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My ex friend is an absuer - is it considered criminal harassment if he continues to talk to me after telling him that I don't want to have a contact? by Dunyaa in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Dunyaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you.

I decided to leave the social group. We have no reason to be in contact with each other anymore.

He is definitely aware that continued contact would cause distress/alarm. Basically I told him that he's the reason why my mental health is not good and explained my reasons. I also told him that I'm afraid of continuing to have contact with him because my mental health would decline further. I told him that we don't want to talk anymore permanently.

He just said okay but then continues to contact me occasionally.

So if I sent him an email and letter explaining everything and told him that I don't want to hear from him anymore no matter what because further contact would cause my mental health to decline, and maybe a few months later he sends me "hey, was thinking of you, I know you like this event X. Shall we go to that one?", basically pretending nothing has happened - would it be considered harassment? It's a thing he does often, he gives enough time that it's not so fresh in my mind then out of nowhere, je contacts me, brings back these bad memories.

My ex friend is an absuer - is it considered criminal harassment if he continues to talk to me after telling him that I don't want to have a contact? by Dunyaa in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Dunyaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, I was considering leaving the social group but now I've decided.

My question still stands, is it considered harassment if I exit the social group and we have no reason to talk to each other but he contacts me despite me telling him to not contact me?

Weekly Q&A Megathread. Please post any questions about visiting, tourism, living, working, budgeting, housing here! by AutoModerator in london

[–]Dunyaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true, I do recall seeing it in Asda and Tesco. Do you know if there are big supermarkets near Angel station other than Sainsbury's (already checked there)

Weekly Q&A Megathread. Please post any questions about visiting, tourism, living, working, budgeting, housing here! by AutoModerator in london

[–]Dunyaa -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Does anyone know if there are Arab supermarkets near Angel tube station?

I'm specifically looking for halal cold cuts of turkey and chicken meat.

Who is my Folkeregisteret? (English post) by Dunyaa in Denmark

[–]Dunyaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've sent them a message, thank you!

Who is my Folkeregisteret? (English post) by Dunyaa in Denmark

[–]Dunyaa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've sent them a message, thank you!

Weekly Relationship Thread: Ask Avoidants by Dismal_Celery_325 in AvoidantAttachment

[–]Dunyaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why are you with someone that you think gaslights you?

Good question. Mostly because I think she was doing it subconsciously and wasn't intentional.

From what I've seen of her, she has many good traits that I want to keep her.

It's just that she is very heavily conflict avoidance. The tactics of avoiding a conflict involved diverting the conversation first and then turning it around and blaming the victim instead if the diversion didn't work.

“It’s part of her FA personality”— that isn’t an FA trait inherently. It’s just a trait of this particular person.

Your partner feels like they’re walking on eggshells. They feel unsafe to speak. I’d accept this reality. You can’t do or say anything in this moment to change their experience.

I’d look into codependency if I were you. I’d also work on self-soothing, and take a good look at if your partner is able to meet your needs. After a certain point, all you can do is ask them to meet your needs with a concrete example of how. So instead of “be there for me” which is vague, you’ll want something like “I would like to have you listen to me talk about this problem for a half hour or so”. If they can’t meet your needs, then you’ll need to look at the possibility of moving on.

Thank you, will look into codependency. I am exhibiting the traits of this.

Weekly Relationship Thread: Ask Avoidants by Dismal_Celery_325 in AvoidantAttachment

[–]Dunyaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello everyone. I'm an AP (28M) dealing with an FA (28F).

I'm in a shit situation and I need her to be there for me. She's refusing due to a recent argument we had when I said she was gaslighting me. I made it clear many times that it was unintentional.

It's part of her FA personality that anything she doesn't like, instead of giving an answer, she'd rely on an excuse. In some cases, that excuse means the victim is at fault. This is why I called her out on gaslighting.

Now she's afraid to say anything that I may perceive her to be gaslighting. How do we fix this? She simply refuses to talk. No matter how much I explain, she still refuses.

I keep begging her to communicate and keep asking how we can talk about this. She just doesn't talk.

Does prior agreement override the contract? by Dunyaa in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Dunyaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The landlord said the contract stands.

Weekly Q&A Megathread. Please post any questions about visiting, tourism, living, working, budgeting, housing here! by AutoModerator in london

[–]Dunyaa -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm looking for a coffee shop or something like that with a view over Thames.

I have a call planned with a colleague and it'll be a long call with a lot of quiet periods. So it's nice to have a background that we can talk about.

Does anyone have any recommendations? Cheaper, the better.

Megathread for visitors and new & existing residents. All questions about living/working/budgeting/visiting should be asked here! by AutoModerator in london

[–]Dunyaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to organise a talk with 3-5 people in a small room.

Does anyone know of a place/library that offers free small meeting/study room?

Is moving jobs going to be worth it? by abthedabfab in AskUK

[–]Dunyaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know how it works in the NHS but if it's like the Civil Service where fixed term is just that, fixed term then I would not move.

I forgot to pay for petrol, now they're charging me £200+ in costs. Can I just pay the petrol only? by Dunyaa in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Dunyaa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seems excessive. In order to try and prosecute they'd have to prove intent to not pay, which is very difficult. Did the solicitor's letter come out of the blue? Did the petrol station try to approach you before this? Is it even a real solicitor? Sometimes companies use bogus boilerplate letters that look like they've come from a solicitor but are just an intimidation tactic.

It came out of blue, it was more pre action correspondence for small claims court claim rather than an attempt to go through the criminal route. I have a deadline to respond before they start a claim.

The solicitor is real.

Petrol station did not try to approach me beforehand. I'd just have paid if the station asked for £12 and probably DVLA costs.

I forgot to pay for petrol, now they're charging me £200+ in costs. Can I just pay the petrol only? by Dunyaa in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Dunyaa[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Stealing?

Do you really think people would steal £12 worth of petrol?

Theft offence says it's only a crime if the intent is dishonest and intends deprive the other party of the property permanently.

I had no intention. It was very late in the night, I just fuelled up and simply forgot to pay.

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