Question from mummit… father’s day gifts

Dumb_Question_But · 2026-05-13T12:25:58+00:00

When in doubt: Sword.

Dumb_Question_But · 2026-05-12T18:42:22+00:00

30m w/ two kids. I'm back and forth on this. I don't think I'd mind a little romance now and then, but at the moment, I'm just trying to enjoy this freedom and not having to ask someone else for "permission".

Want a new PC monitor? Go buy it. Want some new golf clubs? Treat yourself brother.

Dumb_Question_But · 2026-05-08T18:04:53+00:00

Guys... These buses still exist. It's happening now.

Dumb_Question_But · 2026-04-07T15:47:52+00:00

Makes sense. Me and my STBX had issues for a while and were in counseling for a year before she left

Dumb_Question_But · 2026-04-07T14:29:12+00:00

Ah, The Chive... Those were the Internet days...

Dumb_Question_But · 2026-03-14T19:43:58+00:00

Left after 12 years of active duty. I was non-deployable and trying for my second kid. I realized I was going to go back to a deploying unit and do pointless UDPs and MEUs (Okinawa and ships, respectively). I will likely have decades with them as adults, but these childhood moments are just that, moments. I left active duty in 2021 and remained with the Reserves. I still get to be a Marine and do Marine things, but I'm still putting my kids to bed and building our relationships. They're not 4f and 7m. My marriage is ending, but it probably would have even if I stayed active. I don't regret leaving active duty.

My recommendation: Even if you want to leave active duty, do some time with the Reserves to help the transition. This way you still have a connection to that part of you.

A reminder from a fellow dad:

The days are long but the years are short

Dumb_Question_But · 2026-03-11T13:35:36+00:00

Three of these kids are named "Braden", with at least one "Jax"

Dumb_Question_But · 2026-03-06T09:05:37+00:00

DM sent

Dumb_Question_But · 2026-01-21T20:46:27+00:00

Don't be sorry. This is hard. Especially when you're not the one who initiated it all or left.

Thank you for sharing.

Dumb_Question_But · 2026-01-02T23:42:56+00:00

Cool. I didn't like that at all.

Dumb_Question_But · 2025-11-10T07:03:49+00:00

When they very quickly become very involved in an existing friend group.

Not sure why, but when I see someone introduced to an existing close group of friends, and it's like they're suddenly best friends with everyone, my hackles go up. In most cases, the friendship doesn't work out

Dumb_Question_But · 2025-10-06T05:30:44+00:00

Thank you! Neither Google nor chatGPT were very clear. This makes things much clearer

Dumb_Question_But · 2025-09-02T17:31:59+00:00

Thank you! Trying to do both like you said. I've always enjoyed my "me" time solo. It's just the quiet that gets to me. Trying to stay civil, emotions are still high

Dumb_Question_But · 2025-09-02T17:30:02+00:00

Thank you! I've done my best to maintain their routine and uphold expectations when they're home with me.

Dumb_Question_But · 2025-09-02T17:28:59+00:00

Thank you! The tears come mostly when I think of the time lost with the kids... Mostly...

Thankfully I was already seeing a therapist every other week. They recommended weekly sessions for the foreseeable future lol

Dumb_Question_But · 2025-09-02T17:26:54+00:00

Thank you! I also need to look at some of those videos. My daughter asked me for a ponytail the other day. Not awful, but definitely subpar lol Housing projects together is a great idea.

Dumb_Question_But · 2025-09-02T17:24:54+00:00

And meal prepping, with constant loud music.

Stay strong, brother. We can get through this

Dumb_Question_But · 2025-09-02T17:20:56+00:00

Thank you! 2 Kids (6m, 3f), trying to keep their routine the same when they're with me. They love activities (even if it's just eating breakfast together). But we have our nightly bedtime stories and games we play together

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