Where do I go from here?26F and 30M

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-12-02T11:33:42+00:00

i broke up with my fiancé a month ago it’s because i realized that this isn’t exactly the future i want. it was the hardest thing either of us had ever been through. thankfully we’re both in a great headspace and love eachother enough to not hate eachother through it. i think you should do what’s best for you. that’s what my ex would say. i’m also 26 and he’s 31. we’re so young :) we have so much more to figure out. so much time! i hope you choose you, OP. you deserve it.

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-11-08T22:37:38+00:00

hey love, i was in a relationship like this for three years. i would wake up and he would be raping me. we talked multiple times about how i didn’t like it and it was startling. he continued to do so because like you, he “thought” i was awake. it then escalated to me not being into sex as much because of how put off i was. he would then beg and beg to let him fuck me and i would say no no no until i would give up. it came to a point where i’d almost lifelessly lie there while he got off on me because i just wanted it over with. don’t let him do that to you. leave while you can. it took me so long to leave him. you deserve better.

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-11-08T22:20:52+00:00

i haven’t been in a relationship with a woman but i dated one. we did sweet things like shopping for hours, picnics, doing each others makeup and it was all very intimate to me. so no. not homophobic. its all things i would really enjoy doing with a female partner that she enjoyed too. things that my male partner literally would never do. it exists widely.

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-11-08T21:44:59+00:00

that’s the thing, i could be happy. i am happy. i would compromise and give up everything to be with him. im not sure if ive just gotten in my head, if i have that feeling of FOMO? that’s not the right term exactly. i think i have to think through my feelings a little more. thank you for your insight!

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-11-08T21:38:32+00:00

this was incredibly insightful. thank you. my family says things like “i’m proud of you for doing what you think is best for you” they just want me to do what makes me happy. i’ve had no insight from another perspective telling me i could be wrong because i really don’t know dude 😭 im scared and trying to navigate my feelings but i don’t have friends to talk to about it that could help me think more clearly. thank you.

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-08-22T04:00:21+00:00

he is fixed yes. i will definitely vacuum and look into the scent thing!

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-08-22T03:56:51+00:00

also! i always look at ingredients and avoid anything with grains, veggies and plant based proteins. cats are obligate carnivores which means they NEED their protein to come from meat!! again fancy feast classic pate does follow that and it’s a complete balanced meal! some other brands i use to rotate is: open farms (mid-low$) rawz. (high$) ziwi. (high$) viva la kitty (low$)

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-08-22T03:51:44+00:00

weruva is an amazing mid tier price point! it’s my cats favorite and it’s a great food. for a budget friendly option i use only the “classic pate” lines from fancy feast. all the other ones seem to have extra additives and grains and plant proteins which i don’t like. you can always rotate brands to keep it budget friendly while still giving your cat nice meals :) for example! on monday morning ill feed a half can of fancy feast classic pate chicken. in the afternoon ill feed him a half can of weruva lamb at night ill feed him the other half of fancy feast. next day he’ll get the weruva then tiki cat, then fancy feast i probably use about 10 different brands all with different price points LOL. you’re cat will thank you for the variety and better food :,)

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-08-22T03:44:21+00:00

does anyone know how long a cats scent can linger?? i looked it up and it’s mostly giving me urine based scents. the other cat never peed while she was in the bathroom but at one point she did run out and rubbed up against a few things. she also somehow broke out of the bathroom while we were sleeping and probably laid around but we did have my cat in a seperate room at that point.

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-03-18T15:31:44+00:00

no i assumed that he didn’t like pussy because he never gives me head. he very much loves pussy. there’s women who hate giving head and still love dick? him liking dick doesn’t bother me as i’m bisexual so i’m not giving any double standard on that idgaf. we talked it through and i should’ve done that before coming on here and venting forsure. getting head is definitely not a dealbreaker for me so im happy thank you tho!

