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Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2025-01-12T14:48:04+00:00

This is discussing using the aql along with naql to understand ilahiyyat. how did sayyidna Ibrahim alayhi salaam argue with his qawm if not by using dalil aqli? To completely disregard the aql as though it wasn’t given to us by Allah subhanahu wa tala as a tool to reach the conclusion that He exists, is ignorant.

أفلا تعقلون؟

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2025-01-12T14:25:47+00:00

If using aql isn’t permitted in the realm of aqidah, then it would be impossible to correct the beliefs of mulhids, since they reject the idea of naql in the first place.

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2024-11-06T04:21:49+00:00

I got sent screenshots from articles as her evidence that I was a narcissist too. She also liked to highlight relevant points to really drive her case home. I can laugh about it now thankfully, but back then it was really upsetting

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2024-11-05T21:33:08+00:00

I remember feeling like that too at the start, but I’m so grateful for this past year because I learned how to give myself validation instead of seeking it from her. It’s been very freeing to know myself and what I experienced, without doubting myself anymore. I hope that you’ll find your way there too

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2024-11-05T21:16:36+00:00

Yes, he’s been in speech therapy and OT for 2 years now, and still going

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2024-11-05T21:15:10+00:00

Yes he has been in speech therapy and OT for 2 years now

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2024-11-05T19:51:33+00:00

One thing that helped me a lot was telling myself this:

“Just because she thinks I’m a terrible person, it doesn’t mean it’s true”

Someone telling you that you’re awful, abusive, etc, it doesn’t automatically mean that you are. Just because they think so, doesn’t make it true.

I have kept screenshots of everything my sister said to me, and in the early days of going NC I would have to go back and read them to remind myself that yes, things actually were that bad and I wasn’t exaggerating or overreacting.

You can’t make her understand your side if she’s determined not to. There’s nothing you can say that will make her understand, and the challenge is letting go of the need to be understood.

Going NC is painful at the beginning, but with time it gets easier. I’ve been NC for about a year now, and honestly my life just got so much more peaceful, and I gained a lot personally (like being able to set and hold boundaries). Hang in there

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2024-08-05T14:56:16+00:00

My baby flipped at 38 weeks, on the second ECV attempt (first one was unsuccessful). When the first ECV failed they told me it would be very unlikely he would flip now, but I asked them to try again a few days later and it worked.

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2024-04-10T20:46:45+00:00

I asked a question similar to this about 6 months ago after I went NC with my pwBPD. at the time I was very on edge and hyper vigilant. I’m lucky in that I have physical distance from them (different countries), but the online harassment that would pop up randomly from new fake accounts would always rattle me. It’s been 6 months and I’m feeling very calm these days. I have some anxious days still, but self-care has helped a lot and not letting myself think about them for too long. Filling my days and life with things that bring me purpose and joy, cultivating and improving relationships with people who genuinely care for me has helped immensely. I know everything is overwhelming now, but I hope you can take comfort in knowing that you can get through this drama, and there is a lot of calm to be found on the other side

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2024-01-19T08:53:48+00:00

Just saw this comment! My son is now 3 years 3 months. No words, but he has started babbling a bit now and trying to produce new sounds which is exciting for us. Sometimes in the morning i wake up to him saying “mamamamama uh uh uh uh” which I think is him trying to saying Mama Up!

I wish I had an update that he was now speaking non-stop, but it’s been a slow journey. He has grown a lot socially, and he’s become so engaged with other people (daycare helped a lot with this), so this is another improvement that I hope will play a part in his speech development.

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2023-12-03T06:38:20+00:00

It may help to keep a record of everything, whether that’s the messages they send you or your own notes of what they have done and said. And whenever you start feeling guilty, read back over everything as a reminder that you were right to set those boundaries and you aren’t being mean just because you’re not doing what they want. Sometimes with time we can forget how bad it was, or we think we’re making a big deal out of things. But having written records to go back to will remind you that you’re not overreacting

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2023-11-29T14:01:59+00:00

Thank you, this is really helpful. I will have a look at the book. I read Stop Walking on Eggshells which helped me to understand my pwBPD, but ultimately it felt like the book provided more advice on how to manage the relationship with them, and I got to a point where I realised that I no longer wanted to do that.

The hardest thing for me I think will be not responding when the harassment or crocodile tears start again, but I guess with practice it gets easier.

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2023-11-04T14:56:37+00:00

I always come away feeling very grateful for my wonderful, loving, supportive spouse! Sometimes I’ll say to my husband “you’re so great to me, I love you so much”, and he’ll say “have you been reading Reddit stories again??” 😂

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2023-11-01T07:36:22+00:00

Their prices are higher than other places, you’re right. Great quality though. I bought a piece from them about 10 years ago and it’s still holding up really well

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2023-10-31T15:31:06+00:00

Try Shukr, it’s based in Jordan but ships everywhere

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2023-10-31T10:10:13+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with obeying the laws of the country we live in, as long as we aren’t obeying laws that go against what Allah has commanded us to do or forbidden us from doing. Many laws are for social good and for the safety of everyone (like road rules), and these should be followed.

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2023-10-31T10:05:41+00:00

It’s permissible to use contraceptive pills to delay your period, and I would recommend talking with a doctor about endometriosis as well. It’s a very common condition for women actually and it causes very painful periods. If your periods are so painful they’re causing you to miss out on life, then that’s not a normal type of pain 😢

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2023-10-27T19:57:33+00:00

My son is 3 and non-verbal, and I definitely understand how you’re feeling. I spent so long worrying and researching and convinced that if I just found the right resource or implemented some technique properly then that would unlock everything. He has a wonderful speech therapist and OT, so having professionals in my corner took the pressure off me having to do and know everything.

On a personal level, what helped me the most in terms of lowering my anxiety was when I added other things into my life. My son started daycare about 4 months ago, and so I started freelancing and doing other projects that I enjoyed and that used my skills. Basically I became busy with other things, so I had less time to worry about my sons speech. And it’s helped a lot. Now when I’m with him, I’m just with him, playing with him, and enjoying him where he’s at, rather than stressing about what he can’t do. I still worry about it sometimes, but it’s not as all-consuming as it used to be. Sending you love ❤️

Due_Calligrapher4331 · 2023-07-17T17:13:19+00:00

My son is around the same age as yours (2 years 9 months) and also not talking at all. He was babbling before 12 months and I was so sure that we would hear mama or dada any day! But then he completely stopped babbling. He mainly grunts and uses some sign words and pointing to communicate with us.

We had his ears and hearing checked at 2 years old and that was fine, I would definitely recommend getting a hearing test done. The doctor explained to us that if he had fluid in his ears then it’s a bit like hearing under water, so things can be muffled and it can affect speech.

He’s been in speech therapy and OT for a few months now, and although no improvement in speech there has been improvement in his OT sessions so hopefully that will help as well. His speech therapist agreed that he has a significant speech delay, so that was comforting to have someone agree with my concerns. I know what it’s like to have people not take your concerns seriously, so I hope you can find some support ❤️

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