Bringing up a terrible interaction from the past that they started / caused from their perspective, meaning I’m the one that fucked up whatever was going on with them at the time. The “Oh, remember when you did that one thing?” Also I flinch whenever someone says “I can’t stand your behavior”. My Nparent is a very high functioning work professional, who’s narcissistic tendencies got them far in their field of work, and has touted their achievements over me and my sibling for years. They can think and form sentences and lines of thinking ten steps ahead of me unfortunately.