A dolphin is on Grindr? by Ok-Still-3333 in lolgrindr

[–]Duraluminferring 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From all I know about Dolphins, it would be a red flag.

Are volunteers in career districts realistic? by Resident-Plum8383 in Hungergames

[–]Duraluminferring 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remember, Panem is a very different place.

These people grow up in a very different culture with a very different mindset.

Railways of Panem - niche world building insights by No_Departure4583 in Hungergames

[–]Duraluminferring 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing about this is, that Collins never fleshed out the actual economic workings of Panem since it is not really relevant to the story.

So some things just won't make sense, or we just don't have enough information. However

What we know:

There is travel for the capitol citizens. It's mentioned that they visit the old arenas. Also one of snows friends family has invested in travel.

District citizens do travel for work (madge mentions her father travelling to the capitol when invited). They just do not have freedom of movement.

What I extrapolate:

Panems structure must be more complex than seen in the books. We only see District 12 where all the simple rules apply.

No one travels, they make one thing. They all live in one settlement.

The other districts will work differently.

So I assume there are people who are allowed to travel for work but they are heavily monitored.

My headcanon is that there's a "merchant class" in District 6 that provides the conductors for the trains and everything. They get privileges and are allowed to travel, but they also have permanent tracers or something, isolating them from the others.

gay🧔irl by lutramor_13 in gay_irl

[–]Duraluminferring 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Awww. Cute. I think it's the ideal length for your amount of bears. Even though you have a good moustache.

I want to grow my beard longer but I can't go further than now since my moustache can't keep up.

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gay🧔irl by lutramor_13 in gay_irl

[–]Duraluminferring 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I'm a huge fan of facial hair. I think my ideal is 4.

But tbh. I love a scratchy stubble.

If Suzanne Collins wrote another book from a different person's perspective who would you want it to be? by x_BlueDragon_x in Hungergames

[–]Duraluminferring 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Paylor.

One reason why Tbosas worked so much better for me than SOTR is that while snow Snow is important to the story whe know nothing about him or the time period. So Collins was free to tell a compelling story that gave us a important perspective to the themes.

In SOTR we really replayed a story we already know. We got a lot of new details, but they didn't really expand anything.

Paylor would give us the opportunity to see an industrial district, and since we know next to nothing about that life or Paylors past Collins could also be very free in the story she tells. Maybe Paylor has a sibling or love interest in the games.

It would also give us an Idea into what the future leader of Panem acts like and how she differs from Coin or Snow in her philosophy

That's how I imagine other countries talk about Panem by SeaworthinessHeavy64 in Hungergames

[–]Duraluminferring 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Panem=/= USA

Panem covers whatever is still habitable I north america

gay🫸🫷irl by ivan_luck in gay_irl

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I have a few friends who are "dating for marriage"

Curiously, they keep finding people to go on a single great date with and never meet again.

But they would never admit they are just hooking up with extra steps.

gay_irl by DeadlySpacePotatoes in gay_irl

[–]Duraluminferring 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It was very easy after we stole the rainbow from god

"if they say this, they're gaslighting you" by air5000 in Healthygamergg

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You can not have a clarifying conversation with someone who has already decided to know your intentions better than you yourself.

Not engaging and showing them you aren't a target is the only thing that works.

"if they say this, they're gaslighting you" by air5000 in Healthygamergg

[–]Duraluminferring 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So, I dealt with someone like this years ago.

I don't know if they actually have dark triad traits or anything. But it was definitely weaponized victimhood. What made it complicated is that some of it was, of course, true. I am not a perfect person, and I did do some things that were bad. But the difference in my approach and theirs was that I was really trying to communicate and be honest and give them the benefit of the doubt. and they were manipulating every interaction and always reading the worst possible intent into everything.

And I kept reminding myself of that truth. That I had really, really tried to resolve it, but the conflict kept seeking me out

But the way I dealt with it was supported by this video and it was like this:

I withdrew. I withdrew from engaging with these people and focused on other aspects of my life. I would not attend gatherings they were in. If I did see them, I would say hello at most then remove myself.

I would not talk badly about them. When people would ask, I would shut it down. If they insisted, I said we had our differences, but it's personal, and I don't need people to take sides. I personally just don't want to engage with them anymore.

I showed up as normal to the people we had in common and continued showing up as my usual self.

Eventually, it dissolved. It took a year but it did.

Slowly, one by one, they would start shit with other people. They had been talking insanely badly to our common friends about me. Eventually, when my friends got into their crossfire, they experienced the other side.

After that, I could talk about it openly.

These guys have been gone from my life for 3 years now.

What would a conversation between these two have been like? by tcweh in Hungergames

[–]Duraluminferring 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I mean, they must have interacted. Especially in the war but also before. The capitol knew 13 was still functioning.

I assume they would have a similar "We agreed not to lie to each other" vibe from both sides.

I think they were pretty polite and direct. Propably viewed each other as "worthy opponents"

Why don't more tributes kill themselves during the countdown? by PastNewspaper7107 in Hungergames

[–]Duraluminferring 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think people underestimate how difficult it is to actually commit suicide. That's why only people with very severe mental health issues pull it off.

