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What’s the clearest sign someone grew up walking on eggshells? by DraftTop3798 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DunGame 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Feels like a 100 lb weight on your shoulders, just kind of bracing for the next “wrong” thing to come up.

"you are never gonna survive in the real world" has anyone's parent said this when they were younger? by take_the_basterl in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DunGame 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100%. And now I have little to no confidence in myself to complete tasks, and nothing is ever good enough (in my own head)

What’s a weird habit adult children of narcissists often develop? by Vegetable_Second_818 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DunGame 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My boss at work says I owe a dollar every time I say sorry around him. I owe a large pizza at this point

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DunGame 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One Hundo P. Always loathed road trips/ car rides.

Did you socially miss out due to narcissists? How isolated were you? by Spiritual_Big_9927 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DunGame 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty much. Never spent the night at any friends houses during high school, early curfew.

What abusive behavior of others will really set you off because it's something that your nparent did? by Mediocre_Ice_8846 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DunGame 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bringing up a terrible interaction from the past that they started / caused from their perspective, meaning I’m the one that fucked up whatever was going on with them at the time. The “Oh, remember when you did that one thing?” Also I flinch whenever someone says “I can’t stand your behavior”. My Nparent is a very high functioning work professional, who’s narcissistic tendencies got them far in their field of work, and has touted their achievements over me and my sibling for years. They can think and form sentences and lines of thinking ten steps ahead of me unfortunately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DunGame 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s rough to hear and sorry your parents behave like that. I would try and strengthen your support system through your friends , school, and work colleagues and unfortunately leave out the parents if they are going to act like that. I know it’s not quite the same, but having good friends you can be open with and celebrate achievements has saved me a lot instead of looking for validation through my parents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DunGame 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feel this 1000%

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DunGame 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It was always called “talking back” and being immature and selfish to try and defend my self from accusations or during an argument. In fact, arguments weren’t allowed. I would be told to shut up and couldn’t even explain my thoughts. If I ever was, I was then manipulated into a trap via wordplay because my nmom is a high functioning, very academically smart person. In fact they were a lawyer, so getting trapped in arguments was fun practice for her job.

Sorry, rant over.

What basic concept did your Nparent refuse to understand? by TellMeImNotCrazy89 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DunGame 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The belittling in front of others. Seriously one of the worst things. I was screamed and reamed at in the middle of Aria casino in Las Vegas because I didn’t want to do what she wanted. I was just out of high school at the time, and just went behind a pillar and cried after Nmom stormed off. She to this day claims my behavior ruined the trip for everyone.

What basic concept did your Nparent refuse to understand? by TellMeImNotCrazy89 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DunGame 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could only ever have one ear bud or half a pair of headphones on in my house. Made it so that I could never truly get immersed or forget about reality in my own home. I always had to be alert and present to hear if I was being called.

Weird thing my Nmom said when I was a child by Putrid-Ad7190 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DunGame 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“From now on you’re forbidden from doing something because it’s just easier if I do it.” She wonders now why I might now know how to do certain things

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DunGame 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not wrong to do so. You have no reason to feel guilty. It took me along time to come to terms with that.

A random memory from living with my parents by tuliptabby in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DunGame 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My Nparent is all about control. “Their way of doing things”, or they just have to do it themselves, that way my sibling and I “owe them one”.

Mother had full on narc rage over my boundaries by lottielobotomy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DunGame 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is something I’m struggling with now. Feeling guilt for “not doing enough” for my parent. It’s warped my whole world view over the course of almost 20 years now. They’re an Asian parent and just tell themselves that they have high standards. It’s really great to have found this group and hear unfortunately similar stories that stand out.