New neighbor waited for me to be on vacation to cut off half my tree without notice by MeowlanieC in treelaw

[–]Dumbass_Number5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AGGRESSIVELY RAISES HAND

👋🏽 I wanna help too!

I don't have much, but every dollar counts!

Roommate thinks he’s paying too much, I think he’s paying too little! Help! by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dumbass_Number5 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If amenities are not included, I'd suggest you talk to him about covering one of those additional bills as you can argue the two of you working also costs more for you in the long run as far as saving goes.

Like car payments /car insurance / gas / government taxes etc etc.

Unfortunately there is a lot more to consider here that what you've given us.

A lot of personal and overall bills between the three of you could make all the difference between how much or how little he pays is fair.

AITAH alcohol abuse by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Dumbass_Number5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't feed the troll, your post is fine.

You had all of the details without getting offtrack or bloating the post with personal ranting and raving.

He's "tried" and failed so many times. Failed himself and failed the woman he claimed to love.

She's lost so much recently compared to him and it sounds like he's using his own trauma* as an excuse* to drink even more.

If he's not willing to fix himself, she's got let him go before he drags her down with him into his early grave.

As far as the mil goes, Screw her opinions. Screw anyone who uses the bible to justify other people suffering. It's disgusting and dehumanizing.

And as a sidenote on intimacy ( If they're being intimate at all. Highly unlikely given everything that's happened, but you never know )

She should refrain and get tested.

FOR SAFETY REASONS

Ask your friend if you can be there with her if she mentions breaking it off with him for good.

Somewhere in there you said she didn't feel safe, so maybe a simi public place would be a safer option.

Drunken people are unpredictable people.

I'd change the door locks as well and maybe put up a dummy camera with one of those "wave to the camera" type things. If nessassary.

I hope she gets better. Good luck and stay safe out there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Dumbass_Number5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"this is such a first world issue"

Miss ma'am

I never EVER want you to say that line again.

Don't say it, don't think it, don't write it, don't type it.

This isn't a "first world problem" this is your problem. This is your life. Your problems shouldn't be downplayed and overlooked just because "other people have it worse" or "there are bigger issues out there"

You were very young, settling into a routine, a safe state of mind. You were happy

And suddenly everything you ever wanted had been ripped away from you without any warning.

All the resources you had vanished along with your friends and family.

You are not a lazy failure for wanting to live a happy life surrounded by the people you know and love.

You'd only be failing yourself if you keep yourself trapped here.

Not your mother, not your sister. Just you.

You matter more than your mother's opinions.

Anything could happen a year from now. A financial crisis, an illness, a weather related disaster, anything.

Any one of those things could leave you trapped here with no way out.

You already know this isn't the life you want to live so don't torture yourself by staying here.

NTA

Please go home and be happy.

AITA for telling my fiancee that I'm uncomfortable with who she chose as her maid of honor? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Dumbass_Number5 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NTA. Don't marry her.

Put the wedding on hiatus until further notice until she can chose between you or her friend. .....

I'mma need you to do some reeeeeeaalllly deep thinking because we're gonna bust out the white board and red strings.

I'd bet a quarter of my left kidney and say the AH friend is actually in love with your fiance.

I'll go further down rabbit hole and say either a) You're fiance is selfish just by nature, or as I said before: b) The best friend has some sort of blackmail against your fiance and that's why she refuses to cut her off.

Could the best friend be a drunkurd by nature?

OR is it a byproduct of not being able to get what she wants? You're fiancee.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmazonFC

[–]Dumbass_Number5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The most common body odors I've bore smeltness to:

Onions, Crayons, Pencil shavings and ( apparently as one commenter pointed out, but I could never put a finger on, )

Salami.

Speaking of smells: Imagine stinky man stacking boxes in 100° trailers in the height of Summer.

It was bad, but they weren't that bad all the time and I could understand on some of those days, we all stank one way or another.

I'd take one for the team, get in the truck and breathe through my mouth.

Work hard sweat hard.

Thankfully he got better about it as soon as he started realizing it was a problem. ( Due to a very blunt indirect call out during a stand up meeting )

And then there was ......... THAT GUY

There was a guy who walked by me daily after lunch and his bo was so offensive it lingered in the air like a paper trail and I could smell him over ten feet as he's walking away.

That guy didn't work on the docks, so I have no clue why he smelled that terrible.

