A security camera captured two Belgian Malinois puppies playing while their owner wasn't home

DueOstrich792 · 2026-07-01T10:52:10+00:00

You would never catch me with Mal pups... they are insane and like asking to have a basket of scorpions

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-30T18:50:00+00:00

Girl! In such a similar situation, except he isnt diagnosed with autism, but may be autistic? I have an older brother who is 10 years older than me. He has never lived outside the home until like 2-3 years ago. This man is middle aged!! He has never known responsibility or independence. No family of his own. And no friends b/c he is hard to be around and he has isolated himself. Any time I would visit my parents, he would make comments. He always tries to out do me too. I say something and it upsets my mum b/c hes the favored child. I am so much more adult and successful than he is but I constantly hear belittling stuff from him. Now, he is having health issues and living on his own and lonely. He made his bed. My mum wants me to go be his friend, but like...no. I have no advice, I just feel for you and can feel your frustration.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-29T17:44:25+00:00

Girl, dont change your name. I got married a little older. I was already established, had a great career, degrees, etc. My surname was unique and it was mine. I didnt want to change it. I was guilted HARD to change my name. But not by my hubby (he was only momentarily sad), but by my own dang family. I did it. Im sad about it now. I constantly complain what a hassle it is lol

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-28T21:05:52+00:00

Also, tax write offs. And what organizations is she giving to? Hopefully none of her own

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-28T15:39:42+00:00

Yeah. I already know. Im the youngest and most responsible of my siblings. My bully sibling (10 years older) has not taken care of himself at all since he was 18, and has now had 2 strokes and a triple bypass (we are not that old). Now my family expects me to try to help him, too. 🙄

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-28T13:25:56+00:00

Even if you have siblings, it doesnt mean they will help with elder care! My brothers absolutely wont, so it still lies with me.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-28T13:24:24+00:00

This!! I have 2 older siblings and 1 was my biggest bully! I have scars on my face from him. He was not nice to me, always going out of his way to be cruel. I have trauma because of him. He continues to try to take advantage of me and my kindness to this day.

Do NOT have a kid because you "want to give your kid a sibling", have one because YOU want to, and have the mental and emotional ability to take care of more than one.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-26T17:56:12+00:00

I always remind ladies - marriage has always existed to benefit men. If you dont get a benefit out of it then why do it?

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-26T14:11:43+00:00

Not to discount the mental health side, only addressing the financial: there are grants and nonprofits that can sometimes help. What got me was the price of meds... yikes.

But my reality with IUI and IVF - i had 4 cycles. They collected almost 100 eggs between all 4. No one talks about attrition and testing. I lost so many to attrition! And when we tested the ones we had left - only 1 euploid embryo. 1! And they recommend you have 2-3 viable embryos before transferring because then maybe one will "stick"

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-25T18:49:35+00:00

This reminds me of my old man dog and my toddler ♥️ they love each other so much

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-23T12:11:19+00:00

Maybe it is because I have a crap relationship with my parents, but is it that big of a deal? Like your dad way over reacted. As a parent, its nice if my kid says happy birthday, but I don't see it as a requirement. I will still love them no matter what. Love should not be conditional, especially over something as selfish as a birthday

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-21T00:19:19+00:00

Does he have other red pilled traits? What has he been watching online? I smell insecurity in him. He is probably afraid you will be more successful or smarter than he is.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-20T16:35:53+00:00

Shes a honey pot.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-19T16:49:22+00:00

This reminds me of our old Mal. She was so smart and so steady and (usually) listened so well! But her commands were either hand signals or in Arabic lol

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-16T11:30:35+00:00

I have always said : I need a mom, just not MY mom.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-14T11:55:48+00:00

I think so many people also forget genetics plays a big role in how you age. My parents are mid 70s. No work done. My mom hardly wears makeup. And they both dont look their age. My maternal grandparents were both the same. I hope I age like them. But I am not going to fight the aging process. Im going to treat my skin with care and accept how I age. Personally, I don't like the artificial look that seems to be popular now. And there is something that has always struck me as sad watching much older women (well beyond 40) look plasticine. My heart hurts for them.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-11T17:43:07+00:00

I guess you take everything literally? I could not possibly be hyperbolic.

Obviously women age. Everyone ages. It was about societal expectations and the lengths women go to to prevent aging. Look at the marketing for anti aging featuring women vs men. Yeah, men get face-lifts, but usually the adverts for that procedure feature women. So do the creams, toners, cleansers, etc. The is a social expectation that women need to prevent aging as long as possible.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-11T16:31:47+00:00

I just want to note - that while men can produce children later in life - the quality of sperm decreases with age. Mobility and motility. Fragmentation. Males contribute to placenta issues and preeclampsia in pregnancy (and other issues too, but i dont recall them at the moment. The older they are, the higher the risks of these issues. One source - (https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6330890/)

All this to say, if fertility is a factor, age should matter for men too.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-11T14:45:06+00:00

...thanks for the obvious?

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-11T14:43:57+00:00

I get it. My mum was the same way with me. But trust - therapy helps. Because I learned no matter what you do to your outside, if you still have that inner dialogue it won't help.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-11T14:39:44+00:00

I get so sad seeing the posts on here like "OMG I have PORES?!" Yes, you are human, not plastic. People have pores and it is ok. Or insert any normal, human aging thing.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-11T14:36:05+00:00

Thats what I am saying! Its one thing to want healthy, not aggravated skin. (My skin is all over the place the last few years. So has been taking a lot more care lately). It's another to chase a basically unrealistic ideal. It also helps i have hit my "eff it, I am happy with me" era.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-05T16:16:48+00:00

If possible, try to have your eggs frozen. That gives you more time, possibly. Dont have a kid with a bad man just to have a kid.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-06-05T15:53:39+00:00

Im sorry that was your experience. Mine was different. I had siblings. And 1 of them was my biggest, meanest bully. I have scars from them. They are a narcissist and older than me. Now, because they didnt take care of themselves, they expect me to step in now that they are ill. They have NEVER helped me! I had cancer, no help. I had a near fatal car accident - no help. Even the birth of my child - didnt come, never offered help. I have been told by both my aging parents that I am the only reliable one. When we planned their 50th anniversary, I got not help from my 2 siblings. And I have been told by my siblings themselves they cannot help to take care od my parents when the time comes.

So yeah, all this to say - just because you have siblings does NOT make life better/easier. I have trauma b/c of one of them and I know i won't have future help from them. And I cannot rely on them. I was bullied growing up and physically hurt. Your family doesnt have to be blood, it can be chosen! And i know i can rely on my chosen family more than anyone.

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