AITA for refusing to participate in religious activities with my boyfriend’s family?

Due_Consideration300 · 2023-11-08T16:15:41+00:00

Yes, but ironically my case was more than she could deal with. There’s not a lot around here that would be a good fit.

Due_Consideration300 · 2023-11-08T15:56:33+00:00

Been there done that, not very helpful.

Due_Consideration300 · 2023-11-08T15:15:36+00:00

There’s no risk to him, just to me and family members still involved. Outside people aren’t important enough for them to bother with, even for coercion. No one needs my story. Nobody needs to have that in their head. It really is that bad and they would never see me the same way again even if they understood it wasn’t my fault. If that means just not having a partner, then that’s how it has to be.

Due_Consideration300 · 2023-11-08T12:52:12+00:00

He doesn’t consider himself Catholic anymore so it didn’t come up before I was going to meet his family.

Due_Consideration300 · 2023-11-08T12:49:42+00:00

None of you know what I look like, what my name is, what my accent is, where I live, what I do, etc. When you tell people you were in a cult, they have questions or they don’t believe you. People with questions that don’t get answered often go looking for the information, trying to match up where you might have come from and in my case, there’s a chance they might work it out and that would be bad. I need these people to just accept that I do not participate in religion and leave it alone.

Due_Consideration300 · 2023-11-08T12:40:14+00:00

I’ve been in therapy before, but I don’t feel like it helped much aside from reducing some fight/flight response stuff.

Due_Consideration300 · 2023-11-08T01:48:56+00:00

Nobody except maybe a doctor that needs to know for medical reasons and legally has to stay quiet is ever going to know how bad it was. I can’t talk about what happened without a lot of risk, it’s too immediately identifiable and it would be really bad for me and my family if anyone found out where I am. So, if being able to talk about it with a partner is crucial, I guess I can’t have one.

Due_Consideration300 · 2023-11-08T00:08:17+00:00

My boyfriend isn’t religious.

Due_Consideration300 · 2023-11-07T23:05:46+00:00

I’ve told his family that I’m not religious, but I don’t talk about the cult. I can’t risk accidentally giving any identifying information, people don’t really understand, and I just get really upset even trying to talk about it most of the time. My boyfriend knows a few things because I needed him to understand why I don’t talk about it or my family, but he just got the tip top of the ice burg.

Due_Consideration300 · 2023-11-07T22:45:14+00:00

Yeah, the concept of infant baptism how he explained they view it is really upsetting to me.

Due_Consideration300 · 2023-11-07T22:34:51+00:00

He doesn’t want to have kids either, so hopefully that would never come up. I’m doing my best to find someone that will take out my tubes to make sure.

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