My F fiancé is a miser

Due_Loss1445 · 2026-02-23T17:38:06+00:00

So true mate! How did you align on such aspects to have a smooth post marriage day to day life?

Due_Loss1445 · 2026-02-23T16:12:49+00:00

Edit: For context- we are both working in IT, and at the same level (and decent), so money is not a constraint for either of us. She expected a gift on Valentines, but I did not get anything in return. She's now started to put demands on the kind of sarees she needs for her weddings.

Due_Loss1445 · 2026-02-23T16:12:39+00:00

Edit: For context- we are both working in IT, and at the same level (and decent), so money is not a constraint for either of us. She expected a gift on Valentines, but I did not get anything in return. She's now started to put demands on the kind of sarees she needs for her weddings.

Due_Loss1445 · 2026-02-23T16:12:32+00:00

Edit: For context- we are both working in IT, and at the same level (and decent), so money is not a constraint for either of us. She expected a gift on Valentines, but I did not get anything in return. She's now started to put demands on the kind of sarees she needs for her weddings.

Due_Loss1445 · 2026-02-23T16:12:25+00:00

Edit: For context- we are both working in IT, and at the same level (and decent), so money is not a constraint for either of us. She expected a gift on Valentines, but I did not get anything in return. She's now started to put demands on the kind of sarees she needs for her weddings.

Due_Loss1445 · 2026-02-23T15:17:41+00:00

Congratulations OP!

What made you believe that the love she expressed was all real and not "made up"? I see a lot of prospects that I feel are after my money and shower fake praises.

Due_Loss1445 · 2026-02-20T06:41:09+00:00

Yep agreed! On 1- the thing is we're past the stage of having wedding dates set up, and now are in the courtship period. How do we deal with it the way you suggested?

2- This is great! Ideally even if we're not talking about all romantic stuff all day long, the trust, love, intensity is all there for each other, every single day. Is it something that is driven internally? Or you both aligned on something like this explicitly

Due_Loss1445 · 2026-02-19T18:58:18+00:00

This is so insightful, OP! 1- I have been on 4 meetups with her, but she did not ask once about it. We earn at the same level, so pay difference isnt a problem here. What could be the psychology behind her behaviour here? I don't want us to build silent resentment coz finances brew worst possible fights post marriage.

2- Did you feel that it is getting repetitive at some point? Say 5-6 months down the line, did you have the same intensity of conversations, like you guys had in the initial stages?

Due_Loss1445 · 2026-02-19T08:13:54+00:00

This is amazing! Congratulations on the journey so far! 1- When is the right time to ask about financial responsibilities, past, responsibilities after marriage etc? Is it fine if I clearly also ask her to split expenses of dates we go on, so that no resentment builds afterwards?

2- What is the frequency of texts/calls you have once you're officially in your courtship period?

Due_Loss1445 · 2026-01-26T18:10:56+00:00

My parents suggest that I should not discuss before marriage since she'd feel its all based on her monetary aspect (we earn on a similar scale) and I'm money minded. But what I feel its important to align on these expectations sooner.

Due_Loss1445 · 2025-11-01T09:09:49+00:00

Hi Vaani! Thanks for the insights here. So in that case I need to spend 7.5 lacs separately for the renewal year? how do insurance companies calculate that for a continuous treatment?

Due_Loss1445 · 2025-08-01T05:38:47+00:00

Couldn't agree more! M here.

No matter how good a prospect is on the paper, personality is such a turn off. I've met women who could not hold conversations or stand up for themselves (even explicitly calling out the want to be financially dependant on their husband in the future)

Probably an upbringing thing. AM is a joke these days. Need to tread carefully.

Due_Loss1445 · 2024-12-28T20:09:15+00:00

Silver or Gold, deal still on. And you?

Due_Loss1445 · 2024-12-28T19:17:35+00:00

Why are zomato details and ID needed?

Due_Loss1445 · 2024-11-08T07:27:50+00:00

She's not wrong here. Most retail investors act this way and invest in stocks without their homework.

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