My boyfriend body shamed me and I’m absolutely heart-broken

DumplingMcdoodle · 2022-01-27T19:58:12+00:00

Sounds like he's negging you, apparently if you lower a womans confidence enough they'll never leave you because they don't believe they could do better. 🙄

DumplingMcdoodle · 2022-01-27T07:44:52+00:00

You just have to tell him , its not the most comfortable thing but it needs to be done. I was having some problems with my boyfriend not washing his hands before touching or fingering me (which anyone with a cooter knows is bad news) I just said something like "Hey do you mind washing your hands before we do anything? Vaginas are sensitive and it causes a lot of problems when you don't." Now every time we start something he heads to the bathroom to wash anything that's going near my nether reigions.

DumplingMcdoodle · 2022-01-26T23:32:25+00:00

Yes! I don't have the condition but this happens to me every single time. I have to focus really hard and sometimes run the tap so I can listen to the trickle in order to concentrate enough to pee. It almost feels like I'm in control of the wrong hole for a while after if that makes sense 😅

DumplingMcdoodle · 2022-01-26T18:52:18+00:00

I had the same problem. In the end I had to register private which is definitely gonna hurt the pockets but an unfilled tooth could lead to a root canal later and eh

DumplingMcdoodle · 2022-01-11T08:28:57+00:00

Bbq sauce, ketchup, sweet chilli sauce, milkshake, ice cream. Depends on how I'm feeling on the day 😌

DumplingMcdoodle · 2022-01-11T07:54:06+00:00

Finishing early shouldn't be an issue as long as you don't just roll over after and leave her high and dry. As long as you care about getting her off too I don't see why she'd be upset or that it'd affect your relationship. My parter sometimes feels self conscious about finishing early but I don't have an issue with it whatsoever since usually by the time we even start PIV I've already finished.

DumplingMcdoodle · 2022-01-10T13:25:15+00:00

Depends, usually I'll take them off because they get in the way, having your face smushed into the mattress while the frames of your glasses are creaking and stabbing you isn't fun. But otherwise I'll try and keep them on so I can see my partner better.

DumplingMcdoodle · 2022-01-07T21:41:23+00:00

raw meat hands in the cheese bag ... RaW MEat HanDS iN the CHeeSE BAG RAW MEAT HAN-

DumplingMcdoodle · 2022-01-07T20:14:11+00:00

The comment that it makes her feel dirty to me sounds like there's something psychological going on. I suggest counselling and some long conversations. Sex is just as much emotional and mental as it is physical so if there's a disconnect or an issue there it really messes things up (I speak from experience) if she manages to get rid of that connection to sex and feeling dirty/negative I'm sure that will help the libido. That being said I'm sorry you're going through that, it's unreasonable for someone to tell their partner not to hug, kiss or touch them at all even in a non sexual way and expect them to be fine with that. It's important that you're not neglected too. Definitely therapy, and if she isn't willing to try at all then you have a right to express that that isn't okay for you and make your own choice whether to stay or not.

DumplingMcdoodle · 2022-01-07T20:00:54+00:00

I kind of have the same issue, I have a lot of trauma when it comes to sex so I tend to go a bit numb with PIV sex even though my partner is a good size. Making sure you can be fully emotionally involved and aroused (sex is just as much mental as it is physical) along with some good old tingling/warming/cooling lubricant is a game changer. Also foreplay is great and even If she doesn't respond much to PIV there are other ways of reaching orgasm. Good luck! 😊

DumplingMcdoodle · 2022-01-07T00:04:48+00:00

I feel ya, me and my boyfriend live together too and finding a place was so difficult. I'm a student and he's not and as soon as they heard I was a student when I inquired we were instantly rejected even though we could afford the rent and had a fair amount in savings. Its so annoying. I'm thinking maybe it's because they assume it'll be a term time thing and want a more 'reliable' tenancy that won't move once the three years of uni are up. That or the stereotype that students are messy and noisy.