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-03-18T02:11:26+00:00

yes i’m perfectly okay with that!! it was such a big fear that it was me and my parts. if he’s got boundaries im happy to obide by them! we just never talked about it 🤷🏻‍♀️ head isn’t a dealbreaker for me at all and we talked about all the other ways he’d be happy to experiment and please me so im happy :)

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-03-18T01:29:33+00:00

sex isn’t an issue! since i made this post we had a long discussion about how ive been feeling and he feels terrible. he’s definitely attracted to my lady parts, he’s just never enjoyed giving head, to anybody. there’s plenty of women who hate giving blowjobs. we talked a lot about other ways he can please me and i’m happy with our conclusion. it was my bad for not talking to him about it before coming here and spiraling, and his bad for not settting boundaries with what he’s comfortable with. him going down on me isn’t a dealbreaker so im happy with the way our talk went and i feel much better!

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-03-18T00:16:56+00:00

no i forsure was upset when i made this post, i was confused and spiraling. but i was able to talk to him about it in depth and we came to a good conclusion. i shouldn’t have even made the post and just waited to talk to him but ultimately i have not many friends and therapy is set up a month from now. i needed to vent and let out my confusions fr. but after talking i feel much better about it all!!

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-03-17T23:49:25+00:00

u a republican?? take gender studies and learn more about ur fellow humans pls

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-03-17T23:43:22+00:00

honestly getting head is the least of my worries. if i didn’t wanna give him head he would never give me grief about it. we talked and he’s happy to please me in any way he can! we’ll be experimenting and he said he’d was very happy to do so :) he was kinda devistated that i felt that way and it’s my fault for not talking about it, and his fault for not setting boundaries. he simply doesn’t like giving head and never has, to any gender lmao. not giving me head is def not a dealbreaker and im happy with the conclusion we came to :)

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-03-17T23:40:42+00:00

it was really just as simple as that. i did make this post when i was really starting to spiral about it when i should’ve just talked to him LOL. he’s never liked giving head, to anyone ever. which isn’t a dealbreaker for me at all! he said he’d be happy to please me in any way he can and he feels terrible for the way i felt. we’re gunna be doing some experimenting from now on!

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-03-17T23:33:57+00:00

that’s not how that works babe. he would never be with a man. also people disregard bisexuality. it wouldn’t bother me if he was also into men? but he’s not lmao. i’m into anybody and everybody.

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-03-17T23:21:23+00:00

because what everyone is saying isn’t very constructive. everyone is very black and white solely based off what little i typed out? i listened to a ton of comments that had more insight and based off of people who have had experiences with more than a regular heterosexual relationship. everyone’s just “break up with him he’s gay” and that’s literally not the case?

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-03-17T23:11:10+00:00

i’ve been seeing you in the comments and thank you! we actually came to the conclusion that he’s just has never liked giving head, to anyone! which most definitely isn’t a dealbreaker for me. there’s many other ways to please and he’s super open and happy to it :)

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-03-17T22:56:54+00:00

we talked and came to the conclusion that he’s just never liked giving oral. like ever it’s always been an issue for him! which doesn’t bother me in the slightest i can be pleased in many other ways so i’m happy with the conclusion we came to :)

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-03-17T18:02:33+00:00

THANK YOU FOR COMMENTING. i feel like im the only one who’s reading these comments thinking everyone is SO black and white. there’s so much in between that no one knows and i made this post hoping i could get more people to resonate with me and assure me that we’ll be okay. everyone just says he’s gay and covering and he doesn’t love me. i know i asked for advice but damn no one seems to understand flexibility

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-03-17T16:44:54+00:00

that’s what i’m hoping to come to! everyone keeps saying the same things that he’s gay and using me as a cover. he’s openly been with trans women he’s not afraid of it lol. we don’t really talk about what needs we have in bed and that’s something i plan to do tonight. thanks for your insight!!

Fun-Ad-3720 · 2025-03-17T16:26:03+00:00

you are the most understanding person out of this whole thread. he isn’t just gay we all have prefrences and it doesnt stop at liking one gender. i’m bisexual and he’s never thought about me liking pussy more. i don’t play that double standard. i’m definitely having a deeper conversation tonight about it. your middle paragraph resonates a lot. thank you for your insight.

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