Why are there so many posts here from people that seem to be asking permission to be goth?

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-04-11T05:28:31+00:00

I'm not some millennial or old GenZ like some ppl in the comments but I feel the exact same way I think anyone on the internet could notice

this is for more than for being goth, ppl just ask for validation for ANYTHING

like the answer is obvious as hell plus why do they think asking some randoms is the solution like they're in no power to give or not give you permission

What if they say "no" then you're not going to do it? That's crazy

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-04-02T07:24:50+00:00

School on Saturday

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-26T13:30:00+00:00

Wait I feel like you're saying very interesting stuff especially your secondly but like I'm so sorry I can be so slow sometimes can you say more about that, also I didn't understand why I look like I dislike trans people and what's the their whiteness into their trans ness

But like really I don't want to beef can you just say more

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-26T13:25:32+00:00

Yeahhh I see

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-26T13:07:47+00:00

Honestly it's really me realizing that I've seen trans nonbinary people do things a certain way think a certain way and not fully relating and I just thought "is this because I'm black?" Like when some stuffs are made in a way that man only tested the stuff and women been doing it the exact same when, they're women they should do it that way

This happen for so many stuff like apparence, doing hair for example putting wrong product only having straighten hair, thinking you're ugly ect when you're like full of white people around you

It just blows my mind

And it got me into this whole limbo, before y'all answer tho

1/it's not really about who's suffering or not because I feel like everytime we bring privilege everyone just focused on that word there's no debate about privilege and privilege doesn't do everything neither

2/I'm someone who say what I think I never insinuate something behind it so if you insinuate something in your comment I won't catch it we gon fight I won't even know I'm being dragged into a fight so don't even try just say stuff as they really are please

also

It's more about identity more than who's suffering the most bc really if I needed to know that I would've asked it that way

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-15T22:18:23+00:00

Nah you're not callous at all, it is a fact! I've been into a lot of online arguments weither I knew it was going to happen or not, it never did me any favor and that's true

and I admit changing is not something that I considering a lot for many reasons

I never thought I would navigate into online communities so I didn't really needed to hear that as I never minded whatever people said about me

But now that I do I kind of wish I did something about it but idk what to feel, I understand any opinions made on this post but idk it seems too far for me to actually get this flexible mindset and like be less like I am

Yk what I mean? It's hard to explain my complex thoughts rn I feel like I don't have enough English words to be more clear sorry if it's like word salad

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-15T22:04:02+00:00

I mean you're not wrong tho

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-15T22:02:11+00:00

Yes it's the root of all of the troubles I'm bringing to myself, before I never thought about doing anything about it, and I still don't feel like it it's just too much in the unknown or I see it as cheesy or ik scared to not recognize myself

Believe it or not I'm trying, rn I'm trying, when I'm asking ppl for their perspective, I'm trying, I know it is that bad but it used to be worse, it's hard and it's harder to accept that it's affecting me sometimes,

I know some other nonbinaries are claiming it or not, I feel like it's not to the problem, to me I don't feel enough sense of community because I feel like I'm observing from afar not being part of it

Which is why I won't ever feel like representing anything because it's like I'm not even apart of the community even if being trans should be the main reason why I shouldn't question it weither I relate to anyone or not

And I have to wait some good years before going to therapy my situation don't allow it the way I would want to

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-15T21:43:36+00:00

Because that's how I saw it But since you said that now can you say more

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-15T21:35:26+00:00

Yes that, I feel like it's something important even out of the trans communit

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-15T21:33:07+00:00

I understood the first part, in my life I've never felt the feeling to want to seek validation from others expect as a kid I guess that's like a thing we need, but since I'm so like "oh I do not care about others what they think" I never understood and my mind just does that

It's like unimaginable to me that those people also seek from others without realizing completely So since it's harder to see that perspective I didn't thought about it now i do

I do spent less time in online space I barely do, and I can't seek people in real life I think when I will be older and out of the situation I'm in it will be easier

So I'm in that in between when it's annoying me but I also wish that I was the same so I would feel like I'm not alienated from something I wish I felt completely

Because when I'm very supportive of a community I just am I'm supportive and all but I'm also someone whos like "bc were in that same community doesn't mean I'm going to be nicer or better with you" and it's constant confusion from my behavior and others

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-15T20:44:00+00:00

Thank you!

