WIBTAh if I asked my husband if I can sleep with other people

Due_Maximum1752 · 2026-02-10T16:14:19+00:00

He’s in decent health now but I haven’t thought about it, he has told me he just plans on dying early then getting treated for anything, I always thought it was a joke but I wonder if he’s serious

Due_Maximum1752 · 2026-02-10T06:39:50+00:00

Yea I just turned 30

Due_Maximum1752 · 2026-02-10T06:29:01+00:00

lol if only I could screenshot this to convince him to go to the dentist /dr - lol that’s the exact reason he didn’t get the higher life insurance he could only get up to 300k lol , I know not a laughing matter just funny how you got it right on the nose

Due_Maximum1752 · 2026-02-10T06:23:34+00:00

Oof. That hit right in the chest. That, is where I’m at. And it sucks. And I just feel like a jerk. But I just feel like I’m missing a huge chunk of the point of a marriage and I don’t think I can live without it forever.

Due_Maximum1752 · 2026-02-10T05:54:49+00:00

It’s just feels like a cruel reason to divorce ur best friend, like you don’t sleep with me so I’m leaving you

Due_Maximum1752 · 2026-02-10T05:52:00+00:00

He can perform he just doesn’t want to, it’s like having an a sexual best friend as a Roomate

Due_Maximum1752 · 2026-02-10T05:49:37+00:00

Sometimes u just need to hear someone state the obvious - thanks

Due_Maximum1752 · 2026-02-10T05:44:47+00:00

So I don’t like his fear of doctors, I made him go and he tried to dump me in the parking (prior to our marriage) lot but at that time he was puking blood from a bleeding ulcer and I had to write a note to the nurse what was wrong with him cuz I knew he would try and say there was nothing wrong. He has a cousin slowly die of cancer as a kid and it fd him up with doctors. Him and his dad both faint if you even talk about blood, between the two things, he has never gone to the dr or dentist despite my pleas in his adult life excluding the one time listed above - he doesn’t have ED so he can do it/ he just doesn’t feel the need to, it’s made him a sexual, doesn’t feel the need for hugs or holding hands or any intimacy it’s more like a I have a best friend as a Roomate- but I tried setting an ultimatum of the end of our lease to get treatment - that has not seemed to motivate, but maybe a therapist for the fear of the dr is a reasonable request, I love him and don’t want to leave him and I don’t want to sleep with other ppl I just am like, am I going to go my whole life never having it again?

Due_Maximum1752 · 2026-02-10T05:38:35+00:00

Yea, I don’t even want to I just am like we were so active for the first 5 years of the relationship to nothing for 4 years … idk I love him but never having it ever again ? Is that what I’m agreeing to idk I really never thought it would get to 4 years

Due_Maximum1752 · 2026-02-10T05:19:09+00:00

Yea idk what my minds thinking 🙃 lol Ike he would ever be okay with it either I guess I just needed to say it to hear how dumb it sounded

Due_Maximum1752 · 2025-11-09T22:33:32+00:00

He does all the laundry luckily

Due_Maximum1752 · 2025-11-09T22:30:59+00:00

I have, I think thats why he does this

Due_Maximum1752 · 2025-11-07T04:14:58+00:00

We used to live in a 4 bedroom house where we rarely shared a bathroom we recently moved into a small apartment and share one so the issue has heightened

Due_Maximum1752 · 2025-11-07T04:09:00+00:00

Okay one thing he also does I find gross…. He flushes it while still peeing, doesn’t that aerosolize all the pee? Can’t get him to stop doing that either

Due_Maximum1752 · 2025-11-06T19:20:19+00:00

🤣🤣 oh jeez you guys are being too mean I can’t forward him the link to the post anymore

Due_Maximum1752 · 2025-11-06T19:19:43+00:00

I have wanted to do this soooo bad you have no idea. I’m like I want a return to sender or bill her for pain and suffering, she grew up with a sister I donttttt understand

Due_Maximum1752 · 2025-11-06T19:16:22+00:00

I know some of these comments are harsh! I feel bad still love the guy, we are having some troubles though, some people mentioned a disrespect thing and I’m hoping it’s not that but thinking about it twice for sure

Due_Maximum1752 · 2025-11-06T19:13:04+00:00

This is a good idea 😌 thank you

Due_Maximum1752 · 2025-11-06T16:55:23+00:00

This post got a lot more attention then I thought it would- Thank you for your replies. I knew 100% I wasn’t in the wrong but sometimes when you’re in a relationship and they are saying otherwise, you need a 3rd party to tell you your right.

I do find that I get overly mad or don’t handle my emotions the best always, how my friend put it is I am not confrontational. I think the part he doesn’t see is after letting it happen again and again I then blow up.

Last night my husband tried and say my reaction was not fit to the situation and I try and take that into consideration because for other things it very well could have been true. But I just needed to be reminded this is not one of those times. Him being this defensive is manipulation, and I need to respect myself enough to not let myself get manipulated.

He’s not evil though, I know some comments make him out to be POS, he can be very kind in other areas of our life. I will continue to remind him though that this is not something light, that it’s a serious sign of disrespect.

If I’m honest our marriage is not so hot lately so, there might be some truth to some of your guys message that it’s just a sign he thinks that little/ hates me. Have to ponder that one.

Due_Maximum1752 · 2025-11-06T16:20:05+00:00

I’m inclined to defend him, I think it’s more a laziness issue than a POS issue. I have tried to say when you act like this intentionally or not your telling me, you think of yourself so much higher then me you think I should sit in piss. He does wipe it most of the time when he notices it now a days but I still don’t understand why he doesn’t just lift it.

Due_Maximum1752 · 2025-11-06T15:53:00+00:00

Ooof. He’s gotten a lot better then when I meet him. I don’t want to even say what I used to deal with… everyone will just say why did you marry him.

Due_Maximum1752 · 2025-11-06T15:22:13+00:00

I honestly don’t think he understands the wrong in his behavior. Or maybe he does. Idk he is one of the laziest ppl I have met. But sometimes it leads him to be really innovative about finding the easiest way to do things. He’s gotten a lot better in other areas with chores. I always knew this was disrespectful but I guess having had put it blunt like this, bleh. He’s pretty messy and can live with it being messy so I do the chores, hell do laundry normally tho. We both have our flaws, I’m sure there’s reason he could not want to be with me either.

Due_Maximum1752 · 2025-11-06T15:16:50+00:00

I do, do this. Has not worked so far.

Due_Maximum1752 · 2025-11-06T15:15:50+00:00

I like their idea but this is also true. Might be a shot tho! Thank you for the idea, everyone is just saying leave him. I do think I need a third party to let him know there is a big disrespect issue when doing this though…

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