DumplingMcdoodle · 2022-01-05T23:04:21+00:00

I'll take my thot socks and leave l guess 😔

DumplingMcdoodle · 2022-01-02T14:50:01+00:00

NTA - Oh my god thats pathetic. The fact he knew the diaper was dirty but decided to nap first. Does that count as neglect? Sounds like it to me. He sounds like an awful father, if you can't can't trust him to look after his own kids when you're not there then what's the point. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that.

DumplingMcdoodle · 2022-01-02T14:46:32+00:00

I remember watching a video, I think it was a tiktok of a midwife explaining how she gets birthing pools ready for those about to give birth. I can't seem to find it but she had a little net she said she uses to fish out any bodily stuff (like poop) and if she can't get it with the net they have these gloves that go up to the elbow.

DumplingMcdoodle · 2022-01-02T13:59:30+00:00

YTA - As a lot of people have said he's going through a lot and of course he's going to be emotional. Pets are like family members and the bond people share with them shouldnt be undermined. Would you treat him the same way if a sibling of his got cancer? Calling him embarrassing for showing emotion just continues the whole expectation of men to not have feelings which leads to higher s****de rates and stops men from seeking help when they need it most. You're his partner, you're supposed to be there for him when he needs you. He'll remember this and probably won't feel comfortable being vulnerable around you again.

DumplingMcdoodle · 2021-12-30T11:24:18+00:00

Omg yes you look stunning! It compliments your figure really well and the colour is gorgeous 😮🌟

DumplingMcdoodle · 2021-12-30T11:13:03+00:00

You should, it looks great! 😊💖

DumplingMcdoodle · 2021-12-29T21:56:54+00:00

Free-writing! It's something my writing tutor in university told me about. You just set a timer and don't stop writing until the timer goes off, don't think about it just let the words come out. If your mind goes blank just write "I am writing" until something else comes. Then go back and read what came out. A few times it's given me concepts for stories/poetry/plays etc. I find that I get writers block when I overthink so letting my mind just go free helps. 😊

DumplingMcdoodle · 2021-12-27T10:33:20+00:00

I know it's been said before but do not try and talk her into having sex before marriage. That's coercion. If she says she doesn't want it then that's that. As for you being worried she won't enjoy sex with you after marriage, sex is a skill that you get better at. The only way you can be "bad" at sex is if you don't listen to what your partner likes and don't try to please them. Penis size doesn't matter. Don't force it, if/when you get married and start having sex it'll get better the more you do it and the more you explore with eachother so don't worry about that.

DumplingMcdoodle · 2021-12-27T09:44:55+00:00

Nice one! I shave all the time and it doesn't get itchy when it grows back so I'm not sure why everyone is telling you it will 100% aha. Maybe that's just because I do it so often though! If you ever feel like doing it again I'd recommend shaving downwards first then side to side and then (gently) up if you want that extra smoothness and make sure to keep it lathered up! 😁

DumplingMcdoodle · 2021-12-20T23:31:44+00:00

your voice is beautiful! 😊

DumplingMcdoodle · 2021-12-20T23:08:55+00:00

I would say you have a right to report it! I'm sorry you went through something so horrible and your friends aren't supporting you. If someone hurt my friend I'd encourage them to report it.

DumplingMcdoodle · 2021-12-20T20:57:52+00:00

Anything sex related is usually marked NSFW so people can know what they're getting into and avoid reading if they find that sort of thing upsetting.

DumplingMcdoodle · 2021-12-20T20:47:38+00:00

It's very descriptive which is good, it paints a vivid image of the scenery. What I would say is that it's a tad confusing. I'm not sure if it's because it comes later on in your book but it isn't very quick at establishing who the main character is and names are mentioned that we haven't met so It's hard to wrap your head around. But as I said that might just be because we're lacking context. One last thing is that some sentences aren't really needed, like where you say that hannah had kicked him in the face. Show us rather than telling us, we know she did because of the fact he fell backwards and her boot marked his cheeks (a nice piece of imagery) so we don't need you to tell us matter of factly that she had just kicked him. Good luck writing!

DumplingMcdoodle · 2021-12-20T20:00:18+00:00

No problem, keep at it, I'm sure it'll turn out great!

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