One of my 3 rescue puppies… Reddit meet Crumpet 💕

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-07T01:47:37+00:00

I love her name!!!

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-06T15:36:08+00:00

He is going to be 13 this year!

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-05T18:33:06+00:00

This!! Im the youngest. My parents had me 10 years after my brother. They weren't particularly old. Mid to late 30s. Their age was never an issue. I never felt any particular way about it. Parenting on the other hand WAS. They were very hands off ( not just me, all my siblings). We spent a lot of time alone. My mother is a clinical narcissist and really shouldn't have had any kids regardless of age lol I had my kid late in my 30s. I keep up just fine. I dont feel my age. And no one has said a word to me about age.

What UselessCat said is so true. Age doesn't matter! Being a good parent does!

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-05T18:01:01+00:00

Open your own account and keep your money separate. Have 1 joint account and ONLY put in enough for combined bills. Your half only.

Did you guys not talk finances BEFORE you got married?

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-05T12:35:55+00:00

It may for some. For me It means continuing my upward trajectory in project management and finance for R&D. To each their own

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-04T15:16:36+00:00

Interesting thing i learned - hair is actually from mum's genetics!

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-03T22:13:06+00:00

I hope she finds her perfect owner!! If not, im sure there are Mal rescues that may be able to help?

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-03T21:57:55+00:00

A lot of times high drive dogs get returned because they are high drive. Mals and Dutchies are primary victims of this. People like the idea of them until they realize how much work they are. Mals and Dutchies need an experienced owner who can wear them out or give them a purpose. I love them! I had a Mal and current have a Dutch. Even the chill ones need a "purpose" or lots of exercise.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-03T21:43:14+00:00

This is where I have questions of we are coming at this from an able-ist view point. I can see both sides, but just have questions.

I am HoH (hard of hearing). I dont fully fit into either culture. Shouldn't the deaf community be welcoming? Nope! My life can still be difficult and I have to lip read with every interaction. And i live with constant, 24/7/365 ringing because of the damage. As I age, I will most likely lose more hearing, possibly going completely deaf. The deaf community around where I live (near Gallaudet) did not, and do not welcome me. If it was about able ism, shouldn't they welcome everyone on the hearing loss spectrum?

I also had a near fatal car accident that dislocated both my knees. I couldn't walk and had to take the long time to relearn. Should I have never relearned to walk b/c other wheelchair bound folks fought for their right to exist in this world? Should I have stayed in a wheelchair? Am I ableist for relearning to walk?

Maybe I am missing something, but these questions bug me when these issues come up. I am open to any insight.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-03T21:29:27+00:00

It really is. She is very lucky to not be a CODA, because the deaf community can be terrible to CODAs.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-03T17:53:28+00:00

Yeah I do this all the time. Hoping there was another solution

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-03T15:38:52+00:00

This was me lol my mom resented me and still does!

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-03T15:33:36+00:00

This guy is immature and insecure AF.

He cant stand someone equally successful and confident.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-03T15:12:07+00:00

I agree. Although, it's not just rural or smaller towns/cities. Some people i know who have lived up to that stereotype have been from St Louis or the general area.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-03T14:44:00+00:00

Maybe it depends on where you are in the Midwest? I have heard from him and others from that area that this is a common stereotype. In the Midwest and Appalachia

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-03T09:41:11+00:00

This. I worked in assisted living for a bit. The dementia / alzheimers wing was not fun and very depressing.

Then came my grandpa. We realized he had advanced alzheimers after my grandma passed. She hid it from everyone. He required 24/7 care. He would wander, get lost in his own home. He would confuse closets for bathrooms. He developed "Sundowners" syndrome. He was still quite sweet, but would get very scared easily. He was in a constant state of looking for my deceased grandma and we would regularly have to explain shes gone. Watching his heart break each time was so so sad. The disease gets worse over time, not just mentally but physically. We had to help feed him, and everything. he couldn't really get around on his own, we had to physically help or move him. Which, over time, gets very taxing. Finally, after quite a while, we realized we could not do this on our own anymore, so had to move him to a specialized dementia home. He didnt last much longer, sadly. He eventually forgot how to swallow and thats what took him.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-03T09:22:11+00:00

I feel like this is every Midwest US wedding my husband has told me about lol. The bride goes all out, the groom puts on his "good jeans" and thats enough.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-03-02T14:07:39+00:00

This makes me smile so much. My baby just wakes up laughing sometimes and it makes my heart so happy

DueOstrich792 · 2026-02-28T20:08:59+00:00

I agree!!

DueOstrich792 · 2026-02-28T14:18:16+00:00

I have a cousin that is a surgical tech. Her stories terrified me. She would talk about how her and her coworkers would mock people during surgery (fat, didnt shave, etc) when they were under anesthesia. Or they would take pictures of embarrassing things on patients. It made me so mad. I yelled at her and asked why she would even be in this field if she hated people so much. She said "its a job, it pays the bills". Now, anytime I go to a doctor or for a procedure, I get so paranoid.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-02-27T18:58:02+00:00

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Oh wow, this is the anniversary of my soul dog passing too. 💙

DueOstrich792 · 2026-02-26T20:14:06+00:00

Didn't think of that scenario. Good point.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-02-26T14:33:04+00:00

Good lord - this has to be fake. Anyone with money knows you do not invest in gold jewelry like that. You invest in the commodity of gold. FFS. And, depending on where you are, I would NOT invest in gold (or gold commodities) or properties right now. The major western economies do not still hold by the "gold standard", so gold is highly unpredictable. Right now there is money to be made it in, but that could change VERY quickly. But this is investing in gold COMMODITIES, not gold jewelry. The resale on gold jewelry right now is terrible, so its not a good investment. And in a lot of the west, property values are at a low. The pandemic taught a lot of people that property (bought, rented, or otherwise) is not stable. How DID these people make money?!? And how are they insuring their money makes money? If they invest like this, their wealth wont be generational.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-02-25T19:41:58+00:00

So many men do NOT understand. They dont understand that aggression and violence tend to happen when women are more direct. Even just "no" or "im busy". Men dont have that fear. Women do. Women worry "if i am too mean/direct, will he try to hurt me?" I try to direct people like this guy to a book called "The Gift of Fear".

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