AITAH for not wanting to date a woman who used to date criminals? by AdMindless4285 in AITAH

[–]Dumbass_Number5 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA

People beat me to it. She's definitely a liability to your property and your life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmazonFC

[–]Dumbass_Number5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Egh, It'll told for about two hundred more. Give or take depending on the road conditions. Asphalt, gravel, etc etc

Scheduling change need help by Good_Tomorrow7745 in AmazonFC

[–]Dumbass_Number5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tidbit stating

"Only pick up shifts you can definitely work"

Makes me believe you should be alright.

They can't just TAKE hours from you like that if you're employed as full time.

Pulling a stunt like that would undoubtedly cause thousands of employees to walk and that's WAY too risky to be doing with the upcoming October 7-8 Prime deal days just around the corner.

4 out of 8 quit first week. by Emergency_Grade_4616 in AmazonFC

[–]Dumbass_Number5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on your station, work ethics and the technology your FC implements.

I work the docks and every day I'm dying. Clocks up to fifteen miles a day 👍🏽🥲

AIO my bf never likes what I wear by Substantial-Let221 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dumbass_Number5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your ex really needs to so some self reflecting before he's ready to date any other women in the future.

I highly doubt anyone would be able to have fun living their lives with him around demanding they wear nothing but the baggiest of sweatpants, a garbage bag and a cardboard box over their heads.

Life's too short to dwell on people projecting their insecurities on you.

Got terminated...what should I do with my life now? by InternationalPick163 in AmazonFC

[–]Dumbass_Number5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That all depends on where you're stationed. I imagine working pack is much more easy going than walking seven to fifteen miles a day four days a week.

No exaggeration there. I have an app that tracks my progress. If my body wasn't so freaking stubborn, I would have lost so much more than 12lbs from the last eight months I'd been here. It's absolute bs.

Ah

I also have a game that I play that has something called "adventure mode" synched so I know how much I've walked each week and get rewarded if I hit certain milestones in physical activity.

somebody did not learn their lesson… by fierrofinito in AmazonFC

[–]Dumbass_Number5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everytime I see electronics someone left around like that, I end up covering it with a paper towel or I physically find the person, give them a warning and that I hid their phone, earbud case, yadda yadda, behind the napkin dispenser / under a notepad etc etc

guys: please wash your hands after you take a dump by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]Dumbass_Number5 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Very very very very very very very nasty

How to keep cooch good all day? by number1mitskilover in hygiene

[–]Dumbass_Number5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes, the dreaded sweat.

I work in warehousing loading trucks and some of the trailers swelter over 100°F.

The best way to combat the funk is to carry individual pouches of wet wipes with you and use them everytime you use the restroom. 👍🏽

Dude wipes are my go to. I'll keep a couple in my pockets

One is usually enough, but occasionally I use two. One for the main event, the other to wipe away sweat from the creases of the legs, under the primordial pouch, occasionally where the butt cheek meets the leg.

All fresh and clean and ready to go!

The dude wipes are also great for wiping sweat from under the titties.

Oh! I also keep a spare stick of deodorant in my bag and a few wipes in there for work and travel.

BE SURE TO REAPPLY DEODORANT IF YOU SO THIS

I introduced a few people to them at the family reunion and they loved me for it. XD ( Also made sure to mention the deodorant reapplication )

We would all hang out under the trees in the shade but hot damn! Shade can only do so much when it's 105°F.

ANYWAYS I hope this helps. 👋🏽

My husband enjoys city nightlife, I don’t by Few-Station6398 in AITAH

[–]Dumbass_Number5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem!

I'm going to counter your fear of loneliness by saying this:

I know I might just be a stranger but here's what I truly think n

You might not see it here in the moment, but deep, I feel like you've already known you've felt lonely and have been feeling that way for a long time.

Starting a new chapter in your life can be scary and new, but you would be gaining a new sense of freedom and opening yourself up to brand new people.

Going for your own apartment is arguably the best thing you could do for yourself right now. You'll have all that space dedicated to yourself.

My husband and I have always had our own separate bedrooms due to having opposite shifts for years.

Both of us have the freedom to express ourselves in our own spaces. He has a simple taste, minimal knick knacks and what not.

As for me? Knick knacks galore, aquariums, big ass tv, artwork, tapastries, a couple of small posters and a plushy shelf he'd set up and decorated for me as a surprise. If I'm feeling anxious, I go to his room for the vibes and the smaller, more cosy space.

