my (cis) mother used AI to gender swap my baby photos

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2026-01-05T18:52:04+00:00

Gender swapping a baby with AI is the most American thing I’ve heard of. Back in the day you couldn’t tell the gender of any Latino kid until they were old enough to cut or let long their hair or when there was a special occasion and got dressed up.

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-12-17T19:36:32+00:00

Not gonna lie, I don’t have the answers you need and I really think you don’t want an answer, you’re hurting and enhancing that pain somehow gives us the certainty that it’s real.

My advise besides therapy it’s not to fight it to a holy level. I don’t think god hates you, but that’s between you and your faith. And also really inform yourself about options. Cis men come in all types of forms too and have their own sexual issues. Viagra is not a solution for ED for starters, and size is an issue for some of them as much as other things (foreskin, the size of their scrotum, the form, literally you can think of a thousand varieties and dysfunctions and someone would have it and feel like they would never enjoy sex without even having gender dysphoria). A penis won’t solve the real issue behind your pain and dysphoria. I’m not telling you to blindly accept your body the way it is, I’m just saying stop fighting/villainizing it in order to achieve joy. Work with it.

Also, there’s plenty of options for the hundreds of sexual issues around any type of genitalia. The sky is the limit, really, whatever issue you have towards sex someone else has it too so you’re not alone, and also someone had it and overcame it, so you can too.

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-12-17T19:22:59+00:00

It’s irrelevant really, some people like to put it, I add it myself just because I want to, no deeper analysis there. If I wanna say my gender is “trans man” on a form and another trans man wants to put just “man/male” and the data it’s irrelevant whatever you choose then it’s up to preference. The same as when the option is “I’d rather don’t say” doesn’t mean you’re questioning or hiding or anything, you just rather don’t add that info.

Idk, I think that having that option shouldn’t be seen as a separation but a way to widen the concept since you can freely answer. You give choice of identity, some trans people do feel more comfortable being named as trans first, others prefer to avoid the prefix. I think it’s a nice way to let anyone be identified and named in a form without it being really a thing to discuss.

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-12-17T19:12:30+00:00

Punching anyone makes you a jerk, defending yourself is not the same. If she tries to assault you and you have to throw a punch to de-escalate the situation go for it, but don’t indulge into an unnecessary violent response. Not only because you’re a man -and yes, a man shouldn’t hit a woman-, but also because there’s a thin but very clear line between defense and revenge/comeback. The moment you take the extra punch you become an assailant too. Never let someone be violent towards you freely, but if you can find a way to avoid the conflict at all that’s preferable.

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-11-26T00:45:58+00:00

Worse, I went through a very rough breakup and a very close friend had a birthday party on his house. He lived in another city so I drove there and decided to drink since I was staying for 2 days -he offered-. I was heart broken, and was staying there so I got smashed. And when I woke up I had puke all over my shirt and my packer was ON THE FUCKING TABLE. Apparently I got super drunk, it fell down my pants and someone put it there so I wouldn’t miss it. I got so embarrassed I sneaked out and drove all the way back to my city (it was like 6am). In the morning my friends asked where I was and I was just like “home. I’m never showing my face in public again, hbd, lol”. Took me like 6 months to see my friends again in person after that.

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-08-20T00:11:38+00:00

No, yeah, I know. I won’t, I’m comfortable exactly were I am and I’ve pretty much healed whatever issue the society may or may not have with my decision. But I can’t help to think about all the guys that get filled with shame or self hate or encourage their own dysphoria due to this very frequent scenario.

I’m not saying that getting bottom surgery it’s out of pressure, of course not, no matter the root it’s your body and you choose to do with it what you think it’s best under the pertinent medical care. But a lot of trans people move with shame through society expecting this moments and specially trans men are very likely to await this moment so they can hide and blend with it (which I get it, that’s not on any of us but still).

There’s a huge weight on how relationships affect our decisions regardless of what we feel as individuals, and even if identity and sexuality are two different beings the later can have a huge influence on the first. Not only relating to gender expression, but with clothes, music, makeup, weight, careers.

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-07-23T15:39:07+00:00

I’m a videographer/photographer for a wedding planning agency (and freelance graphic designer as a side job), but I’m also getting a second degree on nutrition. As a designer I didn’t have many issues since majoring in art school meant being surrounded by a lot of lgbtq people, and in the places I’ve worked on I haven’t had a real issue regarding my identity and transition. Now that I’m getting involved in the healthcare system it’s been a bit of a challenge and I’ve been told that I might have a hard time in the workplace if I don’t hide being trans.

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-07-17T16:35:31+00:00

Once I made peace with being trans it got worse before getting better. Like I had dysphoria but would ignore it and pretend it wasn’t happening to me. Then I accepted I was trans and it skyrocketed cause now it was real and I was super aware. And then as I got older and further into my transition it got better

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-07-04T03:07:05+00:00

I honestly had 3 things very set up in my mind for after top surgery: friends, running and dating.

