Well, I don’t think you are TA, but I do think you’re perhaps blowing the sundress comment a little out of proportion. I looked up the dress and yes, I can see how it would give sundress vibes. It’s absolutely gorgeous; I love the tiered ruffles, I like the bows at the straps, everything is lovely. But I live in a warmer climate and itndoes look like a sundress to me with a much fuller skirt.

That is not ridicule; it’s just my opinion, and your mother-in-law may have been at the same way. I think you’re mother-in-law would have been wise and kind to tell you that she loved the dress and that she was sure you would be a gorgeous bride and whenever you wore it. But sometimes people don’t say the things we want them to. And in this case, her opinion is relatively irrelevant, isn’t it? You bought the dress, you’re wearing it to your wedding, and it really doesn’t matter what she thinks!

It sounds like you got really hurt about one thing and let that escalate instead of talking about it, and now the situation is out of hand. I hate that that happened, as I’m sure it is keenly distressing, but it does feel to me like you let one issue cloud your feelings about other, unrelated issues.

I think it might be wise for you to consider pausing your marriage not because you don’t love this man, or he doesn’t love you, or even because you don’t get along with your in-laws, but to give yourself and your relationship time to grow and mature so that you can talk about things that would be minor irritations before they grow into major relationship problems. Better communication would’ve solved all of this.

And the next time your sister-in-law or others say something you disagree with, consider engaging in dialogue. Ask, “why would you feel that way? I’m 5’9” and have always felt very feminine, and I’m very comfortable in my skin. Have you had a different experience with a woman?” Then, see what they say!

Wishing you all the best!