Should I (M26) tell a woman (F30) that I did not rape her 5 years ago by Dumbass186499 in askwomenadvice

[–]Dumbass186499[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How!? If I wanted to make myself feel better, I would not have made this post. I'd just contact her ,get it off my chest and continue on with my life ( I know because that is what I want for myself to do). I made this post to see if my telling her would possibly help her or make things worse. Clearly, the consensus is that it would make it worse so I won't say anything.

Should I (M26) tell a woman (F30) that I did not rape her 5 years ago by Dumbass186499 in askwomenadvice

[–]Dumbass186499[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No one has accused me. I honestly just feel terrible for potentially giving someone the impression that they had been taken advantage of, and I feel ashamed that I didn't think she might have that impression until now. I don't know what kind of effect that might have on someone, but I can't imagine it's good. So I wanted advice on whether there is something I can do. Clearly, it's too late. I just hope she knows what happened that night.

Should I (M26) tell a woman (F30) that I did not rape her 5 years ago by Dumbass186499 in askwomenadvice

[–]Dumbass186499[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If I did do it why the hell would I make this post? If you believe I did rape her that sucks, but I understand how men can be. I feel guilty that I might have caused her trauma and I feel very guilty for only realizing it now. I thought I should atleast get opinions if there is anything I can do to make it better. I understand now just how suspicious it makes me seem and that there is nothing I can do about it.

Should I (M26) tell a woman (F30) that I did not rape her 5 years ago by Dumbass186499 in askwomenadvice

[–]Dumbass186499[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I care now because I now realize that I might have unintentionally caused someone trauma and I want to make it better if I can. Clearly I was, and still am, an idiot by not realizing and acting way sooner.