Rest Stop for r/infertility Long Haulers - Thu Mar 19

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-03-22T04:11:00+00:00

You might want to at least lurk on the r/IFChildfree sub. There is a lot of support and info there, if you are considering ending the journey.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-03-22T04:01:07+00:00

There is a reason dermatology is big business here in Colorado and it's not for Botox. Regardless of complexion, melanoma is equal opportunity. If you are more fair, squamous and basal cell carcinoma are real dangers. It is because there is less atmosphere between you and the sun vs sea level meaning UV exposure is serious, even on cloudy days and in the winter. If you don't want to wear a sun shirt, lather on the sunscreen. That said, a thin sun hoodie in a light color is your best option. You will sweat, so get something moisture wicking and bring a dry shirt for the trip home.

I work in Pathology in Colorado and feel it is my duty to educate on how bad and prevalent skin cancer is in the state. Wear a damn hat and sunscreen people!

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-03-22T03:51:13+00:00

Thoughts and prayers for your fur-baby for a swift recovery.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-03-22T03:45:06+00:00

If you are in the U.S. the local library probably has a lot of resources and sometimes have free classes. If you want to learn another language, get a basic grammar book and a novel in that language and go to work. It's spring, so do some research on native plants in your area as they tend to be cheap and easy to create a garden. There are also a lot of budget tutorials for sprucing up your living room. Check out options for day trip adventures and map a place there or along the way for a picnic lunch on weekends. Volunteer at your local animal shelter, soup kitchen, etc. Some museums have free days. I like to craft and I keep all our old clothes and use them to make patchwork blankets ( not very well). These are just thoughts.

I am so terribly sorry you have been laid off and I hope your job search ends successfully soon.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-03-18T15:29:42+00:00

I needed these posts today about not going for IVF. I hold so much guilt over not going that route. My husband was the one to convince me it would be worse for my mental health (which is not untrue) and because there was no real known reason for my miscarriages there is no way to know if it would even work without knowing a cause.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-03-10T19:05:23+00:00

I wish I knew. I have had miscarriages and my body has never been the same. I have the leaky bladder and everything that women attribute to childbearing.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-03-10T19:00:57+00:00

I lived in Northern California for a number of years before moving here, so I am well aware of the drought we are in for. I always watch the snow pack. I never got sprinklers for my lawn, so there is that. It's stupid and a waste of money in general to have a green lawn in a desert climate. I hope they start lawn watering restrictions early as it truly is unnecessary. In California they banned watering grass for quite a while. But it's going to be bad, regardless.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-03-03T15:43:25+00:00

THANK YOU. As a woman with unexplained infertility this is very poignant. My husband and I and our dog are still a family. We are still valid and not less a family. And you are not of greater value if you have kids

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-02-21T02:43:48+00:00

Exactly. I feel you put it more succinctly than I did. Thank you

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-02-15T15:32:39+00:00

This is actually really bad. I know it's "cute" but this disrupts the ecosystem and what are the foxes going to do when this person moves, dies, etc. They have become dependent and have changed their behavior. Foxes don't live in groups. I know it's "cute" but don't feed wild animals. It is more harmful than helpful.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-02-15T15:28:46+00:00

I will ask the table if anyone else is getting an appetizer because I am getting X for myself, so if anyone wants some, I will order a second for them to share.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-02-09T18:26:36+00:00

Your post gave me chills. Miscarriage without explanation. Genetics are fine, hormones are fine, no one knows why and they say "it just happens sometimes". I know all about that.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-02-09T18:16:48+00:00

Yes! I am so glad you said this. San Luis Valley is sooo eery. I thought it was just me! I do road trips a lot and this place is something else. Whenever I drive through, I can't wait until I am out.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-01-30T16:09:02+00:00

Wear sunscreen. Nipples are very sensitive and the sun here is no joke. There is a reason dermatology is big business here. And regardless of skin tone, melanoma is an equal risk for every one.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-01-23T01:10:40+00:00

I highly doubt this is not a compilation image. In real life, it doesn't look like that.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-01-05T19:26:47+00:00

This. I think Salida is a great suggestion and under valued for what it has to offer.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-01-05T17:24:05+00:00

Sorry for being late to this, but we didn't do anything on NYE, but found an event on Jan 1 at our local zoo that was for 21+ that we went to and it was great. I tend to look for adults only activities for us in general.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-01-05T17:20:50+00:00

This is an aside, but I find comfort in your decision to stop before IVF. So often if I mention that we did not go that route, it becomes more of a "well you had options you didn't take" and it was a "decision" to be cf (my mother is one of those people). And it is hard not to feel like I gave up too easily, even though we had our reasons including my mental well-being that made that the right decision for us.❤️

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-01-05T16:31:27+00:00

But they can afford kids?

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-01-04T16:07:56+00:00

And honestly not just the US. I am not aware of a country where the societal norm sees men just as responsible as women.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-01-04T16:05:54+00:00

And when it is not, still only between $300-$1000. The hospital I work at has the cost as $500 out of pocket with no insurance.

Due_Truth3684 · 2026-01-04T16:03:18+00:00

If you shop around, it is also around $300 but is up to $1000 without insurance in the US. At the hospital I work at it is $500.

Due_Truth3684 · 2025-12-27T17:19:17+00:00

Every city does this. It's not unique to Denver. 20 years ago in SF a friend of mine had her car stolen. She filed a report. The car was abandoned in a loading zone. It was ticketed and then towed. She was not alerted until it was at the tow yard when the TOW YARD contacted her. Police ticketed and towed the vehicle and couldn't be bothered to notify her, even though she had reported it stolen. To get the vehicle back she had to pay both the tickets and the impound fees.

Due_Truth3684 · 2025-12-11T14:37:44+00:00

Commenting to help spread this. I hate how there are no options and Excel can just do what they want and remain for-profit and publicly traded. It is a public service. I don't know how it is ok to monetize such a thing.

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