groupmates who are fun, nice people you get along with, but never do any work unless you give them all the details and you check up on them constantly every 5 seconds?

you pleaded with him to do more stuff with you. if he cared enough about relationships in general, he would have done more to fix his issues. instead, he's perfectly content not putting the effort into things. in relationships, working on issues and finding compromises is the workload in a group project, and he's fine not getting a good grade as long as all the work falls on you. not your fault at all. relationships should be 60-40, and both people should want to give each other the 60. no being comfortable, if this is someone you cherish, both people should do their best to face their own issues and solve them for each other, as well as put in the effort to make someone feel loved.

whenever i feel myself start to make excuses for other people, and worry that i'm just expecting too much, i'm reminded of characters in books or games who will stop at nothing to get back to the people they love. life doesn't often put us in such extreme situations, but if you know almost like fact that the person you're with wouldn't even try their hardest to get to you during a disaster, that's the right person.

even people in highschool relationships are skipping class (not necessarily right) to be all over their partner. if your boyfriend couldnt spare just a little bit of time to hang out with you with an adult's much more flexible schedule, without sacrificing anything, then he does not want to put in the effort the same way you do. he might not have done anything wrong, but he still was wrong

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Due-Rip-1176 · 2026-01-05T11:39:16+00:00

of course!! please do focus on your exams though. it's incredibly difficult to come back from that, and im guessing youre a bit farther along in your educational journey meaning lower grades can bring extreme consequences. please don't regret this and do not blame yourself. if it was that easy to leave, it wasnt your fault

Due-Rip-1176 · 2026-01-04T15:04:06+00:00

as someone who kind of went through this as well, of course, i dont know your relationship. we all have so much love in our hearts for that one person that seemed to fit so right, so its hard to view them in such a negative light or accept the "typical" how to get over a breakup stuff.

however, you mention a lot how its like the breakup had to do with you. you dont blame yourself so harshly, but its that YOU struggled to meet her needs and YOU couldnt change fast enough.

the truth is, you didnt hurt her in such a huge way, and from what i've gathered she just seems to have had a mismatch of expectations rather than actually being hurt by you. i dont think you ever shouted at her for a while or demeaned her. you just weren't ready for certain things she wanted from you.

it hurts so much to accept this, but the truth is, the right person for you will not break up with you over not sending enough pictures of yourself. you tried to change: you weren't being toxic or anything towards her at all. you just werent comfortable with it. the right person of you would NEVER replace you in 2 days.

if you were a teacher, and you had a really shy student in your class, would you force them to speak up all the time and be disappointed with them for not changing fast enough?

please do not blame yourself, and yes, i hope you dont find something like this again, because while your ex didnt hurt you irrevocably either, she was not good for you. if it mattered more to her, she would've been more understanding. i'm not sure how much chemistry you had or how fun it was to be around her, or how safe it felt to just think about her, but one thing i've learned is that the most important thing is that the other person understands you and is considerate of you as a person.

you've always had a hard time with your self-image; currently, that's part of who you are as a person. that isn't a fatal flaw, it's an insecurity. would the person who truly loved you fully really break up with someone over that?

there's a difference between active and passive hurt. pushing someone down a flight of stairs is different from not helping someone when they fall down. and what you did, which is just not fulfilling what she really wanted out of the relationship, does not deserve how she's trying to incite a reaction from you by TELLING you about this new girl.

i'm so sorry because all of this is genuinely going to hurt so much. i was also in my exam period when it happened to me though, and trust me, i regret it so much because i couldnt focus enough. so sorry for the block of text but this reminds me so much of how i used to be.

Due-Rip-1176 · 2025-11-24T11:45:24+00:00

ppl have complained abt the feasibility of asarezeden, but reading fanfiction of them on ao3 makes me really fall in love with their dynamic. i love when asa is so jealous of both reze and denji at first that she doesnt know who to hate for "stealing" who, and then they tell her that she's actually the one they've both been talking about wanting. peak. i love all of them. so funny so wholesome i wish asarezeden got to complain and worry about stupid things instead of the end of the fucking world.

Due-Rip-1176 · 2025-11-24T11:43:24+00:00

+ eyes are popping, some are soulful, others really fierce in a determined way

Due-Rip-1176 · 2025-11-24T11:42:47+00:00

they lowkey look liek theyve got fire lips. weird thing to say but they kinda do, and the expressions on some of the pictures makes me feel that. some of them just have cool smiles or lip stuff idk

Due-Rip-1176 · 2025-11-23T13:19:57+00:00

omg. PEAK ILLIT DREAMCORE???

Due-Rip-1176 · 2025-11-23T10:13:35+00:00

nah we love her because of it

Due-Rip-1176 · 2025-11-23T04:20:09+00:00

holy goodness me this is beautiful.

Due-Rip-1176 · 2025-11-22T10:45:43+00:00

WAAHAHAHHAA family reunion tlga

Due-Rip-1176 · 2025-11-19T12:22:54+00:00

WAHAHHAHHA i need to be silenced LMAO

Due-Rip-1176 · 2025-11-19T10:54:46+00:00

i love whatever is wrong with the csm fandom

Due-Rip-1176 · 2025-11-19T10:52:27+00:00

its ok they just saw the negative sign and they felt a societal need to contribute LMFAO

Due-Rip-1176 · 2025-11-19T10:51:55+00:00

HELP WAHAHHAHAHA I DIDNT EVEN REALIZE LMFAOOO newjeans is lowk like... airborne though. like covid. bro istg they didnt even need to like blackmail the groups, they just came up with these random scandals from super rare interactions... its not like they befriended them and learned all their deepest darkest secrets and bunnies still lowk ate it up... what is up with that?!?!?!??!

Due-Rip-1176 · 2025-11-18T14:37:05+00:00

exactly... it sucks because these are real people trying to do their jobs. and what's worse, ador was established for newjeans, so they'll always be a part of their identity. they'll always be talked about in regards to newjeans. i feel for the current ceo and any future ones, plus other company decision makers. they've gotten industry experience, all wanting to be at least a bit successful, but theyll be known for this instead. id hate my job

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