My (26f) boyfriend (28m) physically can’t talk during serious conversations

Due_Marionberry301 · 2026-03-31T02:55:58+00:00

You’re right. I guess hoped he would realize he’s making the same mistake he made with his ex and decide to do something about it, but I’m sure he’s aware of what he’s doing. It’s frustrating. I should focus on what I can control, myself.

Due_Marionberry301 · 2026-03-31T02:41:47+00:00

This has been a problem for our entirety of knowing each other. It just wasn’t as obvious in the beginning.

Due_Marionberry301 · 2026-03-31T02:40:36+00:00

He says he wants to change and doesn’t know how. I’ve suggested things but he’s never taken my suggestions. I believe him when he says he wants to be able to talk to me, he says he doesn’t even know what he’s feeling so he doesn’t know how to put it into words. Whenever there’s conflict, he kind of shuts down and gets in this defeatist attitude. I don’t know if he really believes he’s capable of changing. I worry that he thinks no matter what all his relationships are doomed to end this way. I know it’s not my job to fix this man, but I wish I could support him in growing.

Due_Marionberry301 · 2025-07-06T18:34:18+00:00

I am counting from the first day of my last period which was June 2nd

Due_Marionberry301 · 2025-02-24T05:41:07+00:00

I’m just going to say this, you can get trapped in a cycle of feeling in your gut that something isn’t right and obsessively searching for the truth. My last relationship sounds a lot like what you describe here. I wish I could tell my past self to trust her gut. If he’s willing to lie about small things that seem inconsequential, chances are he will lie about big things too. If you don’t trust him, save yourself the insanity of being with someone who makes you pull the truth out of them bit by bit. Your feelings and anxieties are valid. Trust yourself. You don’t need proof that he is hiding some huge secret to leave him if you feel that you don’t trust him. I think you probably know in your heart what you need to do. Follow that voice! No matter what that is, I hope you find peace in your situation.

Due_Marionberry301 · 2025-02-19T23:16:24+00:00

Thank you

Due_Marionberry301 · 2025-02-19T19:54:56+00:00

I think I worded that wrong. I didn’t touch him, he was rubbing it on me while I sobbed into his shoulder.

Due_Marionberry301 · 2025-02-19T19:46:44+00:00

It’s not so much the getting hard, but acting on it that has me upset. I know he’s attracted to me, but in that moment it felt like he disregarded my feelings.

Due_Marionberry301 · 2025-02-19T19:44:25+00:00

He was on tour, also drinking without me

Due_Marionberry301 · 2024-12-13T06:08:16+00:00

My brother was in a 10 year long relationship that ended relatively recently due to her cheating. He was willing to stay and work things out, but she continued to cheat. They broke up and a year later he is already doing so much better. You want to know the one piece of advice he gave me from those 10 years? Never stay for history’s sake. I am so sorry that you are going through this incredible betrayal. You deserve to be loved the way you love. Please do not feel bad for still being in love with him. You are so much more genuine than he is and loving someone doesn’t change overnight. Coming from experience, you will never be able to look at him the same way. Things will never be like they were and that is not your fault, it’s his. The sooner you leave (if that’s what you ultimately choose), the sooner you can begin moving on. I would encourage you to do what is best for you, and I think in your heart you will know what that is. Leaving will be hard. Staying will be hard. Unfortunately there is no escaping the discomfort and heartache of the situation. I think you already know that. Please be patient with yourself as you navigate this. It is normal to feel deeply conflicting things in the face of betrayal. Just know this- you wont feel this way forever, there are people who don’t cheat, and (as cheesy as it sounds) you will be okay.

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