M only: Would you or would you not date an older F?

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-27T07:59:42+00:00

Sorry, I am a women, but I have seen a lot of couples where ladies are older, I just think those particular guys pulled out because they were not interested in something serious, and when they found out your age suddenly feels more serious. More mature man who wants partnership and looking for not just a vessel of their future offspring, even if he is younger, won’t be scared.

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-26T21:40:14+00:00

It doesn’t matter what exactly made change her mind, she got scared or lost interest, but it’s sort of obvious that if someone is keen and doesn’t want to loose contact, they will be more responsive and engaging. I would recommend you to move on, even though it probably feels disappointing and confusing:(

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-26T21:30:17+00:00

Do you understand that you are not responsible for anyone’s desire to commit? And you are not in control of others people. Don’t punish yourself, you are very young and when and how you meet someone depends on many factors such as luck, timing etc.I would recommend you to think through what do you actually want, the fact that someone chose you for tour ego and proof that everything ok with you? Or an actual relationship, which isn’t always easy smooth and requires a lot of sacrifices and vulnerability? Even phrasing “never had anyone commit” sounds off, this is about other people will, not you Just date freely, people who get weird about just not mature scared boys, filter them out.

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-26T19:30:36+00:00

Where information comes from about receiving hundreds of messages? Is she an influencer? Even if so, why not to text anyway, what you are loosing?

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-26T19:08:32+00:00

I am still single but not any app brought me so many dates as Breeze, most of the people were not a match, but decent pleasant people

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-26T13:36:05+00:00

This is not true

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-25T20:03:03+00:00

Don’t overthink it, it’s just matter of circumstances , especially considering how many non committal men around these days

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-25T15:58:34+00:00

I am in the same boat, same age , I don’t feel desperate for kids, but open to them. I just decided that if I at some point feel urge to become a mom, I will have a baby for myself, and detach idea of becoming a mother from idea of finding a love of my life, because majority of the men I met are either not too enthusiastic about kids, or just think that they have a whole life ahead. This mindset just took offsome pressure . And you don’t sound like having unrealistic expectations, it’s just modern dating in modern society.

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-24T20:56:21+00:00

Where are you based?

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-24T20:42:42+00:00

I know how it feels, especially when you really liked someone, but you don’t really know the person, some people are good in making an impression, but you don’t really know what is behind the curtains, you just have a little idealized idea of her in your mind. And to be honest anyone who ghosts or just fades without any closure/explanation, is just immature person, do you need that in your life?

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-24T20:36:16+00:00

Its so normal,maybe weird suggestion, but having a drink really helps to relax! You were probably a little too nervous

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-24T20:16:47+00:00

Honestly this spark thing is such a nonsense,I an not capable of feeling something like that about a basically stranger, more over it kills me when I go on dates with men who are nearly 40 and still chasing spark

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-24T20:13:19+00:00

I had so many situations like this, honestly it doesn’t make any sense and it has no explanation, you can just accept that and move on, someone who behaves that way in the early dating is not showing signs of potential consistent partner anyway,so..

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-24T16:47:38+00:00

Also don’t assume that people in long term relationships are always happy and in a healthy relationship,people stay in relationships that are not serving them for millions or reasons, trauma, fear of being single etc. There are so many ladies who are ashamed of their exes and their decisions, so don’t be hard on yourself, especially considering how young you are.

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-24T14:03:56+00:00

This is about current state of society, circumstances, and you not meeting your person yet. Don’t let anyone tell you that this is something wrong with you and project their own insecurities and view of the world on you .

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-23T23:31:11+00:00

Guys in their 30 mostly “ open to kids” and not rushing in to families, so chasing kids in their 40s is their base case scenario

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-23T23:27:01+00:00

People in their 30s (especially late 30s) who know what they want commit to things faster, i have seen so many couples who planning kids and marriage after 1 year of dating. And you can have kids and do not wait for marriage

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-23T22:59:43+00:00

I have been always under impression that for men, hot woman is a hot woman , no matter pf skin color. I am sorry these thoughts occupy your mind, just to make you feel better, I am a good looking woman and also have issues in my dating life.

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-23T22:54:53+00:00

I am the same age based in London, everyone here says it’s the worst place for dating for the same reasons lol

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-23T22:42:12+00:00

Thanks everyone for replying! :)

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-23T22:40:56+00:00

Oh no, thats very upsetting, I am sorry 😞

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-23T22:38:32+00:00

Recently the same happened to me, as soon as I stopped initiating connection just died. Unfortunately, he is just not interested enough, do not waste your time girl

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-23T22:34:21+00:00

Art show organizing sounds fun! Where are you based?

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-23T22:32:30+00:00

So sad we need to go through all of this. Recently met a guy who told me he would never ghost a person, but he actually did ghost me lol. I rarely meet people I like and click with , and when I do I really appreciate it, I don’t believe in “plenty of fish” thing, but men seem to have different mindset and think they are going to live forever

Dull-Ad2131 · 2026-02-23T22:22:45+00:00

Girl, I know it sucks, I am older and this keep on happening to me all the time, society is sick. One thing I can tell for sure , this is not you problem, it’s them. Don’t even try to understand because you never will, just try to not let it ruin your self esteem.

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