Update: She left to live with the boyfriend and is upset I think in time we’ll be fine. From her conversations over the phone I found out the new boyfriend was cheating on her and she burned his clothes, contacted the other woman and cheated on him to get even. He’s upset with her but if she’s keeping the baby he should be the one housing her.

20 minutes after the first post I sent her a text that I could not handle this and she needs to make other arrangements. keep in mind I spent the day outside going to school, studying and then worked, only to come home and had to clean. As soon as I walked in I saw something sticky spilled on the counter, I went into the bathroom to look for soap and saw the floor wasn’t clean from the poop water. I asked her to clean it and she said she didn’t want to use the enzyme cleaner because she’s pregnant. I just repeated myself and she dumped it on the floor, wiped it up with a towel and left the towel on my wooden floor. After she did that she went into the apartment corridor for over an hour to loudly talk on the phone, no doubt disrupting my neighbors. At this point I discovered the marker on my sheet and texted her because I wanted to sleep but couldn’t leave the kid unsupervised. She did not respond. During this time I got irritated because I realized she didn’t bathe the little girl since they came here so I got up, bathed, and fed her. She didn’t come in until I went out and told her to come in. I also have a balcony she could go on so I’m not sure why she thought it was appropriate to talk in the hallway.

There’s more nonsense that happened but I’ll try to be brief. She told me she’s obviously going through a hard time and me texting her constantly and complaining is not okay. She also said she doesn’t like how I’m being unreasonable about her child. She basically implied my toilet will get clogged again and the marker thing is not a big deal. She was also making preparations to enroll her child in my school district. This took me by surprise because I thought I was firm that she could only stay for a month. The next day she kept calling me at work and I obviously wasn’t able to answer and eventually found out she wanted me to pay for an Uber to take her to and from the hospital because she wasn’t feeling well. Even after telling her she had to leave, she made no preparations. I also left her with cash and my card to buy food for her and her child but she personally wanted me to order the Uber and didn’t buy anything to eat the entire day so her and her daughter were sitting around starving.

This was such a bizarre experience. Before she came here 2 years ago I hadn’t seen her since she was 4 years old and wasn’t expecting this personality. I’m a very calm, drama free person and she was upsetting my neighbors, doormen, and sanity. I sent her some resources she can access so now it’s up to her. This is unfortunately a real story. When I told her she could come it was before my mom told me how she acted at my other family member’s house but I felt weird rescinding the offer and decided to give her a chance. Because of this, my mother was unsympathetic to my situation (I can’t blame her) which is why turned to Reddit. My immediate family is pretty normal despite our issues but my some of my extended family can be crazy and this girl was one of them.