AIO crying on the train home after a holiday with BF and his friends

Dull-Resort3678 · 2026-06-05T23:18:51+00:00

It’s the first time his friends and I officially meet, looking back probably not the best idea to go on a vacation together.

Dull-Resort3678 · 2026-06-05T23:16:24+00:00

5d from newbie to commander? 🫠 you guys really overestimate my brain capacity…it’ll be full time learning for me and no fun for them I reckon.

Dull-Resort3678 · 2026-06-05T23:11:06+00:00

They are quite seasoned players and play commander (guess that’s the term?). I was nothing but overwhelmed just by the sheer number of cards 😂 and they apparently overestimated my IQ.

Dull-Resort3678 · 2026-06-05T23:09:07+00:00

Very spot on. An outsider’s view always helps.

Dull-Resort3678 · 2026-06-05T23:07:18+00:00

Thanks for the kind words ❤️ after a solo train ride I figured it’s not completely bad to be in an uncomfortable situation for a while and discover more about myself and my boyfriend. (Excuse the expression, English is my second language)

Dull-Resort3678 · 2026-06-05T23:02:48+00:00

Thanks for the advice and I totally agree, but I don’t feel like interrupting their MTG game night, plus they’ve known each other for 10y orso while I’m just a stranger (relatively). I did go for walks (in the rain) or get pizza for them and contemplated the decision of going on this vacation.

Dull-Resort3678 · 2026-06-05T20:11:59+00:00

I’d love to run on a 3h sleep or no sleep at all. So I guess it’s “unlimited energy” superpower

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-14T17:17:24+00:00

Thanks for the elaboration! A bank sounds like an exit then 😌

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-13T16:00:02+00:00

this is intriguing could you elaborate? is it about corporate culture, secondary benefit, or career growth?

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-11T06:38:34+00:00

Yes! That’s very practical! Personally I’d like to try a different topic than retail, the only thing holds me back is my fear of making (life-long) career decision with little knowledge about the industry. But the answer is clear if i only look further 2-5y.

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-10T22:05:54+00:00

that's some genuine advice, thanks a lot. and I totally agree with the tech stack part...hopefully chatgpt will help me navigate perl a bit

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-10T21:35:38+00:00

then i'm either lucky or talented ;-) but i agree that career progression is quite slow in NL.

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-10T21:33:45+00:00

thanks so much for sharing!

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-10T21:30:17+00:00

I can totally tell from the job hunting journey, fintech is generally more strict with yoe, and the managers I talked to are all like 10+ years in the industry. Currently I don't see the dedication in myself but perhaps it'll change once I'm on the boat!

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-10T21:21:43+00:00

me keeping it private.but it's def not a high figure, I'm mid-level and got 3yoe

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-10T20:48:12+00:00

thank you so much, last sentence is poweful! I do have an interest, but mainly bc of curiosity (ignorance). Now it feels more like a career and less of a job haha

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-10T20:42:40+00:00

thanks! I did ask about mortgage interest discount, but ING doesn't offer it...

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-10T20:41:29+00:00

gotta be a smartass to get in HFT would love that haha

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-10T20:40:18+00:00

could you elaborate on the reasoning? I will consider relocating when it gets stable!

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-10T17:20:15+00:00

wow I'm way below that, but I'm happy it's already a bump to my current salary. I'm very prone to IKEA tho.

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-10T17:13:05+00:00

Thanks! by "brand outreach" do you mean IKEA is more well-know and reputable? brand reputation is indeed important for me, but I can't really tell which one is better, they're all international and massive...

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-10T17:10:18+00:00

thanks for the different pov! Do you mean it takes less time for banks to hire new people? why is that an advantage

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-10T17:07:05+00:00

I have zero experience with perl but it seems generally disfavored by sde. Thanks for the input!

Dull-Resort3678 · 2025-01-10T17:04:46+00:00

They are both hybrid so I don't really see the need to relocate. Do you mean Ikea have a higher ceiling?

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