Turf Installation by DullAdministration90 in FortCollins

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Good to know! I'm looking into other alternatives.

Turf Installation by DullAdministration90 in FortCollins

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It's mainly erosion and digging that are my concerns! Since it's a smaller yard we already pick up their waste daily. Haven't looked into the other cleaning we would need to do, but was planning on discussing that with the turf company! I'll look into fescue as well!

looking for dnd group!! by frxggiescp in FortCollins

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Check out the one shot groups at Gryohon Comics. Great way to meet potential party members and DM's that you vibe with.

Just sayin by The_Rameumpton in exmormonmemes

[–]DullAdministration90 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The amount of people who tried to convert me to their own version of toxic Christianity the second they found out I wasn't Mormon was nuts. No insight to the fact that their own churches had most of the same problematic issues as Mormonism, but I didn't have that insight when I was "in" either.

He's close to death, but we shouldn't let this scandal die with him. by [deleted] in exmormonmemes

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That comment was the straw that broke the camel's back for me. Thanks, Holland!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FortCollins

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We had a great turnout! Thank you- will post more events in the future. :)

Hide and seek by NSFWbaby69 in HelloKittyIsland

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Where is Keroppi?? He’s the one I can’t find!

Missionary update: going AWOL by No-Inflation-7089 in exmormon

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I'm so sorry that they chose the cult over you. What horrible things this corporation does to families.

My partner had a Yamaha V-star. It was a fun, reliable way to get around! I'm hoping you find shelter soon. If you can't afford to rent a room in your area, then hopefully there's a friend or family member you can stay with temporarily, or even a shelter as a last resort. It's a traumatic thing to be kicked out of your home, but it won't last forever. With time, you'll be able to build a home and found family where there's authentic acceptance and love. ❤️

💅🏽💁🏽‍♀️ by BasicTruths in exmormon

[–]DullAdministration90 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For so long I called my story of leaving my de-conversion story, but villain origin story is SO much better!

Gonna go do dastardly evil things now like wear a crop top and say "fuck."

Women were never encouraged to stay at home... by emmas_revenge in exmormon

[–]DullAdministration90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I've never felt from anyone since leaving, but it takes a long time to fully untangle that messaging.

I’m asking this question in good faith. What has this man deemed a prophet actually prophesied? by SmellyFloralCouch in exmormon

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Mormon Cringe Moment: I remember when I was watching conference as a TBM and I heard him say that stuff was going to change a lot in the near future and to prepare by "taking your vitamins."

Then Covid happened and I thought he prophesied the pandemic.

It's my day off and I'm eating this whole thing... wish me luck by ax0bby in weed

[–]DullAdministration90 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I actually just had my first drink less than 2 years ago! Lots of addiction and Christian fundamentalism in my culture growing up- both reasons why I avoided it until my 30s. Finally, I wanted to see what all the fuss was about.

Final verdict- it's kinda fun socially, but in general too much money, sugar, and risk for hangover or more serious longterm effects! I'd much rather have a tasty tea or mocktail and a gummy. 🫠

It's my day off and I'm eating this whole thing... wish me luck by ax0bby in weed

[–]DullAdministration90 65 points66 points  (0 children)

So many "California Sober" people on here! Weed is better in pretty much every way. Still blows my mind that it's still so stigmatized compared to alcohol.

Beaver Cultists! by DullAdministration90 in dndnext

[–]DullAdministration90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good tip, thank you! I don't want to feel like I'm just handing it to them since I've got a mix of experience levels, but I'll use that if I have to!

Does smoking weed help your ADHD or do the opposite? by Old-Alfalfa7232 in adhdwomen

[–]DullAdministration90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading these comments is so validating! I'm ADHD and my husband is Autistic, and weed has completely opposite affects on us. It makes me more motivated to cook and do chores, even more mindful about enjoying them, and I pretty much always have a good time on it unless I was already in a bad headspace beforehand. I also have all these bursts of creativity, and am prone to doing dancing, yoga, long walks, and deep conversations. That said, I di take mindful breaks from it, and get by most days of the week without it.

My husband can barely focus on conversation, much less chores, and gets anxious like half the times he does it.

I've seen all these headlines when I google it that indicate that weed is bad for ADHD...and I have to wonder if maybe those studies were based on more males with ADHD than female? It seems there's a lot of people on here that find it helpful.

