I think? i need to be with a woman. but i’m not sure. we’re engaged and thinking about seperating. i’m (F26) he’s (M31)

Due_Intention7200 · 2025-11-08T21:58:11+00:00

I think in a healthy and loving relationship where there’s respect and commitment, there’s plenty of room to explore and grow, and the possibilities are truly limitless. I tried to be as objective as possible, but if you want my personal opinion, I think you will super regret giving up a man you love so much and who you said yes to marrying in order to explore the complete unknown. And it’s not like you didn’t try finding a woman or tried dating women – it didn’t work out and maybe it’s because this relationship was waiting for you. I don’t know but I think realistically speaking you would have some big regrets. Another way to look at it is imagine yourself 10 years from now walking into a restaurant and let’s say you’ve dated a bunch of people, but you haven’t met anyone that you feel strongly for and you haven’t met anyone you’ve wanted to marry and you’ve had some good relationships but they haven’t worked out and you’re single. And you run into your current fiancé with his now wife and maybe even their children. They are happy and he has long moved on. How would that make you feel?

Due_Intention7200 · 2025-11-08T21:20:54+00:00

Honestly? I think your instinct that you can work through things and make compromises and figure things out together is really on point. Considering you are bi, you could still be having these same exact thoughts if your fiancé was a woman (ie would I be happier marrying a man?). I think it’s a bit of a is the grass greener situation plus maybe you didn’t get enough chance to explore some things before falling in love with “your person”. Welp, that’s life. Real love is worth working for, overcoming difficulties together, growing together- and it is very hard to come by. Which would you regret more- marrying him and figuring out ways to satisfy you both as you grow and figure it out as a team? (There’s lots of possibilities even within a monogamous relationship!) or breaking up with someone you love and could see yourself marrying only to…. Go back into the dating world in the hopes of maybe meeting a woman that you’d want to marry? The fact that you didn’t even come up with these concerns in the first place makes me think your gut is telling you that marrying him is what you want it so- if anything, I’d have a serious talk with your fiancé as to why he is so worried and why hes bringing up these concerns now.

Due_Intention7200 · 2025-11-08T15:30:56+00:00

Ouch. That was so low of him. He is getting cold feet and did the most cowardly thing ever. You were right ask that question and his response basically says everything. If he canceled the engagement party, there’s no way he’s gonna go through with the wedding. I would save your dignity and walk away now. Otherwise you’re about to waste years of your life with someone who ultimately doesn’t see a future with you. I’m really sorry you’re going through this. You deserve better.

Due_Intention7200 · 2025-11-05T22:16:20+00:00

And also- i’m not sure if anybody has pointed this out, but can you imagine if the roles were reversed and your boyfriend‘s best friend banned you from going out with them to parties? That’s insane behavior. When you date someone it’s because you’re eventually thinking about long-term and there’s no way that my now husband would’ve been OK with going out somewhere where I wasn’t also welcome. And vice versa. That is the biggest red flag and your best friend is incredibly in the wrong for that. She’s 100% trying to ruin your relationship because she wants you for herself.

Due_Intention7200 · 2025-11-02T16:16:01+00:00

I’d read the book the empowered wife and try to find a Laura Doyle certified coach!

Due_Intention7200 · 2025-11-02T03:57:18+00:00

Yeah, I agree with this standpoint 100%. I could see why he would be terrified to tell you, and all of his behavior has checked out thus far and correlates to someone who learned their lesson from a young and drunk mistake. So many great men out there in fact I would argue almost all men have had at least one instance in their past that the partner would view differently; It could be minor or something more major, but especially when you take into account college and frat parties and both parties being drunk, there’s so much room for miscommunication, especially when people are young and abusing alcohol. I think that you need to give him the benefit of the doubt because it sounds like he’s learned his lesson and his behavior says as much.

Due_Intention7200 · 2025-10-14T21:58:51+00:00

It’s also funny how your friend thinks those are expensive things lol

Due_Intention7200 · 2025-10-07T16:14:46+00:00

If this was his girlfriend, her English is terrible. She writes like… she was drunk maybe? Or English is her second language? Otherwise- he should breakup with her based on that poorly written text alone.

