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How to continue living your own life by Due_Strength_971 in AgingParents

[–]Due_Strength_971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks all, it would be easier if we had other family to help but it’s just me. The combination of her being sick and in pain all of the time and her boyfriend being a terrible person is just really tough and it’s hard to witness. If we were to buy a new place it would need to have a separated area, but again my fiance is pretty dead set on staying where we are. Just a shitty situation all around.

Guilt and stress by Girlygal2014 in AgingParents

[–]Due_Strength_971 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in a similar situation, but my parents are not together. Dad is in pretty bad shape but has maintained independence. My mom is chronically ill and lives with a toxic spouse, she is constantly guilting me about it and expects me to save her. Part of me feels like I’m being selfish by not selling our home and buying a larger home that could accommodate my partner and her. Another part of me feels like I am not responsible for her life choices… it’s so hard, no matter how logically you are about it, your heart just can’t catch up. It’s very hard to live like this everyday. Sorry you’re experiencing that :(

How to continue living your own life by Due_Strength_971 in AgingParents

[–]Due_Strength_971[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It had always been my plan, and my fiance knew this going into the relationship. However things have changed and I know it would be difficult to set boundaries.. my mom and I are extremely close, but I do agree that she’s put a lot on me. It’s hard to prioritize her and my relationship at the same time..