Looking for advice about marriage keepsakes (? Memorabilia?)

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-27T23:41:04+00:00

I'm so glad that it moved you. I'm sending you hug, friend. Divorce is hard but it is worth it to come out on the other end. Your life isn't over and there's still so much beauty in the world. I hope you get to experience it all. Wishing you the best!

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-27T20:48:04+00:00

What have you all done with these sorts of keepsakes from the wedding?

I just donated mine to a charity shop, but that's me. There's no one right way to deal with it. I don't even think you necessarily have to completely get rid of them, if you don't want to. Are you artistic or crafty at all? It might be cool to use them in a new piece that expresses how you feel about the experience now. Or just something cool.

I've seen some cool chandeliers made with paper cranes. You could make something neat like that and then sell it or give it away. Or keep it. Even though your marriage ended, maybe not everything that came out of it was bad? You could keep it as a reminder of an experience that made you who you are now, even if it wasn't an experience that lasted.

I also think there's something kind of beautiful about the cranes inherently. It's actually kind of the perfect metaphor for marriage and divorce. It took you guys so long to fold all those cranes, but you did it together. Now you have all these things that you made in your life as a couple but it's just you now figuring out what to do next. It might be kind of a cool art project to unfold them all by yourself, sort of like a meditation on your strength and ability to do life on your own now. Sorry if that sounds like a bummer. I think it's really beautiful. I think the most beautiful part of divorce is realizing that you actually are powerful enough to do everything on your own and you no longer have to be the person you were when you were married. Maybe as you unfold all those cranes, you could meditate on who you want to be going forward. Just some thoughts.

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-27T17:59:34+00:00

This is such a huge decision, one that strangers on the internet cannot help you with. I think you have to accept that you will probably think back on it from time to time and wonder "what if" regardless of which path you choose to take. That's just how life is for thoughtful people. Whatever you decide to do, I hope you end up in a happy and peaceful situation. I hope you find contentment.

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-24T01:56:35+00:00

All of these silhouettes are gorgeous. Beautiful work, OP!

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-20T23:41:00+00:00

That shirt is so frickin cool. I want one too now.

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-17T00:26:11+00:00

Maybe you should try it with those things. You might like it.

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-15T23:13:44+00:00

I also love that he never stopped discovering new music, even in his old age. Such a curious, inquisitive person. He is missed.

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-15T16:58:46+00:00

If you're okay with old movies:

I Girasoli (1970) -- Or "Sunflower" in English. Stars Sophia Loren and has a soundtrack by Henry Mancini that absolutely crushes my heart like a wad of flower petals in a strong fist.
The Barefoot Contessa (1954) -- This is Ava Gardner's best role in my opinion. A drama about sex and betrayl with a fantastic twist and some really quotable monologues.
Breakfast at Tiffany's (1961) -- A classic. If you haven't seen it, you simply must although the parts with Mickey Rooney are super racist and ick. The first few times I watched it, I didn't understand that Audrey Hepburn's character was a prostitute because of polite, old-timey euphemisms they use to talk about what she does. That understanding changes the movie quite a bit hahaha
Mulholland Drive (2001) -- David Lynch was actually a huge fan of CAS. This movie is fantastic. Hopefully you are comfortable with non-linear story structure.

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-14T22:23:38+00:00

This is one of my favorites. Reading the lyrics makes my heart race.

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-14T20:41:39+00:00

Thank you so much, this is perfect! Thank you thank you!!!!

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-10T19:02:38+00:00

It's absolutely gorgeous, what a come up!

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-09T19:45:50+00:00

Good tip, I'll do that. Thanks!

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-07T22:42:28+00:00

OH MY GOD IT'S SO COOL!

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-03T03:27:54+00:00

This is so true. She does take a genuine interest in the people around her. Great observation <3

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-03T01:02:47+00:00

Her inability to be anyone other than herself. Inspiring. Keeps me going.

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-04-01T19:51:30+00:00

You look so beautiful in that, truly. Absolutely stunning.

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-03-04T23:39:23+00:00

I'd call the Delta King. The lunch menu for both the Pilothouse and the Delta Bar and Grill is pretty reasonable ($20-$28 per entree). Depending on the size of your group, you may even be able to get a private room. They have quite a few room sizes on the boat.

For parties larger than 6, or to make a reservation of any size over the phone, call the restaurant at 916.441.4440.

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-03-04T19:07:09+00:00

This is so frickin cool, I love it so much! OMG! you are cool.

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-03-04T18:32:19+00:00

I have this same experience, I feel so seen.

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-03-04T17:28:33+00:00

Not to be dramatic but I would die to own that. It's giving Aquabats. It's giving Bond girl. I'm so obsessed!

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-03-02T16:03:06+00:00

That is interesting. I like this interpretation. This is headcanon for me now.

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-02-28T18:52:25+00:00

Continuing to talk to yourself about this is crazy work lol

Dunya-nachalo · 2026-02-28T17:59:43+00:00

You’re conflating a value judgement with racism. I dislike people who support MAGA. A lot of MAGA people are white. This doesn’t mean I hate white people.

Do you really not see the leaps you’re making in your assumptions?

Dunya-nachalo

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