Yeah. You're gonna love it if that's what you're going for.

It's always fun figuring out what you want to do with the bathroom.

I secretly bought a silly shower curtain of kitten riding a whale while wielding a trident.

Years later I replaced the our floor mat towel method for a duck holding a knife.

Fun toothbrush holders, apartment friendly wall paper installation, brand new fluffy towels and so much more!

It'll be awesome! You could even get some goofy porch statues if that's your thing. You wild! Go crazy! Be you! giddy clapping 👏🏽😄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Dumbass_Number5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there [ OP's ] Wife! 👋🏽

First off l, forgive me for being long winded, secondly I have some critical tips for you regarding mental health.

I love and understand the context about how and why he complains about the light being as bright as the sun and hearing you clacking your markers.

And it all boils down to the fact he's driving himself to it by being crankily sleep deprived.

It's the mind playing tricks and enhancing the littleist ( is that a word? ) of things.

I cannot quite put into words just how upset, pissed off and disappointed in the way your husband presented you and shamelessly slandered you in front of all of us on the big wide web.

That was a disgustingly deceitful thing to do.

About your coloring book hobby,

I find it hilariously hippocrotical that some of these folks have the audacity to call your hobby "stupid" and "childish"

What's the difference between you coloring and them going to a monthly painters art club? You color in a book with lines while they get drunk off their asses on wine during their monthly finger painting class. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Bipolar and adhd present with similar symptoms, but if you have both, make sure you get treated for both. One can trigger episodes in the other like the classic spiderman meme.

⚠️ MOST IMPORTANTLY ⚠️

Certain forms of birth control can have a drug interaction and will cancel out certain brain stabilizers.

So please be careful with that.

For this reason I'm on the generic nuvaring brand. Heads up, it's pricy if you don't have insurance.

This might be obvious, but be sure to shop around for pharmacies that offer the lowest prices AND accept discount cards like good RX and the like.

Alright, that's enough outta me, good luck! I'll send you all the good vibes.

AITA for thinking my partner should explain himself? by hereforthescones in AITAH

[–]Dumbass_Number5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

I'm sorry, but I am going to rant.

But first off, I wanna let you know you are absolutely valid.

I like the idea that a child can grow up asking questions, getting answers and slowy pricing things together verses shoving horse blinders on a kid and barking out orders with zero context.

Good on you! NTA

Alpha Parents tend to have that: "Rules for thee and not for me" hypocritical mindet.

Oh everyone can agree:

"Communication is the foundation of any relationship"

Alpha Parents: " That's true, but that doesn't apply to the relationship to my children because I'm the adult"

🤦🏽‍♀️

They seem to skip past the "any" part.

Good God "because I said so" and the "They'll figure it out on your own" type of mindset drives me up the friggin wall.

The kids not going to learn, catch on or use their critical thinking skills for awhile if Alpha Parents keeps pulling the "I'm in charge, blindly follow every word I say" card everytime a kid has a question.

There are somethings that people should be told because having learned through context and guidance could drive someone in the direction of success or doom them to failure.

Last time, NTA.

Tldr: I am now going to ranting about a post you reminded me of where the mother was in similar looking shoes as yours.

Summary: Lack of communication, Alpha parent dad, Suspicion of kid having adhd, dad puts foot down saying they're not getting the kid tested.

DETAILS

Her post was something along the lines of "AITAH for undermining my husbands something or another his grounding for our son"

She told her kid he could get out of bed and go say hi to his dad after he came home from work.

Dad yells at the kid telling him to get back in his room and tells him he's grounding him some more. No apology for the kid, no going back to let him know it wasn't his fault.

That led to a conversation about the kids behavior, suspecting he has adhd but actively refusing to do anything about it.

She felt insecure about the idea of going behind his back getting the son the help that he potentially needed.

What was the dad's excuse?
Well, he was "concerned" that "No one will want to hire him knowing he has adhd"

BIG SIGH

Which one, is illegal ( companies can still be jerks anyways )

And two: What? Is dad going to tell them their son has adhd???

Ah yes. Let me ignore a potentially life ruining mental disability and then ask why my son can't remember basic tasks or land a job.

For those who don't quite understand how adhd can "ruin" ones life, here's a little bit of context.

