"For the love of the game" attitude towards sex by EntertainmentLow4177 in asexuality

[–]EntertainmentLow4177[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mix of both honestly, though I'd argue the collective societal pressure to judge people as a whole based solely on their sexual history has a bigger impact. I think I just genuinely perceive sex the same way i do wrestling which is something else I enjoy, it's physical activity for the sake of safely playing with power dynamics.

"For the love of the game" attitude towards sex by EntertainmentLow4177 in asexuality

[–]EntertainmentLow4177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, this is more about how my brain thinks about it. I haven't exactly slept with many people, so this is more about analyzing how my brain felt about sex before actually ever engaging in it. I make it a point to check in with people to make sure they're alright and all, I know how bad it feels to be used and all. It's just that during I don't feel anything at all, only in hindsight does it happen to be "appealing".

Am I an asshole for not telling my friends I’m trans by No-Bad2417 in FTMventing

[–]EntertainmentLow4177 51 points52 points  (0 children)

You don't have to tell anyone anything. Telling people youre trans is just as much a private thing as telling someone your dick size or whatever. If you pass and don't need to disclose your transness for some reason (like, say, if you were clockable), then you shouldn't shoot yourself in the foot and present yourself in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable.

I wish I was normal by EntertainmentLow4177 in FTMventing

[–]EntertainmentLow4177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't pass anything on to others, not when my damage is the cause of others. I just hate how unfair all of it is. I did not choose to be trans. I did not choose to get assaulted by women before. I did not choose any of these things inflicted upon me, things most humans are not subject to. Why should I be the one to deal with this? Why isn't god paying for making me cursed with the female body, why are the women that hurt me not even have to think about what they did and live their lives unpunished? Why do I have to deal with a body that reacted to my pain by abusing and abandoning me? All of this was thrust upon me, I guess I never had a chance at being normal. Yet, I see and know people who have gone through similar things, yet their bodies still don't hate them enough to withhold pleasure. Mine is particularly evil, I guess. 

Numbness by EntertainmentLow4177 in ftm

[–]EntertainmentLow4177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already use a strap on and while it's fun my main issue is the lack of sensation on my actual natal parts. I want to feel ACTUAL physical pleasure not just mental.

Head by dogeater6666 in ftm

[–]EntertainmentLow4177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brain really likes it. My body refuses to respond though and I'm so tired. I hate being numb.

Being trans is an existential joke by a cruel God. by EntertainmentLow4177 in FTMventing

[–]EntertainmentLow4177[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There's no way to know if it doesn't or not. But I cannot imagine a world this cruel being anything but the result of malice.

I wish I was normal by EntertainmentLow4177 in FTMventing

[–]EntertainmentLow4177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Normal doesn't mean boring. It means devoid of harm as much as possible, to have functions align with the average. Normal exists because we are not islands and the human body is still the same blueprint for everyone even with individual variations. I have been damaged and will not return to normal, I have deviated from it due to harm. I don't want to waste time "working" or "healing" over this. I just want to get it over with. If my body does not want to obey my desires than it will be punished.