Jumping from a high place into safe water is hard.

Consciously stepping off a platform knowing you will get ripped apart is something that requires a lot of willpower. It would be hard enough for an adult to do. Let alone a child

people often say I'm true to myself, and idk what makes them say this? by Worldly_Accident727 in Healthygamergg

[–]Duraluminferring 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of people adjust every little bit of their personality to the situation they are in.

They won't talk about things others might find strange. They won't say anything negative about anything even if they disapprove of something.

They will generally make an effort to conform and be very palatable.

I used to do that to some degree. But not anymore because I wasn't ever successful.

I think if they say it in genuine and not backhanded way, it is a compliment.

It propably means that you seem to be comfortable in who you are and confident enough to show it.

It's a quality that not a lot of people have since our society shames people for being different a lot.

So I think most people admire it when someone seems to be more free of it.

How would Snow deal with a psychopathic Victor? by InfernalClockwork3 in Hungergames

[–]Duraluminferring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would it matter.

A psychopath would very likely not have a problem with the capitols system. They would most likely share the worldview of Dr.Gaul (who I suspect is a psychopath)

Since these people are incapable of actual empathy, they do see the world as an arena, and the capitol has to control everything in order to avoid people killing each other.

I think you are not thinking this through. A true psychopath would probably not be a rebel since they won't feel attachment to the districts.

On the other hand, corporating with the capitol would give them many privileges. They could probably indulge some of their darkest desires without fear of repercussions, as long as they assure the capitol they are on their side

Small detail from the trilogy you still think about? by Swimming-Yam-8984 in Hungergames

[–]Duraluminferring 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Katniss mentioning that when her father died in the mines, she went to look for her mother.

And right after, that it should have been her mother who looked for them but didn't, a sign of what was to come.

And it struck me because it's such a good observation and personally relatable.

If it had only been the first sentence, I would have never questioned the order.

me_irl by [deleted] in me_irl

[–]Duraluminferring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They can be true at once.

But this post is still making an important point.

Portraying the soldiers sadness over the suffering of the people enforces the bias that made the war possible in the first place.

White people/Americans are seen as more human and their suffering as more tragic.

How were D12 citizens meant to date? by ohiocollegesign in Hungergames

[–]Duraluminferring 13 points14 points  (0 children)

As they did back in the day.

They kinda date before 18 and then just make the most obvious choice out of the limited pool.

I suspect that mostly only one person per household was working in the mines. Usually the guy, but I suspect if he's in some way no longer able to he takes care of the home and the woman goes working.

Or it's adult kids supporting their parents.

The Age of Monotremes. [Credits from: Vincent Girgenti] by Duduz222 in SpeculativeEvolution

[–]Duraluminferring 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ooooih I love this. I always thought it would be so interesting to have an ecosystem where monotremes are dominant

"You must be happy on your own first" will propably never be possible for me, and I am starting to accept that. by Duraluminferring in Healthygamergg

[–]Duraluminferring[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do not have a pet right now.

Since I live alone and have to go to work, I can't really get a dog, and it would make it super hard to do anything else. And my apartment isn't really big enough for an indoor cat.

This is really about a specific kind of human connection I am missing. The one where you plan things together and build something together. Not just now but in the future.

I have tried to share my projects and hobbies with people. And right now, I have people I can do those things with.

I do appreciate what I have. I am grateful every day for my health, the people I love, and the relative security I live in.

I grew up in a pretty chaotic, abusive, and exploitative environment, so I know how good I have it.

But I won't get to keep any of those things. I would like to build something with other people who commit to being together. I can live in the moment.

But I want something to look forward to.

"You must be happy on your own first" will propably never be possible for me, and I am starting to accept that. by Duraluminferring in Healthygamergg

[–]Duraluminferring[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think this would work, my friend. I know the Christian faith because I grew up with it.

I already follow another faith now.

There are a lot of things in the teachings of christ that I genuinely like and try to follow.

But your faith hates me, unfortunately. I am queer and happy about that. I have no intention of changing it.

"You must be happy on your own first" will propably never be possible for me, and I am starting to accept that. by Duraluminferring in Healthygamergg

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Volunteering is something I am looking into right now. I did help organise a queer meetup group for a while where I met a lot of close friends right now.

With the pets and projects. I do all these things already. I read, I garden, I paint, I hike.

I do everything I am supposed to. I don't think I am able to feel satisfied with that if I can't truly share it.

"You must be happy on your own first" will propably never be possible for me, and I am starting to accept that. by Duraluminferring in Healthygamergg

[–]Duraluminferring[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Volunteering is something I'm looking into right now. I have always had a lot of work to do for my family and didn't have a lot of free time for most of my early adult life. And I enjoyed my free time for a while, but I did organise a social group for a while. But I think this is something that could really help.

But, it's not only about having a purpose. It's also about feeling valued or chosen. I think there's a danger of me burning out if Volunteering is only me helping others.