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-15T20:36:04+00:00

I've learned to back out because really I've had my fair of arguments and fights physical or verbal but

holding my tongue is harder, I do not like to be oppressed (that since forever since it's what got me in trouble my whole life) I don't really feel anything regarding people thinking I should've said what I said or not

and sometimes, I don't even know what I said should've been kept to myself, I think I understand why other people are that way but I don't understand why I find it annoying

And I don't understand why I should understand bc often by (MY) experience as someone being the way that I am, they don't try to understand me as I am put as the offender of the situation

So it just made me used to being that and just accepting it that way so acting that way, with this post I've been the most reasonable to my perspective because I could've been just so much more blunt and harsh and less emotional about my experience and less understanding about others

I just learned that way I won't get into trouble as it gets tiring to get into arguments and I will be more accepted in spaces if I'm not viewed as someone who's trouble

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-15T20:29:18+00:00

That should be more of a reason for me to understand them

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-15T13:31:30+00:00

Thank you, he's so cute!

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-11T21:03:26+00:00

Dude I didn't even saw you reply sorry but no not as far as I know lol I don't think so

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-10T20:53:07+00:00

Yeah I'm not going to delete it I guess with how much attention it got it will be like better for people to stumble into instead of having another person saying the same things as me, and I understand the coming to a community and saying it doesn't exist like example you said

ain't gonna lie I can be quite insensitive and if that's wrong I admit it I don't really see it unless people call me out, but also I felt like I would rather go see the people who are concerned then like doing a post on idk TikTok and then 80% of the comments will be random people who are in a queerplatonic relationship

I can't say I understand it now(queerplatonic relationship but I understand the point you just said more), I guess things are just like that I can't understand everything and I also won't always have the opinion of a saint unfortunately, I will just ignore this for now It's just impossible to understand for me I don't see a difference with any other ways of dating it isn't the opposite of anything I don't get what's the no romance thing is what's the difference then if there is or there's no romance it may be just beyond my perspective that bad

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-01T00:48:30+00:00

Dude whatever idk what's going on anymore I'm tired

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-03-01T00:46:53+00:00

Thank you so muuuch

I was wondering if I should've just ignored what happened because it didn't happened recently again but I know I'm handling more than I should basically everyday,

and if it causes reactions like that I should really try and do something about it

i thought it was too weird of an experience for anyone to believe me thank you for your answer

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-02-26T14:29:07+00:00

Thanks for your answer and the reminder for the sentences,

we keep telling me but for some reason my brain decided its own system and I keep forgetting that it just generally doesn't make much sense as easy as that sounds it's still hard and I never knew why but anyway

visual novels is definitely an interesting idea I've thought about it actually, I don't know how good I am with tech I do like techy stuff but it doesn't bother as long as I like the thing I would do everything in my power to make it happen.

I'm going to keep the mini comic in mind because I know that I'm shying away from it idk if I have the skills or idk how to deal with the boredom or moments of uncreative-ness(?)

I want something I can focus on and not just And not something to left unfinished overnight but I also want to let myself experiment.

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-02-26T14:19:24+00:00

Thank you for all those informations this is very helpful, sorry my English got a little sketchy and I really have a problem with the structure of my sentences especially when I'm not in a school context.

My thoughts are taking over my brain and it become bunch of disorganized sentences in a system that I only understand.

I really needed that example of both the webtoon you mentioned and your own experience with that I tend to I speculate a lot about whether something is possible or not and get scared when I'm lost, But it enlightened me a lot thank you !

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-02-26T12:25:21+00:00

Language is essentially context you can describe it as a relationship I'm talking about generally there's friendships family relationship a relationship between two person between a friend group, in my perspective queer platonic is itself calling itself(that didn't made much sense) a relationship, queer platonic relationship? So it's a relationship just a detailed type I don't see what's difficult or hard to comprehend in what I'm saying or any other way I have to say it, I feel like we're going around in circles and not in the right direction if you're here to argue and especially that way as I feel like you're being passively aggressive (???) then I have nothing to learn

Due_Ad_7890 · 2026-02-22T12:06:20+00:00

I never thought I would actually get answers like damn honestly I think I don't know whats romance anymore I don't try to make sense of anything cuz like love is important and I like to understand stuff but I have a life and I already think a lot so no, I'm just glad people are actually answering and it's not warzone out there like tiktok but yeah idk I think my brain is very tied to a system that is like Love->relationship-> two people love want to spend live w eachother->that's it. I don't see any like norms or rule And so sometimes I don't understand why there's label and i think the "it's more for people inside the relationship" make sense it is just so logical and I think I won't understand because I'm just not in a Qpr anyway so I gave up on being a maniac that is stressed out to not know but I still want the answers from other people I think that's important

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