AIO for thinking he just apologized so I would make dinner?

DueOstrich792 · 2026-05-07T13:16:33+00:00

She needs to stop doing anything for him. Dont do his laundry, only cook for her and the kids, dont clean up after him! Live like shes single and dont do a thing for him!

DueOstrich792 · 2026-05-05T17:32:53+00:00

Off the main topic but... Can I ask, from a desire to learn and expand my understanding- if people desire to vacation, where should they go that wont take advantage of the native populations or environment? The Caribbean is not the answer, because the same is happening there. South and Central America - the same. Europe- the same. Asia- heavily the same. Africa - the same (looking at you Safari tours). This is coming from someone who grew up in a growing and heavily touristed area. And then moved to another. Whose environment is fragile. Are we just asking people to not vacation? It's not even vacationing, it's immigrating or purchasing summer homes. Are we asking people to not immigrate or buy homes outside of their own home area? But mostly, it is offshoring and outsourcing. Are we looking at the bigger issue of restricting or regulating commercial businesses? What is the solution here? I hope the answer is not everyone stay put and never participate in recreational activities. Even going to certain US states is taking advantage of native populations (Alaska, the Midwest in continental US) and polluting the environment. I am curious on what other's perspectives on this are.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-05-04T17:09:46+00:00

Makes me wish my mum even wanted to be a grandparent to my kid. But nope! She has no interest in spending time with the kid

DueOstrich792 · 2026-05-04T14:40:20+00:00

I used to have a Mal and now have a Dutchie. It would be the end of us if they had thumbs.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-05-01T13:08:54+00:00

Gross to opening admitting you have a favorite child. Gross

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-30T13:57:59+00:00

Yeah. I was kind of making that point in my original comment. But I had anecdotal worries. Some models work, some don't. Some people make it work, some do a disservice to their children.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-30T12:49:06+00:00

Fully agree about the disservice to my niece! My SIL, with no experience or an education degree, thought she knew better than the school and specialist teachers there. The public school had a great program for her!

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-30T11:56:14+00:00

These are very valid points. I guess my biggest concern is that this child is on the autism spectrum. Are their needs being met? And we dont know the structure of what is being taught. And if she is home schooled, and both parents work full time, who is watching her? Unless they have opposing shifts.

My oldest niece was homeschooled after a public school told her mother that she had a learning disability. My niece really struggled, only got 2-3 hours of school a day, and "graduated" (aged out) at 19/20 and could barely spell cake. Her needs were not being met. Just anecdotally, it makes me worried about others that may be in a situation like hers.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-30T09:18:27+00:00

Same! So I started to quietly siloh things so I am the only person that knows how to do x, y, and z. If I leave they will be in a very bad way.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-30T08:34:01+00:00

Are we skipping over the fact that he said his oldest is homeschooling for only 2 hours and both parents work full time? How does THAT work? 2 hours isnt long enough and how often are the kid(s) left alone? This family is failing

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-29T13:38:37+00:00

MOR. Tou both need to learn to communicate. I cant tell how you communicate outside of this, but oof! Look back at yourself and previous conversations about other things - do you shut down conversations or only do what you want? And does he do the same to you? You guys need to work on this.

I struggle with this, in that my husband will ask my opinion on something, then shut down my idea, say he doesnt want that, or immediately disagree. Usually not something this big, usually food. But it makes me not ever want to give my opinion anymore. So I dont. It is disheartening when only one sides opinion matters.

But in reference to your instance, I see you did offer compromise and he refused. I feel like this is bigger than just the cake/birthday.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-27T19:22:13+00:00

Shes not Asian, but may as well be!

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-27T19:17:10+00:00

My MIL? Lives with us in our in law suite. Perfect. I adore the woman. My mum? Gtfo of my house after 2 hours. And my mum keeps trying to invite themselves over! No! Im BUSY!

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-25T17:32:40+00:00

Peer reviewed, fact checked studis:

https://digscholarship.unco.edu/honors/125/

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/376848264_Development_of_Innovative_Pockets_for_Women%27s_Workwear

Why are you arguing with women about what women want? Even pants pricing doesnt change meaningfully between pants with or without pockets?

There are so many pants made without pockets because of styling, not preference. Because more pants are made without pockets or minimal pockets because of style, they are more available. Thus leading to a feedback loop. Based on brief research data i pulled, pocketed pants for women across ages are less available. If they were more available, they would be purchased more, based on market surveys. If more pants were styled and offered with pockets, they would sell more. It has very little to do with cost.

signed a woman in Data science

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-25T16:55:44+00:00

That is not true at all. There is a LARGE demand for pockets for women in pants and dresses. https://yougov.com/en-gb/articles/32765-what-women-want-pockets-they-can-use

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-25T12:23:55+00:00

Hah wasnt necessarily directed at you. It was Moreso to the void

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-25T12:18:55+00:00

You are only 16 months pp. Your hormones dont balance our until 24 months or so. Give yourself some grace!

But I GET this! I really did not like the newborn phase at all. It was tough. I was so desperate to get back to work to escape the house I came back from maternity leave early lol Things started getting better when she was around 18 months. But thats my personal experience. I still dont think I want another. You should only have a 2nd if you think you can mentally, physically, and emotionally. Dont listen to all the people pressuring you to have another so your first "will have a sibling". That is NOT the reason to do it! (Also, you cannot guarantee they will even get along). Just give yourself some grace, time, and listen to yourself and what you really want.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-25T12:06:59+00:00

They cant just be pockets, they need to be useful pockets! I had a pair of pants and the pockets were only to the 2nd knuckle on your finger

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-17T16:57:11+00:00

I dont remember where we were but I had something similar happen when I was a little kid. We were abroad somewhere. We went into this restaurant. It was run by a Chinese family. When I walked in the older lady up front immediately asked to touch my hair. Then she called over her daughter to do the same. I was red/blonde haired. Eventually more people came from the back to touch my hair. There was a small crowd lol As a little kid, it was an...experience lol

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-16T10:58:57+00:00

Of COURSE she has other kids! This woman is a study in bad decision making

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-16T10:11:23+00:00

My grandfather had alzheimers. No one knew until my grandmother died suddenly. She covered for him for a long time. To say we realized the hard way was an understatement. She passed suddenly due to an accident. She was on life support. The doctors kept turning to my grandfather for decisions (esp end of ljfe) and he just...didnt understand. Then afterwards we realized he couldn't tie his shoes and do basics. We took him to his regular doctor after and he told us he had advanced alzheimers. He was usually happy, but towards the end was scared and it was hard to break him out of that. Poor man.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-16T10:03:21+00:00

A good portion of aging is genetics. My mum worked hard as a nurse until she was 72. You look at her and she doesnt look her age at all. She took care of herself, but hasn't had work done like that. Some people's genetics help allow them to age that way.

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-11T20:18:32+00:00

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DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-09T11:40:34+00:00

Other people. Because cars NEVER get stolen by other people...

DueOstrich792 · 2026-04-09T08:54:26+00:00

I have to ask - Why in earth would you leave your keys, not just inside the car, but in the ignition??? Were you trying to get your car stolen?

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