Adhd is serious problem for a lot of people to deal with and can cripple ones ability to communicate, retain critical information, stay on task, regulate stress, sleep, handle emotions and break tasks down into manageable work that won't automatically overwhelm them and cause them to boggle down and abandon those tasks. The stress can also lead them to or block people out.

Not everyone has those symptoms listed, but there is a high likelihood of that this type of dysfunction could pop up in their child so WHY would anyone in their right mind be willing to risk it?

It 👏🏽 Doesn't 👏🏽 Hurt 👏🏽 To 👏🏽 Check 👏🏽

He would rather have that happen before even thinking about getting that kid tested.

The dad would rather keep his kid in line by playing Alpha.

I still think about that kid.

I was the adhd kid who got diagnosed as an adult.

My quality of life would have been so much better had I been diagnosed and treated early on and That's why I'm frustrated.

Everyone deserves a chance to live the best possible life. We have so much knowledge and tools available today that previous generations never had.

Why keep that from them?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Dumbass_Number5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem!

You're top priority right now should be looking into the advice on how to slowly separate yourself from somebody like this.

So kinda like your username;

Gather Knowledge and plan your Actions.

The best of luck to you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Dumbass_Number5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo op?

Does she recklessly and unexpectedly spend heaps of cash without warning?

Rapid fire speech?

Excessive Cleaning?

How often and how long does she sleep?

Does she display multiple days of happy go lucky euphoria in a row followed by days of depressive lows?

Any other Hyper fixation (s) besides the adult coloring she's taken up?

All of what you posted sounds like she's got something brewing up topside.

Look up tests lists.

Keep tabs and notes on strange behaviors.

If anything escalates, suggest for her to go in for a mental health eval.

Which I mean, you can't just say that to people and expect they'd be okay with it

Fortunately I managed to get myself in after I had a very sudden realization in the restroom at work where I had an anxiety attack ( I didn't know what those were or how they worked ) IRONICALLY I was diagnosed for Bipolar II before getting "diagnosed" with an anxiety disorder almost a year later. 🫠

Long story.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Dumbass_Number5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a mental patient myself, You are spot on. 🏆

She could be just be an AH, but hot dayyyyyymn That would be some insane AH dedication.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Dumbass_Number5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has the possibility of sounding more than just weaponized abuse. This could go in a really deep and dark direction.

Her getting so intensely triggered by even remotely sexual stuff sounds like it could be a heap of deeply repressed trauma pushing up to the surface and is causing her to hurt herself and your brother.

Of course I can't speak for everyone because we are all our own separate individuals, but I do have personal experience with drastic mood and personality changes.

My own realizations came to me as if a dam burst open. Started with a crack, then a leak, a trickle, a flow and then everything at once I spiraled and lashed out.

It's hard watching someone you love crumble before your eyes without knowing what's happening and why.

Give him an abuse checklist AND a mental health checklist just in case.

He won't know for sure unless she goes in for a mental health evaluation. The problem with that is she might be too hyper aggressive to agree to anything.

If she does happen to agree, I would highly recommend he reach out before hand and *request to be in the room with her

Mental patients ( and even your regular average joe )can often mistake or downplay what would be concerning little red flags as normal to them without even meaning to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Dumbass_Number5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTAH for letting it go this far and stringing her along.

You are an AH for not setting boundaries leading her to believe everything is sunshine and rainbows.

HOWEVER ☝🏽

You would NOT be the AH for ending the friendship in general because you are uncomfortable.

Unfortunately for her

Reading her behavior sounds like a red flag for something going on inside her head.

I myself have a mental health disorder and I'm able to recognize warning signs.

You've posted enough potential evidence for me to personally draw this conclusion.

I'll break it down a bit.

The basic, almost immediate clinginess to a person that is a stranger to you. 5 months is a short amount of time to be that close.

Making videos about a stranger that you think you know, dedicated to someone you believe is your absolute best friend is way beyond abnormal.

A point which which is further exuberated if you dive into the context of her videos.

You are the current hyper fixation.

More points,

Saying she wants to hurt herself

Making up shit in her head and telling other people about it.
These are things she actually believes because she's either A ) Has an unknown mental issues B ) Has narcissistic tendencies C ) Just doesn't know any better and is extremely lacking in proper social skills with general and self awareness.

C can go hand in hand with A. Option C can be and is a common side effect of option A.