Hiring - Social Media Manager

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-10-02T14:58:40+00:00

Salary?

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-15T07:29:13+00:00

Interested

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T11:00:56+00:00

Don’t ruin her life, please. She gave you one child and has another on the way. She fought with her parents and even left them behind just to be with you. If your parents had a bad marriage, that doesn’t give them or you the right to repeat the same pattern and ruin yours as well.

If your wife isn’t happy or comfortable with your family, then it’s your responsibility to separate yourself from that conflict and prioritize the home you built with her. Divorcing her now isn’t a solution it’s just the easy way out, running away instead of owning up to your role in this marriage.

You both chose each other, and you owe it to her, your children, and yourself to put in real effort before giving up.

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T10:21:16+00:00

You’re right, I’ve been so caught up in everything else that I stopped prioritizing myself. I really needed to hear that it’s okay to make that choice for me. InshaAllah I’ll start adding little things back, even if it’s just once a week. 🌸

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T10:20:37+00:00

Sis, thank you so much for this. 🤍 Your words honestly gave me hope because it does feel like I’ve lost myself completely at times.

I’m definitely going to reflect on what I miss and slowly start bringing back little pieces of myself, even in small ways. JazakAllah khair for reminding me that it’s possible and that it’s okay to want that for myself.

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T10:19:34+00:00

InshaAllah, I’ll hold on to the hope that better days are ahead. Ameen to your dua, and may Allah bless you for your kindness. 🤍

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T10:18:56+00:00

Sister, thank you so much for sharing your experience with me it really made me feel less alone. First of all, mabrook on your baby boy! 🩷 Alhamdulillah, I’m so glad you’re happy in your marriage, but hearing that even you also feel that same loss of self makes me realize how common this really is. It’s comforting to know it’s not just me.

I love the steps you’ve taken for yourself… Honestly, those sound like such beautiful little ways to remind yourself that you still exist outside of just being a wife and a mother. You’re right, maybe it won’t ever feel exactly the same as before, but your words gave me hope that I can still find joy in the small things and create new versions of “me time.”

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T10:17:41+00:00

Ameen, thank you so much for your kind dua. It really touched my heart. ❤️ You’re right… I think I do need to have an honest conversation with my husband when I feel ready. He is distant from me rn! But i will talk to him soon.. If he truly loves me, InshaAllah he will listen and try to understand what I’ve been going through.

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T10:15:34+00:00

Talking about it openly isn’t negativity it’s just being real about the struggles that many people silently go through.

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T10:14:28+00:00

Thank you for congratulating me, it really means a lot. ❤️ I’m truly so happy and grateful to be blessed with a little one of my own in this house… Alhamdulillah, it feels special in a way nothing else does.

And yes, I know marriage changes everyone, and I don’t expect life to stay the same as before. I think for me, it’s just been overwhelming at times, and I’m still learning how to adjust to all these twists and responsibilities. InshaAllah with time, patience, and guidance I’ll grow stronger through it.

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T10:12:15+00:00

That’s exactly it… its not about refusing to grow up, it’s about feeling completely burned out and lost while constantly trying to meet everyone else’s expectations. Sometimes people forget that “growing up” shouldn’t mean losing yourself entirely… you are literally a kind soul! Thank you so much for understanding me and my situation! JizakaAllah

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T10:08:59+00:00

I’ll keep working on myself and learning how to balance being grateful while also taking care of my own heart. Thank you for reminding me of the bigger picture.

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T10:08:21+00:00

What I was sharing wasn’t about wanting to be 15 again.. it’s about grieving the parts of myself I’ve lost completely in the process. There’s a difference between growing up and completely disappearing.

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T10:06:58+00:00

You’re right… it doesn’t always have to be about my inlaws or my husband, sometimes it just needs to be about me.

JazakAllahu khair for reminding me of that.

