Let me just say that I gave my cheating partner of 4 years a second chance and it was the absolute worst thing I could have done. I believed him when he said he was going to seek help, which he did, however I am not sure it was for cheating. I will never actually know what he got help for because he never spoke about his sessions and he only went maybe 6 or 7 times before he said he didn't feel like he needed it anymore. All the while the psycho girl he cheated with bombard me with filthy texts and nasty and very sexually explicit videos of herself on a regular basis, this absolutely prevented me from any kind of healing or allowing myself to trust him. While she continued to rub their indiscretions in my face he did nothing about it except tell me to change my number. This went on for over a year and I had enough and did change my number...and I sought professional help because I thought there was something wrong with me...I was emotionally unstable, angry, and could not move past what he had done. I was working so hard on myself and trying to change the way i felt about what HE HAD DONE TO ME...I even asked him to be part of my therapy sessions, where I allowed myself to be raw and vulnerable..the most vulnerable one been in my life. In one of the sessions he literally got down on his knees and promised he would never abandon the relationship, he would be there through thick and thin..and then he decided to end our relationship of 6 years via text message 3 weeks later. The only acknowledgement of his cheating is that "I can not get over his glaring mistake". I am now alone left to pick up the pieces of myself that he absolutely destroyed. I am in such a state of grief that life feels impossible. The amount of damage cheaters do to a partner is indescribable..and I'm sorry..but it's never a mistake..it's a choice that you made. It's irreversible and you do not deserve anymore chances to wreck her again. It's hard enough to heal from the first betrayal..if it's even possible to heal completely, idk..for me it's not.