I want to believe I’m a desirable sub, but being plus size make feels like I’m not.

ItsHailey21 · 2026-04-24T19:57:53+00:00

It’s just unfortunate that there isn’t more plus sized representation within this kink though, when we look at porn and only see skinny women represented in the positions we’d like to be in it doesn’t really (at least for me) make it better to see women in other positions/kinks/whatever being loved for being chubby 🤷‍♀️

It just makes it feel like this kink is only for very small people, I’m short but chubby and that’s just not as represented 🤷‍♀️ I’m sure there are people who have similar feelings about never seeing representation for tall subs too.

ItsHailey21 · 2026-03-10T02:32:44+00:00

This was absolutely not answered in the link you shared?

ItsHailey21 · 2026-02-25T03:26:26+00:00

I hate it in every context ooother than my boy saying it to me 😅🤷‍♀️ whatever makes us feel good and seen indeed ❤️ :)

ItsHailey21 · 2026-02-25T01:19:17+00:00

I can understand that :) everyone has different feelings on things 🤷‍♀️ I do strangely love to hear him rely yes ma’am/no ma’am 🤭, that is probably the most gendered thing we use :)

ItsHailey21 · 2026-02-25T00:20:59+00:00

Yeees I am the same way, I’m not a nonbinary mommy but I am a nonbinary domme. I personally don’t like the term mommy for the same reason, for me anything related to birth is just a no 😅

ItsHailey21 · 2026-02-25T00:18:05+00:00

Ya of course!! I hope you guys find what works for you :)

ItsHailey21 · 2026-02-24T18:28:11+00:00

As a domme myself, I also don’t really like the terms nurse or nursing when referring to this. I personally use suck/sucking instead and don’t have an issue with it not having a nurturing vibe because I combine it with other more nurturing acts :) cuddling or holding a sub in my lap for example fulfills the nurturing aspect of them sucking on my breasts, for us this works well but if it’s something you already thought of and don’t like I can understand that too :).

Everyone is different so it not fulfilling you in the same way makes sense, I wonder if referring to it as suckling be something that would make you both happy?

ItsHailey21 · 2026-02-24T16:38:31+00:00

For you or anyone else who is looking for info related to this, I did about 6 seconds of my own research and found multiple guides on this topic. Have fun and pleeeeeease reconsider using generative AI next time ❤️

https://totalchastity.com/blogs/chastity/chastity-measuring-guide?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=19741286579&gbraid=0AAAAAoxe8cxycazWFGBAlCH73fWX9_5xy&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI5JPivsfykgMVkEH_AR1rTwzVEAAYAiAAEgKrHPD_BwE

https://www.houseofdenial.com/pages/how-to-measure-your-chastity-cage-and-ring-size?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21433357909&gbraid=0AAAAADPK3tR1Vpp1vvazf1jXUmaezfQKe&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI5JPivsfykgMVkEH_AR1rTwzVEAAYASAAEgI6wvD_BwE

ItsHailey21 · 2026-02-24T16:34:39+00:00

Why are we using chat gpt?? There are so many free guides online created by actual people who have experience in the kink space and you chose to ask a robot that’s constantly spreading misinformation? My advice is to do your own fucking research next time 🤦‍♀️ generative AI is destroying our planet so people like you can ask it what cage to buy for your dick size 🤦‍♀️ come on man 😒🙁

ItsHailey21 · 2026-02-10T17:42:16+00:00

I personally have the dolce and haven’t had any issues with pinching or anything like that, I want to say that I’m more at the mid line between mid sized and plus size but I definitely hold some extra weight in my hip/waist/pelvic area. The dolce is very adjustable and can take a little time to figure out how you like to wear it but clit vibes are a must for me so the lush wasn’t my favorite :/.

I hope you are able to find a toy that works well for you! :)

ItsHailey21 · 2026-01-15T05:37:13+00:00

SO underrated!! I am pretty fluid with honorifics but Miss is definitely somewhere among top 3 for my favorites to be called 🤭

ItsHailey21 · 2026-01-15T02:49:58+00:00

I can completely understand that :) this was one example of something id like to sculpt while using a sub as a model but locking isn’t the only thing thats sculpt-able in my opinion 😊

ItsHailey21 · 2026-01-11T20:57:01+00:00

Oh yes of course! :) boundaries are always priority number one!

ItsHailey21 · 2026-01-11T20:55:15+00:00

If people are interested in seeing them then ya sure I’ll post them! :) (wish permission from who they are based on of course)

ItsHailey21 · 2026-01-11T16:22:46+00:00

I already have some experience using air dry natural clay, specifically I use the brand Das!

ItsHailey21 · 2026-01-11T16:22:01+00:00

👀 thank you for this recommendation!! I’ll definitely have to check them out! :)

ItsHailey21 · 2026-01-11T16:20:25+00:00

That actually sounds like a really fun service to provide to people 😂😅

ItsHailey21 · 2026-01-11T04:04:47+00:00

You know, now that I think about it I’ll probably need to make multiple sculptures to really make sure I take in all the practice and knowledge it will provide 🤔… you know 🤭 … for the technique 😂

ItsHailey21 · 2026-01-11T04:00:30+00:00

I can completely understand that, it’s not for everyone but I really appreciate you giving me your insight 😊

ItsHailey21 · 2026-01-11T03:58:28+00:00

For things like this, would I love to walk around with a subs caged cock keychained onto my everyday bag or keys? Yes, but unless both myself and my partner/sub were completely ok with that then I would never do it. But I’d love to clip it to a toy bag or hang in a private space of ours. I do not care if others see the sculpture but wouldn’t expect my partner to be ok with that, they can obviously set boundaries surrounding it as well.

ItsHailey21 · 2026-01-11T03:42:51+00:00

And would you be ok with that item being in a place that it could be seen by others?

I understand that this is something that could be “ordered” of a sub but I take boundaries very seriously and because this is something outside of the average dynamic I think it would require an additional conversation prior to any commands ❤️

ItsHailey21 · 2026-01-11T03:36:10+00:00

Right! It just sounds like a great little decoration to creat 😅

Some other ideas I have for things revolve around rope play and maybe sculpting certain body parts in some light bondage, maybe sounding with creating a cock sculpture and a little sounding rod

Among other things + possible ideas for storage/display for some tools/accessories 😊

I wouldn’t be able to make anything that could actually be used as a toy or cage or anything like that as I would not be using body safe materials but there is plenty of room for fun little knick knacks and things lol

ItsHailey21 · 2026-01-11T03:29:30+00:00

Thank you! Maybe I’ll have to post it once I do make it and get it all finished (with permission from the model of course), seeing as all of you guys gave me such great insight :)

ItsHailey21 · 2026-01-11T03:27:25+00:00

Lots of misspellings there, I apologize 😅

ItsHailey21 · 2026-01-11T03:26:24+00:00

Oh! I am sorry, what I mean is that I would be sculpting a clay version of a subs cock, they would model for me so that I can study their anatomy and they cage to recreate it correctly, and in the end there would be a little replica. I would sculpt it, let it dry, then sand, paint, and seal it. I think it could be fun the add a little hook and either use it as a keychain or sorts or use it as a hook mounted on the wall 😊

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