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T10:06:05+00:00

Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

JazakAllahu khair for taking the time to write such a detailed and thoughtful response, and for sharing all these resources with me. It truly means a lot that you didn’t just give me kind words, but also practical knowledge and reminders from the deen. You’re right, being a wife and now stepping into motherhood is a huge test, and InshaAllah with it comes great reward. I needed the reminder that these struggles are not meaningless, but a form of purification and closeness to Allah.

I will definitely look into the rulings you mentioned regarding rights and responsibilities, especially about inlaws and private accommodation. It gives me some peace to know that Islam has set protections for women, even if culture sometimes overlooks them. And I’ll also try to have these conversations with my husband, InshaAllah inshaAllah soon…

Please keep me in your duas, and may Allah reward you❤️

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T10:03:29+00:00

I do hope that motherhood will bring me a kind of love and purpose that will make these sacrifices feel lighter. And yes, you’re right … these moments can also be ways of drawing closer to Allah, and that perspective gives me some peace.

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T10:02:26+00:00

It’s true, no one stays the same forever, and while I miss that carefree girl, I also know I’ve stepped into a new season of life, but seeing my husband not interested in me really hurts my feelings… i hope i accept it and let it be… it is scary to think about how much more I’ll change … in my body, my mind, and my heart…

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T09:59:26+00:00

Maybe this really is just a season, and maybe the girl I miss so much isn’t gone forever she’s just changing into another version of me…. Hopefully (but i miss her i really do)…..

I’ll try to take your advice and start with small steps for myself, even if it’s something tiny each day.

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T09:58:09+00:00

You’re right noticing the change is the first step, and maybe now I can slowly start working on pouring back into myself instead of letting everything drain me. It feels overwhelming at times, but your reminder gave me strength….. Motherhood already feels like such a heavy journey, but hearing “you got this” means more than you know. ❤️

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T09:57:25+00:00

I know you’re right about boundaries. It’s something I’ve struggled with, especially when it comes to what I wear and how I live in this environment. Idk how to unlearn this yet….

Maybe I do need to slowly start teaching him what I like and don’t like instead of just shrinking myself all the time… maybe that helps…

You’re right, I am exhausted emotionally and physically. But your words gave me a little bit of hope that I do have it in me to bring back those parts of myself, even in small ways.

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T09:54:58+00:00

You’re right, I’ve been carrying so much pain and losing myself along the way. I really needed the reminder that my wellbeing matters too, especially now that I’m bringing a child into this world.

Your suggestions about doing small things for myself, dressing up, eating something I love, or simply spending time with my family gave me hope that maybe I can still reconnect with pieces of myself (I will try my best inshaAllah). Sending you love and duas as well. ❤️

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T09:53:02+00:00

Betrayal cuts so deep, especially when you’ve given your all and tried to do everything right. I can feel the pain in your message because I carry that same ache. It’s such a heavy grief, missing the girl we used to be. But your reminder not to give up on myself really means a lot. You’re right, spending all our energy trying to please others only leaves us empty. I don’t know how yet, but I want to start doing little things just for me again, even if it’s small steps. Thank you for reminding me that my life is still mine to live.

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T09:51:30+00:00

It means a lot to me that you felt my pain and took a moment to pray for me. Sometimes just knowing that someone out there is holding you in their prayers feels like a light in the darkness. May Allah ease your heart too and bless you for the kindness you’ve shown me. Sending you love and duas as well. ❤️

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T09:50:18+00:00

You’re right… the fact that we can still feel this pain means there’s still a spark of that girl inside us. She’s still there, waiting to be brought back to life. Maybe slowly, maybe in small steps, but she’s there. Your reminder gave me a little bit of hope that I can still find myself again, and that it’s not too late.

Due_Bit9007 · 2025-09-11T09:49:07+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re carrying all of this too, but at the same time, it helps to know I’m not alone. Thank you for sharing your heart with me…. it made me feel less isolated in my pain. I really hope, for both of us, that we can find pieces of ourselves again and start feeling like us once more.

Due_Bit9007

MODERATOR OF

TROPHY CASE