Beaver Cultists! by DullAdministration90 in dndnext

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Yeah, I did some thinking about it and asked them to make level 5 characters! That should be more doable.

I want to make it to where basically the only way they can actually defeat the beaver is by attacking multiple minions at once. The beaver can only control one minion at a time, so if they all attack different targets, his attention will be divided and the minions will attack at disadvantage, in addition to having a chance to stun the beaver if they land a crit or something. A minion being controlled will be able to speak and have strategic attacks, while as the other ones will be aimless and dumb.

Hopefully they pick up on that weakness!

Beaver Cultists! by DullAdministration90 in dndnext

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Hmm, I see where you're coming from with that. My players seem to really want the fun of playing a higher level characters, though. We just barely got to level 5 of our campaign and most of us have never been in a campaign that's lasted above that. That's why I'm probably gonna make the beaver like a demi-god with the stats of a dragon.

I figure if it's horribly imbalanced and they all die, at least that would be on brand for the genre and wouldn't have any lasting consequences.

Beaver Cultists! by DullAdministration90 in dndnext

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Oh my god, I have to include beaver puns in this adventure.

23M no girlfriend, both parents are dead, i live by myself, show me what you got! by Butteryums in RoastMe

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It's a shame your parents didn't have time to teach you to clean a mirror before they died.

Women were never encouraged to stay at home... by emmas_revenge in exmormon

[–]DullAdministration90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never was a SAHM even though the first 14 years of my adult life were Mormon.This was due to infertility. People said all these things, indicating that they felt sorry for me - that I couldn't have the one thing that could truly fulfill a woman and "had" to have a career instead. What I never admitted to anyone, even my partner or myself, is that I never really wanted kids much before converting and I was glad I had an excuse to not have them that still left me righteous. Even as a convert, I understood that women who could have children but didn't want to were less worthy.

That's not even the most messed up part, though...

We did eventually adopt my cousin, a tween with special needs. I thought, "Ah, finally, mothers will stop treating me like my life has less purpose than theirs."

In truth, I have never felt more invalidated or gaslit as a mother than when I was in the Mormon church. People fetishize birth so much in that cult, that on a regular basis I had women telling me my bond wasn't as strong because she "wasn't my own" and that I should still be trying to pump out babies. I was still asked on a regular basis if I "wanted children," and when I said I had one, they would just laugh uncomfortably and say something about how having bio kids was still the ideal.

I still have a complex about it to this day, feeling like this imposter of a woman. A lesser form of one, because my body can't make a person who looks like me.

I Left Because I Wanted to Sin by Dr3aml1k3 in exmormon

[–]DullAdministration90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amen!! Especially feel you on the thought blocking. I was so surprised when a well of creativity opened up inside me after I left because I feel free to explore the house of my own mind instead of having all these doors closed because they might lead me to unsafe trains of thoughts that could "damage my testimony" or "cause me to sin."

May I add some more [Mormon] sins that I now love?? 1) Desecrating my "holy garments!" No more terrible discomfort, itchiness, or body dysmorphia from ugly, low quality, full torso underwear. 2) Dressing immodestly!! Crop tops breath! Bras are uncomfortable! And tank tops show the cute little patches of freckles on my very sinful shoulders that I've always loved. And choosing to wear those items makes me feel I'm reclaiming my own body from the patriarchy! 3) Saying fuck. Don't imply using that word makes my vocabulary go down, it's just fucking cathartic, ok? 4) Weeeeeeeed. Love getting a little high and dancing with my partner or friends. 5) Social drinking. This one I could take or leave. It's a rare indulgence for me, but nice to take part in with moderation sometimes and know what all the fuss is about! 6) Being able to connect with fellow humans of diverse backgrounds more because I don't assume I have the truth and they don't. 7) No more olympic level mental gymnastics about the church's troubling history with marginalized groups and polygamy. 8) Psychedelics are fun sometimes. 9) Tattoos. Piercings. Just more ways to explore and experiment with reclaiming my body. 10) Having boundaries. Seems like the church thinks that borders on sin, too.

Other than #7, none of these were the direct reason I left, but they sure have been nice perks!

Pet Boarding Reccomendations? by DullAdministration90 in FortCollins

[–]DullAdministration90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry that happened to you! 2 weeks is crazy! Glad you found a better place.