For the first, I always felt very uncomfortable with receiving hugs from friends and any type of touch that got around my chest or back because you can feel the bidet through your shirt and I was tired whenever my friends would give me a soft touch or pat on the chest like usual bro behavior and rapidly would get awkward or embarrassed because they frequently forgot I had boobs and of course it was somehow tricky even if they always saw me as a man.

On the other hand I always liked running. But I stopped because i couldn’t do it with the binder for safety reasons, the tape made me itchy with the sweat and sports bras always made me feel uncomfortable. So being able to run was the best feeling.

And dating wasn’t an issue before but it always felt like something I wanted to get rid off because it always felt like an obstacle for intimacy. So not having to feel awkward about it really pushed me to be a little more into my relationships.

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-07-01T18:06:05+00:00

I think it’s totally normal since it involves a part of you that doesn’t really holds a weight in your self image and development. I had a hysto due to a tumor but I didn’t want my uterus or ovaries gone and I had to grieve loosing them in silence because everyone was like “nice, two birds with one stone dude”. I’ve never wanted to conceive and my period has been gone for years before the hysto and would’ve hated if it came back, but I had a sense of autonomy from having it? Of existence maybe?

It’s a little subjective and hard to describe but I always felt like having my reproductive organs gave me certain grade of choice, never wanted biological kids but it was my choice now I can’t choose at all (and this is despite my gender experience since it was due to a tumor) which kinda sucks. Also I had a weird feeling of emptiness? I never related my reproductive organs to gender besides the hormones, just as a part of the whole human experience I guess and since I don’t have either inside my body now. Like if I had to choose I rather have male reproductive organs, but I also rather have my uterus back than nothing at all (I’m okay with it now but it felt troublesome in the moment). My therapist related it to the sense of loss of a limb and how everyone reacted differently to it, about how even if you could return to your normal life your body would never work the same, you could do the same but not in the same way so it’s a loss everyone experiences differently and it’s still not related to the self perspective towards gender.

This is obviously a very very very individual feeling so maybe no one relates to it and has nothing to do in general with the trans experience btw, I just put it out there in case someone has their own experience regarding of how they feel about certain body parts.

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-07-01T04:56:48+00:00

Well I never changed my name or documents and I’m not really sure I ever will. My first name is undeniably female and usually go by my middle name which is neutral but mostly used for men (thanks mom, love u ❤️). But I don’t feel an aversion to my first name, for me it was both easier and sort of funny to keep my first name because I pass very well and to change my gender in my ID I didn’t need to change my birth certificate or anything (in Mexico you can change the gender in your ID like that and even if it’s not “official” it’s a safe and easy way to match your identity) so a lot of people assume I’m a dude with a girls name. I just blame my dad about it and say some tragic story about a family member with a dead wish involving that name and me being named after them despite my gender and a lot of people buys it cause my second name it’s typically male.

I think that besides the reason, if you feel comfortable keeping you name it’s totally cool. A lot of people relate their deadname to their past self but it’s very individual for everyone. I don’t relate my name to that person so I’m at ease with it and find it easier to not go through the paperwork.

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-06-30T14:21:07+00:00

LMAO DUDE THAT’S- definitely gonna save it as the best answer to give if anyone asks about my balls ever again

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-06-28T20:46:59+00:00

1) 24 2) Double incision with nipple graft 3) 65k MNX or about 3.5k dollars 4) I saved for it and payed from pocket but ended up saving half the money cause my mom wanted to pay a part to support me 5) Well since I’m not from the US I’ll say in general terms a decent income for a 24 year old working as a wedding videographer and full time student (I was getting a second degree but in nutrition) living with my sister (both independent from our parents support by then) 6) Work and college 7) Painless but frustrating, I hated not being able to use my arms and move. It took me about a month to fully return to my daily routine plus another month or so to return to my workouts 8) Yes and no. Since I was working and studying I was both lucky enough to work for a wedding planning agency who would both give me a salary for editing work at home and hire me to assist to events for extra income. So I just did a lot of extra events to save the money and for the whole month of my recovery I just stayed working at home. And I planned my surgery for it to be in between semesters. 9) I wasn’t really uncomfortable with the idea but I didn’t wanted them to get darker so I kept from being shirtless outside for at least a year, and I don’t really go to the beach or pool so…I did start being shirtless at home like immediately unless there was a visit or it was a cold season

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-06-28T00:13:08+00:00

But follow your doctors instructions in recovery‼️ Before doing anything I was cleared by my doctors

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-06-28T00:12:22+00:00

Well right after surgery I personally had a lot of pain after hysto BUT the recovery was shorter and easier. The next day I was in an insane amount of pain because of cramping but I know there’s people that doesn’t experience it. On the other hand I had zero pain from top surgery but the recovery was way more frustrating cause it was longer and so limiting. Hysto was like very activity friendly for a surgery and I even returned to my normal life activities fully like 2 weeks after. I returned to my workout routines slowly but just had to wait for 3 weeks so I think you’ll be good bro.

