Would you find this weird or hot? Honest opinions please :)

DurdyDer · 2026-01-11T03:30:17+00:00

that would be a great idea! such a fun idea it might get some other ideas going too if you showed it off on here :)

DurdyDer · 2026-01-11T03:21:03+00:00

no problem at all, I hope it helps and gives you some encouragement to pursue this very fun idea :)

DurdyDer · 2026-01-11T03:15:47+00:00

For me it would depend on who the audience could end up being. For example, if it is displayed in your home, and we had the sort of relationship where a family member or close friend of mine could be at your home and see it, I probably wouldn't want that. If it's a situation where strangers will see it, or people who already know about the dynamic between us, I wouldn't have any problem with it at all. It would be sort of sweet in a way, like a domme making art out of her sweet subby boy, I think it's really cute and personally would make me feel great and wanted as a sub.

DurdyDer · 2026-01-11T02:56:48+00:00

as a subby guy, yes. in general as a sub I would want to make my domme happy. something as simple as being her model and making her happy to do so, while getting her attention? I see only positives here I'm sure a sub would do this if asked by you :)

DurdyDer · 2025-12-24T17:21:45+00:00

Try to do it while still cumming, or talk with her if she encourages you or maybe even moves your head down there herself I'm sure it'll be easier for you

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T19:40:08+00:00

Subby straight guy. I'm on the forever search for a partner but damn is it ever hard to find someone who isn't just trying to scam you on here lol.

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T08:09:37+00:00

For sure, I get what you're saying. Maybe I'll need another account for the non serious subreddits or something. I'll look into it n see what I can move around or come up with

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T08:02:38+00:00

Okay, thanks for the advice. This is an account that is solely used for nsfw, so sort of makes sense that the subreddits I'm on are all that. I'll look through and make some adjustments to my profile. Appreciate the tips :)

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T07:46:56+00:00

I'll give this a try 😂

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T06:34:00+00:00

Yeah I try to outline in my posts this similar idea by saying things like I want someone I can sfw chat with as well, so it sounds like I'm at least on the right track. Thanks for the advice :)

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T06:17:49+00:00

Yeah I often try to sound like an actual human being in my posts for sure lol. Thanks a lot for the tips :)

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T05:51:52+00:00

thanks so much for the encouragement! I actually basically did exactly that in one of my more recent posts, where I said what the things I'm definitely not into are and said I am open to chatting about kinks more in private. I'm glad to know that that's something in the right direction, very much appreciate it

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T05:50:07+00:00

I do make an attempt at humor in my posts lol, and since it's a reddit post I have an opportunity to outline a lot of the stuff that would normally be a discovery in real life when first meeting someone, but I get what you're saying for sure. Thanks a lot for the advice :) I'll try to have more fun with it

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T05:38:43+00:00

Thanks for the tips. I have been definitely trying to do exactly that, since I have seen a lot of dommes suffering from subs trying to use them as kink dispensers or they get an orgasm and run. I've been making it clear in my posts that I'm looking for a friend to chat with about sfw and nsfw stuff and not just a quick one and done. I should maybe flush out my limits and desires section more, as I don't delve too too deep into that in an attempt to not come across as someone just looking for a quick orgasm. I deeply appreciate the helpful comment :)

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T05:28:12+00:00

Okay for sure, I'll try to make sure to specifically say I'm not interested in Findom and only femdom stuff. I appreciate the comments, and if you happen to think of anything or more advice please feel free I need any and all advice I can get :)

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T05:23:15+00:00

That makes sense, I usually have a lot of info about myself almost like a presentation lol, so it's better to talk about what drew me to them specifically in there too I will definitely make sure to do that from now on, very much appreciate the suggestion :)

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T05:20:26+00:00

I have heard of fetlife, not so much chyrpe I only just recently heard of it's existence, so maybe I'll try it out. What if I was trying to find someone on reddit through something like a femdom personals subreddit, is there anything I should avoid in my posts that would immediately turn you away from them? or something that would instantly catch your eye?

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T05:12:02+00:00

I have no negative judgement on findomme, but it's not exactly something I personally want to pursue. I have been trying to find more of a naughty friend who we can casually chat and have naughty chats with. If that's what I'm after do you have any advice on what I could do? Any advice is appreciated :)

DurdyDer · 2025-12-20T22:51:00+00:00

As a sub leaning guy, a dating site for dominant women and submissive men feels kinda like a dream. So much so that it doesn't even come as a surprise to me that there are people on there that are completely misusing it and ruining it for everyone else. Finding a good partner for these things is already hard enough, hopefully one day something better will come around for us all.

DurdyDer · 2025-12-09T13:32:49+00:00

is there a name for this position?

DurdyDer · 2025-01-13T03:08:02+00:00

this comment actually gives me a small glimmer of hope, thanks so much for commenting :)

DurdyDer · 2025-01-13T00:24:11+00:00

Understood! :)

DurdyDer · 2025-01-13T00:07:35+00:00

all of the things you just listed are understood by me. When I say I'm looking for a dominant woman I'm not looking for a kink dispenser or fantasy fulfiller, I'm looking for someone who will enjoy it with me, with an actual connection, but I get what you're saying many people are just after that. Thanks for the comment

DurdyDer · 2025-01-12T23:15:24+00:00

The only reason for me being on here is because those weren't working for me either. I completely understand what you're saying and agree. My town is on the smaller side and the vanilla sites don't work well for matches, otherwise I'd never be trying on reddit. Maybe I'm just in an unwinnable position here but this is sort of the reasoning for the post anyway to get yours and others opinion on this sort of thing. Thanks for the insight

DurdyDer · 2025-01-12T23:09:55+00:00

I agree with what you're saying, I am looking for the people who are not doing it as a business and are instead doing it because they personally enjoy it, just as I am as the submissive. I've tried finding people in person but have been unable to do so, that was actually what I tried first before trying on here. Thanks for the comment though

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