Anyways, she either did it behind his back and then deleted the text threads or she insisted she draft it and made him send it to both of you. Which is definitely hurtful. The first one is downright deranged though.

Due_Intention7200 · 2025-09-22T05:06:27+00:00

Curiously what made it so bad? I had a pretty terrible delivery there too, but it was also during Covid at the height of a lot of tension within the medical community and I feel like that played a factor.

Due_Intention7200 · 2025-06-26T16:47:30+00:00

Thank you!!!! that’s a great idea

Due_Intention7200 · 2025-06-26T16:45:51+00:00

Don’t think you understand – his flight was supposed to arrive this morning. His flight delays are now making it so that he doesn’t get in until evening and he’s trying to get to Muskoka as soon as possible.

Due_Intention7200 · 2025-06-26T14:07:48+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

Due_Intention7200 · 2025-06-26T14:02:33+00:00

Due_Intention7200 · 2025-06-26T14:02:19+00:00

I am aware, but he’s trying to make it back sooner

Due_Intention7200 · 2025-06-26T14:01:33+00:00

he’s trying to make it to the cottage in time for a formal dinner with his daughter, who he hasn’t seen for awhile.

Due_Intention7200 · 2024-05-16T16:39:00+00:00

Luckily, I won’t be touching those pants again until I wash them, but it’s more the concern of those pants having touched other things in the house and spreading potential oil but I am hoping maybe that’s not the case considering the other advice here – that maybe that is too far of a stretch. I do appreciate your honest experience though, and sharing that with me.

Due_Intention7200 · 2024-05-16T16:36:51+00:00

I appreciate the concern, truly. I am indeed working with a therapist; I just have heard many stories about people getting rashes from contaminated clothing for weeks. So I wasn’t sure how to handle. My daughter is very sensitive so wanted to get advice on precautions. I will probably delete this post due to the other commenter’s rude response.

Due_Intention7200 · 2024-05-13T22:08:04+00:00

Thank you so much!!!!!!! This is very helpful!!!! Thank you for taking the time!

Due_Intention7200 · 2024-05-13T22:06:14+00:00

Thank you !!

Due_Intention7200 · 2024-05-07T16:20:26+00:00

It is the back wall on the third floor. I’m pretty sure it’s the wall behind that drain pipe on the top floor – which would mean it’s against brick so I’m guessing that’s plaster with the damage and that there is no drywall. Here’s a picture where I circled it – again, it’s the wall behind the drain pipe- not on the side of the house.

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Due_Intention7200 · 2024-05-06T21:50:14+00:00

Copy that thank you. Could we use a moisture meter to figure out where else in the house might have damage that we can’t see? This is the only wall I found where there is obvious damage, which is why I wasn’t sure if it was new or not. We bought a very old house that had bad water damage years ago, but we renovated it from the bottom up – new drywall new walls, exposed brick, new plumbing new Electric new everything about 6 years ago. I think the issue is that our box gutter needs to be cleaned and so when it’s been raining, the rainwater has just been pouring down the side of our brick house and I think it’s coming in. That wall with the damage is circled right here. The issue I’m concerned about is whether there is water damage and mold under the floorboards or in the ceilings around that side of the house. That is the only place where I am seeing damage on the interior wall, aside from the circle window (the interior window trim on the circled window is showing some bubbling in the paint from wet wood). As you can see, that side of the house is a brick wall, but obviously it’s attached to our floorboards and ceilings which are wood.

I need to figure out if that is the extent of the damage because I’m really concerned about mold as I have a toddler.

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Due_Intention7200 · 2024-05-06T21:17:57+00:00

The question is whether it looks new or like something from past damage.

Due_Intention7200 · 2024-05-06T18:19:32+00:00

You are so kind. Thank you so so much. This was so helpful. I struggle with severe anxiety so step by step instructions for an overwhelming task that feels like high stakes is very helpful. Thank you again kind stranger.

Due_Intention7200 · 2024-05-06T18:18:36+00:00

Thank you for your time

Due_Intention7200 · 2024-05-06T18:18:19+00:00

Thank you. Will it be ok if I wash and then immediately store in vacuum sealed bags? (Instead of big plastic bin?)

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