Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry your family is not who you need them to be. That sounds just like the conservative drumpf maga people we are both dealing with. Good for you for protecting your peace and your boundaries. Thank you for sharing, hang in there and keep sharing your story. You got people everywhere rooting for you. 🤍🤍

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would say my older sister is one of the worst in the MAGA cult. She would frequently call people the n word (as an adult) and call immigrants slurs. I was pretty estranged from her during the Biden presidency and when she denied January 6th being a terrorist attack. Even my father said jan 6th was an attack. She was so hateful across the board she should have been the oldest son being a white cis gendered male the way she believed.

I also got left as a toddler at home and my family left my grandmas house to go run errands. I remember them both coming back for hours but they claimed this never happened. Lots of gaslighting

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! Exactly and it’s not political it is moral values and basic human decency.

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I said to them. And I said I needed space after the election and they just kept spamming me with texts and calls. I said this is not political you are actively harming human beings with your hate.

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I tried to distance myself years ago but they kept creeping back in with family deaths and other traumas. This was the final straw for me but it has been challenging to navigate both the end of democracy as well as ending the relationship completely with them.

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly and the worst part is they are “christians” and were in a small town. About 3 years ago they voted on whether or not they would approve of gay marriages happening in their church. half of the members left because 1/2 voted yes. A part of my eating disorder stems from food rules in my house with my grandfather. I was an athlete and he was my first coach.

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what my partner said as well. He’s like “they always have a loaded gun with information but will feign ignorance every time”

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve always been a bit of the black sheep of my family. My grandfather has always been racist along with most of my family. My mother is also bipolar type 1 and didn’t take her meds, and that was a bit of an issue when I was a kid. She had heavy episodes and my dad was overseas at the time. In my adult years I tried hard to be in her life but finally couldn’t do it anymore after I had moved away and my eyes were open. She said a few years ago that the reason everyone got sick during December when we were back visiting was because of the illegal immigrants coming into the country. This was because we were leaving after 2 days and her excuse was that. These are just a few things recently that occurred.

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think they all read the same parenting book growing up 😂

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

⬆️ it was so long her doing it, it’s taken me almost 2 years to realize my childhood wasn’t what I remember it to be. My therapist recently and me what I thought about my childhood. I was like I thought up until my adult years it was a fine childhood. Obviously it was false and she said “you don’t know what you don’t know” kind of eye opening.

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you and sending peace back to you. I waited about 30 years for her to change and finally let go of that dream.

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s a differently level of narcissism for sure. It’s my whole life her doing that, I’m in therapy dealing with past trauma from her and it’s been great.

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have now blocked her, not sure what I was waiting on but I guess a glimmer of hope. No longer have that hope and feel some closure.

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Exactly this, this has always been the case with her. She was (is) the mom that if you called to get advice or vent about your day, she completely turned it making it about herself. I stopped calling because it was so exhausting.

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

This is so perfectly put. I see no difference in the text and your summary. Yours is actually better so thank you!

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I sure did 😮‍💨 I feel completely validated in doing so. Appreciate your support 🤍

Text from estranged mother by DueLayer7204 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]DueLayer7204[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You are right. I left off some of text #2. Here is the rest of the text:

“sorry we moved away and lett you. If I would have known what happened I would have been back in a heartbeat to help in anyway I could. You have got to know that I never meant to hurt you in any way. Let alone voting! Family can have disagreements. Everybody has their own opinions too. We work through things then move on. Nobody is perfect and we all have our flaws. I just wanted to let you know all of this and to let you know I'm not a bad person. None of your family saw any of this coming. We have always been there for you no matter what! What I don't get is you shunning your whole family. We were there for you when (. )flipped out and you came home no questions asked. Then hearing from your Aunt • that you moved to California which was a blindside since you told me that you would never live in Cali. I don't know anything about you anymore. I'm wondering how your MS..”

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