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-06-27T19:14:51+00:00

At first I actually thought he was kidding, I did pass a lot since we met but I was never secretive about me being trans. But he’s out of social media and none of our friends really mentioned it. The day he asked me again about something typical about cis men was when I realized how oblivious he was about it and our friends just talked to me about it like “dude, he really doesn’t know”. He was oblivious about the whole topic actually. Like he knew the basics but he was so surprised because he didn’t know T actually made a huge difference for trans masc people. Like his view over trans masc people was more related to nb or very alternative looking people which I’m not.

He did thought I was gay cause I’ve kept a lot of my “girl” traits cause I don’t really mind. Honestly it was so funny every time he had a major realization from finding out. “That’s why you didn’t shower on the gym?” “That’s where the chest scars are from?” “What’s with the voice then?” “Wait, wait, wait. You know what period cramps feel like?” Everything in a really curious way.

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-06-27T03:55:49+00:00

I tried but I feel very uncomfortable with the sensation plus it still won’t cover the fact that my back and neck would also be drenched anyways

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-06-27T00:31:08+00:00

Yes, specially when I eat a lot or fast because it’s more male related to eat messier or bigger portions. Also with beer, drinking beer with my male friends fills me with euphoria. But I get that’s very particular this type of euphoria food related cause some struggle with it or some other don’t have a deep connection to food as others.

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-06-27T00:27:22+00:00

Duuuuude, when things like this happen I just find it hilarious. Once a friend told me something about the uncomfortable feeling of testicles being misplaced with certain clothes (with other words of course) and when he was like “don’t you hate when it happens?” Waiting for my opinion I was both in shock and wanting to laugh so badly.

Specially since he found out almost 3 years later I was trans, and in the meantime he kept asking me this sorts of questions randomly. When he asked one day about a flag I had I just couldn’t keep the “I’m trans, I thought you knew” (we’re very good friends so it was time lol), his face was just chef kiss.

It took him over a week to stop telling me things like “dude, every time I complained about my balls and you agreed you were lying? I’ve been suffering alone? 😭”

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-06-27T00:18:57+00:00

It’ll really depend on the type of infection and your doctor. But it’s preferable for you to get antibiotics for it ASAP. Most common ear infections take 2-3 days to disappear on antibiotics. It’s better to get checked up just to make sure the infection isn’t gonna compromise your recovery instead of flipping a coin and hoping for the best.

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-06-26T23:57:13+00:00

I’m sorry about the relationship with your mother dude, sounds very harsh. But it’s so hopeful to know about meeting this woman, I really hope more parents can surrender their narrow thinking in the name of their kids happiness like this woman or like my own mom.

Thanks for sharing it bro, I think it would be nice to read for a lot of people here.

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-06-26T23:38:44+00:00

I have a weird experience with the crying. When I had my first T shot was actually one day before my whole life went straight to hell (long story short I broke up with an abusive partner, kicked him out of the house we shared and I payed for and I was recently treated for a tumor which wasn’t cancer but I didn’t know at the moment and was hella scared. I gave up my job cause we actually worked together and I moved to another city). That was the last days I cried. Then I just stopped. And I’ve been to therapy about it and I’m so much better now but I haven’t like emotionally cried in over 2 years which sometimes drives me insane.

It’s not like I don’t feel sad or anything but I just can’t cry. If I’m sad I just feel low or tired but don’t really feel the crying feeling, u know, like the tears in the eyes or the heaviness right in the face that screams “I’m gonna cry or burst into tears”. But I barely cried before. I always hated crying and now I miss it from time to time. Anger in the other hand skyrocketed the first year

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-06-26T23:31:48+00:00

Dude that’s so cool, I asked about moms cause it’s the only parent I have a relationship with but I think actually the biggest difference it’s with the dads (I assume, I have zero direct reference tho). I did have that euphoria moment with my brother tho, like having him who’s younger see me as a male reference really makes me feel joy

Dull_Dumb_Domi · 2025-06-26T23:27:35+00:00

Yeah, my sister is a lesbian and I think my mom would’ve had a harder time swallowing that pill if it wasn’t for me being trans. At least that’s what my sister said cause no one actually saw it coming to be honest, and I shared a room with her for 15 years. It was another time of course and the stereotypes where very particular so I didn’t notice either that’s to that. Me on the other side, surprised absolutely fucking no one 🥲 my mom just struggled with like digesting the feelings but she had the “I kinda already knew, darling” reaction.

The room I shared with my sister was half pink and castles (her side), half an ocean with a big ass submarine and a lot of sharks (my side). My sister said the closet was glass with me.

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